perchance, too many birds?
by bam
it’s hardly a bothersome little bird, its wings outlined in blue, slate blue, really. its bill and its legs, etched in the same confederate blue.
fitting, the civil war suggestion, for that ol’ hungry bird, a whole flock of them, actually, seems to have set off, well, a bit of a domestic squabble.
war, of course, would be going too far. it’s more a divide of two minds, the sort played out with very few words.
it unfolded something like this:
door clunks open ’round about seven o’clock this fair eve. in walks the one from the train. the one who knows a thing about architecture. who has something to say, and says it, most all of the time, when the subject is the look or the feel or the function of places carved into space, inside or out. why, heavens, they pay him to spout his learned opinions. so spout them he does, for pay or for free.
me, i just go with my gut, and my eye. always did get along, managed just fine.
um, maybe not now, though.
back to the squabble, er, story.
the little one, keen to impending drama perhaps, takes the tall one by the hand.
“wanna see the bathroom,” he asks.
“it’s covered with birds,” he happens to mention.
now, mind you, before leaping into the heat here, let me back up. this bird thing comes as no surprise. it’s not as if i just opened the cage, snuck in a chirper, let loose the whole squawking flock.
this had all been agreed upon. well, grudgingly maybe. but there was a green light. a nod. a certain shrug of the shoulders and with it a shake of the head in affirmative motions.
yes, yes, we all know that in the world of haute architecture, wallpaper ranks just above vines. or plain old ivy, maybe it is.
and we all know what ivy is in the realm of angles and planes, in the raising of walls and the shaping of rooms, houses, towers. heck, even skyscrapers.
it’s the architect’s equivalent of the schmatte, the rag that’s tied ’round one’s head to hide a bad hair day.
ivy goes up where architects blunder. it covers the goofs. frank lloyd wright, i believe, even said so.
and somehow, it seems, paper covered with colors and prints, God forbid covered with birds nibbling berries, well, it seems it’s just as godawful as old creeping vines. maybe worse.
back to the tale: so there in the nook of our stairs, where the steps take a turn, head from due east to due north, someone long, long ago, thought to tuck in a petite salle de bain. a powder room. a little spit of a joint jammed right in the corner.
when we moved here, till just at the dawn of this year, it was, well, aqua–bright aqua–down on the floor, and right ’round the bend up the start of the wall. we’d never quite managed to ditch all the pool-bottom blue. and didn’t do much with anything else in the wee tiny room.
until right after christmas, at the start of this year.
why not leap into a recession by redoing the bath?
so redo it, we did.
and then came the walls.
i, of course, being unschooled in these matters, had stumbled across a canadian place that sells quite lovely wall coverings. will morris wall coverings. quite a wall coverer, will.
only not so if you think like an architect.
which, i’ve mentioned, i don’t.
but the tall one does.
so, despite some willingness to back down from the plan, i did manage to leave will’s wall sample lying around, till one sunny day, when the tall one, he softened. said, oh, go ahead, it’ll be fine.
so i did, and, well, it isn’t.
a nice man came this morning, slathered the walls, cut strips of bird-upon-bird. i yelped i liked it so much. so did the man who slathered it on.
only he’s not an architect. he’s a wall slathering sort of a fellow.
he left hours before the little one took the tall one by the hand, said, here, come meet the birds.
all i heard next was: “oh God.”
then i heard nothing.
do you hate it, i called?
nothing.
more nothing.
finally: “i’ll get used to it.”
then dinner was served.
so was more silence.
could have cut that silence with the side of my spoon.
at moments like this i feel the full weight of the little glass prism, a chunk if ever there was, that sits on his desk. he once won what a young friend at the time referred to as “the polish surprise.”
it means to all the world that he knows of which he opines. it means to me, on occasions like this, that i’m cooked.
how can i, wobbling on the mere perch of my avian affections, stand up, in any survivable way, to the weight of that see-through chunk that, if it fell on your toes, would make you yelp, ouch, in very loud howls?
alas, i cannot.
the little one didn’t much help. says he: “i can’t go to the bathroom anymore. the birds are all watching me.”
so far, little else has been said.
but i did notice this: the bathroom door is sealed shut. i don’t think that happened by chance.
i still rather like it. in fact, i like it a lot.
i do think that’s a good thing. because i think from now till forever, the bathroom is mine. and so are the birds. mine, only mine.
it’ll be private, all right, the cage where i and the birds now trill to our hearts’ deepest content.
