the boy with my heart in his hand
by bam
no use keepin’ this to myself. that’d be stingy, wouldn’t it be?
nope, this is for sharing. hanging up on the wall. maybe i should rent out a billboard. slap up some glue. stick it there, on the side of the road.
maybe if every good soul in the world, every one that was hungry or hurting or split right in half, maybe if this swell paper heart, all zigzag and scribble and pink-upon-pink, got pulled out of all the old packs in the world, maybe then we’d not be so aching inside.
only hours ago, this appeared.
at the end of a day, at the end of a spell, when most all around, it was dreary, and grey-upon-grey.
mighty sad too.
i didn’t hear it. but gunshots rang out, not far from here. not far from where i spent the saturday typing away. police didn’t come, though, till just yesterday. knocked down the door. brought in the s.w.a.t. team.
that’s not supposed to happen. not here where the streets are cobbled in brick, and the trees, gnarled, maybe arthritic. i do think they groan, at least on blustery days, limbs centuries old, the poor hobbled trees.
they’ve seen too much now, those trees.
my little one doesn’t know. he’s not heard a word.
blessedly, somehow, he’s been nestled right by my side. sick with a bug that’s kept him at home. away from the news trucks. away from the street where the bright yellow tape squares off the sorrow.
as if it could be contained.
as if, when the big yellow bus rumbles by, packed thick with schoolkids, they wouldn’t turn to look out the windows, press noses to glass. ask questions. ask lots.
as if.
if he knew, he’d be calling me now, calling my name. “mommy,” he’d holler, from up where the sleep hasn’t yet come, “can i ask you a question?”
then he’d want to know more. want to know things i’d not want to tell him. how the man took the gun, a civil war musket, shot the boy, shot the mother. then a whole day, and 40 pages of diatribe later, he went and shot his sorry old self.
i’d not want to tell that tale to my little one. or my older one, either. but he already knows.
it’s hard to shake off, this sort of neighborhood news.
it’s one thing when a house is knocked down, or an odd-seeming one goes up in its place. it’s one thing when a coyote is spotted, or even a cougar.
but when the headline news comes from a house you pass every day. one where you walk with your mama, holding her hand, skipping along, well then, that’s a story that’s hard to take in big gulps.
so you do what you can.
you rock your sweet child. you rub his hot head. you squeeze honey on ice. you sing him a lullabye.
all the while, of course, you are thinking of a child not too far away. a child who’s gone now. through no fault of his own.
and then, there’s a knock at the door. a sweet little girl has brought home a pile of work for your child who’s sick.
so you pull out the papers. and there is the heart. the heart and the hand. the red and the scribbles in blue.
“that’s your heart, mommy.
“i’m holding it.”
that’s what he said.
and that’s what he does, all right.
the boy with my heart in his hand.
i tucked it there long, long ago.
it’s been safe ever since.
we all could use a little heart holding right in here. i know i could. this is for all of us, whoever we are, who are feeling the doldrums of winter and worry.
happy half century to a brother i love. mem, you’re mr. sunshine, all right. happy square root day. 3.3.09.xox
had to jump the clock a little tonight, as tomorrow, writing wednesday, will find me far from this keyboard, typing away down in the city. the little one’s headed back to school. God willing, he’ll be kept from the shadows that fall from the very sad house, too close to the school.
what’s brightened your heart in these blustery days?
Thank you for this reflection. I am glad that my son was in the back seat while I was taking him to his music lesson yesterday evening so he didn’t see me choke up when he said that it was good that the mother and son died together so they wouldn’t live to mourn one another. What does it mean to keep one’s children “safe”? A neighborhood with a low crime rate is the most obvious. And if someone is fortunate enough to be able to move where he or she chooses, that’s one obstacle they don’t have to think about (I’m thinking here of an African American mother who was discriminated against in trying to move an apartment in the western suburbs, was forced to move to a worse neighborhood, and her son was shot and killed in gang crossfire while the mother was in the process of filing a fair housing complaint).But there’s another dimension to “safety.” I am divorced with two children. I’m scared to remarry. There’s only one man who could possibly love my children as much as I do and that’s their father. Even while I would think twice (or a hundred times) before getting together with a convicted killer, I still value my private space — my home and my children. Maybe when the children are grown it will be different. In any event, I am skeptical of marriage — how many of us really know what a “soulmate” is before the age of 36? But my point is, where it is in my free exercise of power, I will above all do what I can to help my children realize the deepest truths about themselves — as Gibran says, they are “life longing for itself.”
It has been a long time since I felt I could keep my kids safe. Now they are out of my hands(older), so to speak, and deal with things I never imagined they would have to worry about. I am sure I will always worry if they are safe or happy or secure. As to GHS: I found and married a man who loves my children as his own, gets misty-eyed at talk of future grandchildren, and thinks of ways to make our family life better than it ever used to be. It took a while to get over being scared. I am so glad I did.
NJK: Thank you for your encouraging words. Living in fear isn’t living — it’s a slow death, really. Thanks for making me see that.
brighten someone’s heart and your own brightens (repeat ad lib)
I have to say that nothing has brightened my heart recently quite as much as reading this. What a wonderful young man you have, BAM, one who thinks of you and your heart while he’s away at school. This does give me hope that the next generation to come will be full of good people who show compassion and kindness more often than not. I am so sorry that your boy has to face such a harsh reality as what went on in your neighborhood recently. I’m sure that he was able to rely on you to help him process such a horrific situation. I’m sure it was a tough week for you, and I’d like to thank you for sharing this. It took me back to the time when I was walking to the school bus, holding hands with a little fellow, and loving every minute of it. Those times are long gone for me, but the enormity of that love never fades.