when muttering under your breath isn’t enough…
by bam
“Leave safety behind. Put your body on the line. Stand before the people you fear and speak your mind–even if your voice shakes. When you least expect it, someone may actually listen to what you have to say. Well-aimed slingshots can topple giants.” —Maggie Kuhn, social justice activist, founder of the Gray Panthers
despite the fact that i came of age in the 1960s, can remember chillingly the assassinations of JFK, and bobby kennedy, and martin luther king jr., can remember being afraid when draft numbers were called and boys i knew were whispered to be leaving for canada. despite the fact that mahatma gandhi and mother theresa were the faces i cut from the pages of magazines and taped to the inside of my spiral notebooks, i’ve not spent much time with soles to pavement, marching with a picket sign.
so i turn to maggie kuhn, the gray-haired activist and founder of the gray panthers, whom the new york times once described as “a tiny woman who wore her hair in a prim bun that gave her the look of an ideal candidate to be helped across the street by a Boy Scout.” maggie fought it all, every discrimination, oppression, and injustice she ran into. and in her 89 years, dying in april 1995, a mere two weeks after joining a picket line for striking transit workers, she ran into plenty.
it’s been a year now, since the chill january morning when i awoke in prayer, and soon found myself writhing on the couch, listening to an inaugural address that steam-engined through “rusted-out factories scattered like tombstones across the landscape of our nation,” and “students deprived of knowledge,” and “crime and gangs and drugs that have stolen too many lives,” all rising toward the crescendo that “this american carnage stops right here and stops right now.”
i was aghast that morning. and at least a hundred other mornings since. i’ve felt hollowed and gutted and stripped of hope. i’ve cringed. and heard the thump of my heart pounding in my ears, as blood pressure rose and i watched in disbelief. how, i’ve wondered time and again, have we gotten to this low?
it’s all of it: the language, the lies, the schoolyard taunts. the bullying. the lack of backbone all around. the refusal of sycophants and hangers-on to call a spade an ugly spade. it’s so much more than politics that makes me boil, it’s the degradation, the shredding of decency, the depravity. it’s needing to turn off the tv if kids are in the room, because i don’t want them hearing the words spoken by the fellow in the oval office. i don’t want them reading of porn star affairs, while a wife is home cradling her newborn son. i don’t want pussy talk. the moral compass is seizing, is spinning without north star.
all year, i’ve muttered and mumbled, and all but thrown shoes at the tv screen. i’ve composed letters to the president in my head. i’ve imagined myself plonked on the steps outside the west wing, just beneath that portico where all the hotshots come and go. i’ve wondered if i implored loud enough, would he listen? could i tell him quite exquisitely enough just how vile i’ve found this year-long unraveling of those rare few things i believe to be essential?
in my day to day, i’ve employed those tools i’ve always counted on: i’ve typed, tried to gently whisper truth. i’ve upped the everyday acts of kindness. i’ve tried to be a heart-seeking missile of empathy, looked more folks in the eye, listened more intently to their stories. prayed and prayed some more. tried to untangle discord. turned the other cheek.
i’ve no idea if the scales of justice have moved one iota, if one voice, one pair of lungs, one heart, one imagination can make a dent in the ocean churning with each toxin.
so i’m tossing my lot toward compound interest, the magnifying power of multiples: toward clogged streets of voices, toward the impact of the aerial photo, and the fine-grain, on-the-ground collective of stories heard, faces watched closely.
i’m donning my triple layer long johns, shimmying on my walking shoes, spinning the turnstile and hopping on the “el,” chicago’s answer to a polyglot on rails. i’m headed downtown tomorrow to the hordes who will be taking to the streets for a hundred thousand reasons, all falling under the rubric, “enough is enough.” it’s time to put breath to our hopes and prayers and protests. it’s time to reclaim civility and justice. time to leave behind our couches and our clickers and bring our voices to the public square. it’s time to tell our children we did not sit silently while the national conversation crumbled, and what passed for fairness, for decency, for equal rights for all, was in shambles.
i am one voice, and mine might be shaking. but one plus one plus one just might bend the arc toward that justice, that fairness, the radiant light of pure and gentle love that i will not ever stop believing in. nor working toward.
so help me God.
who taught you to use your voice, and how will you use it?
I marched in DC last January but this year I’m staying home and marching in Chicago. I’ll be joined by my son, my daughter in law, and their two daughters, aged 4 and 2. Maybe we’ll see you tomorrow!
to be joined by family, by sons and daughters and granddaughters. oh, to fill a baby’s ears with those glorious cries of faith in a better tomorrow……xoxoxox
will keep my eyes peeled for you, for all of you!
They marched last year, too. This year we’ll be marching with the Kennedy for Governor group because my son, who is a professional Democratic campaign manager, is handling Kennedy’s digital program.
I’ll have a red Trump hat on that says “MAGA”, in Russian! I got a lot of attention last year in Washington. Most people “got it”, but some thought my friend and I had stumbled into the wrong march!
Stunning…as in yes, we are daily stunned, but your way with words stuns and shines a light. Women teach me to use my voice; quiet women, strong women, vocal women, prose writing women, playwrighting women, actor women, poetry writing women, comedy writing women, sign carrying picket women, women who speak with only their eyes, listening women, politicking women, photography women, LBGTQ women. We are SO blessed to live in a generation of women who have steadily increased the volume and range of their voices. This up and coming world of baby girls, growing girls will have such a different experience of women voices to guide them. Tomorrow is just a foreshadowing of things to come. “See” you there. Tomorrow belongs us. xxoo
oh, sweetheart! why i love you: the words above. love love love your litany, your all-expansive heart. i will look for you tomorrow with every bone in my body. “women who speak only with their eyes.” so many ways of speaking. thank you for marching that glorious parade right before our eyes. love you. xoxox
This post is beyond stunning. You have expressed the sorrow and outrage that have daily tormented and punished my heart since the inauguration — as well as the hearts of thousands upon thousands of us. We are legion, and we have a voice. Thank you for lifting yours to sound the clarion call. Would that I could march beside you… xo
oh, would that you could! and you will. i will tuck you in my heart pocket, and we will ride the el, and stand amid the sea of pink hats heart to heart……xoxox
YES! YES! YES!!! to your words!!
Oh, SO many reasons to march!
Will be giving a retreat on Sat.,
and if I could I would take us all to
the March…. Since that’s not possible,
will be sending energy, support and loud cheers to all!
ah, dear joanne, you’ll be leading a march of the soul, for all those gathered in that room with you. lucky them. blessed all of us….
I shall remember all of my sisters marching in Chicago tomorrow while I march in DC this year. Last year, I sat by the bedside of my dying, Democratic, judge-of-election mother’s bedside thinking about what she would have said about who was elected and how thrilled she would have been to see all the women marching. Tomorrow’s for you, Mom!
oh, honey. i just got goosebumps. bless you. bless your mama’s soul. all of us, we’re arm in arm, mere cities apart. xoxox
Oh how I wish I could be marching with you! We are in Columbus, marching around the house with the grands. Will be praying for you and waiting to hear all about it! You got this!!!
i had a heart pocket bursting with a few of the sisters i love. you were right by where the heartbeat happens….xoxoxo
Grace and I marched last year. We have other commitments this year, but I will be making a few online political contributions while you are all marching. Donating woman.
beautiful!
I thought of you early this morning and sent thoughts of warmth and strength your way. And then (by beautiful chance) I read the following words from Terry Tempest Williams, and believe they were meant to be shared with you… “But then I pause, look around the room, find whose eyes are present, and orient myself like a compass, remembering that words are much stronger than I am. I take a deep breath and sidestep my fear and begin speaking from the place where beauty and bravery meet – within the chambers of a quivering heart.” Thank you dear Barbara, for showing us places where beauty and bravery meet…
ohhhhhhh, this is so so beautiful. i am home now, and when i close my eyes i see a kaleidoscope of colors, hear a thousand accents, chuckle at some of the signs. and commit TTW’s words to heart. i especially love “find whose eyes are present, and orient myself like a compass.” bless you, bless you. thank you. xoxox
How was the March? What you expected?
My family and I did the Chicago march. It was a gorgeous day; sunny blue cloudless sky, temperature about 45. We stood in the family section for an hour or so, then left when the march began. We all made signs and there were lots of signage all over. My 2 year old granddaughter already says “Donald Trump go away” when asked about him. (Proper political training starts early in my family!). I asked a cop as we were leaving to go to lunch if she had any how many they were assuming would be there and she said 300,000, but I think that was ambitious. I don’t know when we’ll find out how many people showed.
Personally, I feel the numbers are more important to Republican Congress members than to Trump. We want to impress on them and scare them into knowing about their implacable enemies and that we WILL turn out to vote in November!
hmmm, gammyjill’s point about the numbers being more important to congress than to the president is a smart one. regardless of the exact count, the fact that it appeared to be bigger than last year impresses the point that, as several said during speeches, “this isn’t a moment, it’s a movement.” movement or not, it’s an emphatic “this is not right, and we won’t take it” pronouncement to the powers that be.
i was moved to tears by some of the words in the speeches, and some of the signs i read in the crowds. “we are better than this,” was a theme that choked me up. seeing whole families marching, dignity etched in their faces. hearing from those most on the margins, hearing the desperate pleas for justice, for mercy. those are the things that moved me.
and, pure joy was seeing all the pewter, silver, and white hairs in pink hats. hearing snippets of conversations on the “el,” knowing there is a whole band of women who came of age in the 60s, and have lived their lives not being afraid to speak up and speak out. the crush on the “el,” as at every stop a new tidal wave of riders rushed into the train cars, realizing that each and every someone had a story to tell, and something that stirred them to step out into the cold and “pray with their feet,” as some wise soul once put it.
i know full well that just as much prayer was being prayed by those who couldn’t get to the march yesterday. from wherever you prayed or believed, i think the words are being heard. and we’re not alone.
xoxox
thank you for participating!
Please remember, we’ve never been alone. There are those in the trenches who have been at this work for a very long time, and those who are younger and felt the call early in their lives, committing significant time and talent to working for women’s rights. Unfortunately, the other side has been better organized, better at messaging, and better at voting. They have gained a lot of power and momentum, for now. However, we must never give up.
you inspire me to pieces! you’ve been at this as long as i’ve known you, which is now the better part of both our lives. i love your sentence, “please remember, we’ve never been alone.” we will get better at voting, i feel it in my bones. the most certain drumbeat of yesterday was vote, vote, vote. no one can drown out the voice of the ballot box.