while outside the cage, the discontent growls like a bird-spitting cat.
or is that simply the grrrr of my own personal architect?
ahh, why not write to make yourself chuckle, especially when you’ve reasons to cry? i ask this night for most special prayers for a very dear friend and her 17-year-old. she’s a fireball, the girl, a junior in high school, who on monday spent hours and hours in surgery, as the doctors removed a malignant tumor from her liver. nearly the size of a football, but it’s gone now. the lymph nodes too are now gone. but they had traces of cancer, so a long saga begins. and it’s not the first for this family. already, there’s a boy we once prayed for here at the table, the little brother, who still fights leukemia, and who long ago lost a good half of his cerebrum, the front lobe of the brain. one family, four children, two cancers, one child bound to a life in a wheelchair.
suddenly our worries are nothing. i look to katie, my friend, the mama above, to learn grace in action, to know what it means to walk into battle unwilling to lose. she can’t lose. God willing, she won’t.
one other prayer tonight. brave jcv, whose little girl hears only with what she calls “the hearing maids,” wrote the text that became a bill that just today went before the illinois state senate’s insurance committee, in hopes that all hearing-impaired children in illinois would be afforded hearing maids of their very own. brave jcv, who doesn’t like doing so, got up and argued on behalf of her bill, said for crying out loud can we not make certain children have the means to hear birdsong, their mother’s voices, the wind rushing through trees? or words to that effect.
jcv, too, is unwilling to lose. and we salute once again the courage of mothers who won’t back down from the battlefronts where they are so needed, and so indispensable. amen to all of you, this night. and love, too. xoxo
oh my goodness, there is so much here in this meander……..first a comment on the main part. I loved the line about your little one, perhaps sensing the impending drama, taking the tall one by the hand. It reminded me of a story my husband tells of when he was a little boy. His mother was out running errands and his father had decided on his own to do a little construction/destruction work on the fireplace in the living room. A pick axe was involved. Bricks and mortar were everywhere. My husband then just a lad of 10 or so sensed the impending drama that might be played out when his mother returned. And so in an effort to delay the drama, he decided to wait on the front stoop for his mother’s return. When she appeared, he told her that she just might want to go next door to Mrs. Sullivan’s house and have a drink before going into their house. Apparently sensing her little one’s wisdom and knowing her own tall one’s tendency for starting home improvement projects, she did indeed go next door. And now for the words you wrote in blue….I will be saying prayers for your dear friend and her 17 year old daughter and their whole family. What a heatbreakingly sad thing for them to be going through. They should be planning college visits not chemo sessions. But things don’t always go as planned, do they? May your dear Katie and her family be buoyed up by the presence of God felt in the loving care and concern and prayers of all of us.
hh, you are SUCH a storyteller! i love the story. maybe if my tall one had been told to go next door for a drink the dinnertime might have been, um, smoother. ah well, i now live in a house where the bathroom door is practically duct-taped closed. thank you and bless you for the prayers for katie & co. i know they are making their way to children’s, the hospital that has cared for so many children we love….
I have to say, I like wall paper. And, your wall paper looks beautiful. But, there is nothing like a project to bring out the inevitable silent standoff, espeically if that project challenges one’s authority on a particular subject. Looking at the sunny side of all this, you now have a beautiful powder room you can call your own, a place that can be girl-y and bird-y at the same time, an incorrect architectural room, but something simply gorgeous nonetheless. And soon I’m sure, the silence will be over. Someday this may even become one of those family stories – remember the day mom had the bird wall paper put up and dad wasn’t too happy? In the meantime, what you really need is a small sign that says something about peace to those who enter near the door of that closed off room. It will be fine! Oh, my gosh! Many, many prayers for Katie and her mom. I’m sure life seems very unfair to that fine family. Please let them know that prayers, good thoughts and all kinds of hope are being sent to them. And jcv and her daughter also have my prayers. Hopefully, the legislative people will make this work very soon. It doesn’t seem like it should be difficult, but the wheels of government can turn slowly at times. Most of all, the moms you mention, the ones who don’t back down, they deserve applause and admiration for the way they advocate for their children. May they all find the courage they need to continue.
when i say my thoughtful prayers, all through the day…jcv, and the family who faces more than enough, deep peace to them, kindness from everyone they meet and white light all around them, amen.and the birds… even in the winter when there are little birds about…in the silence of the room, still you’ll remember the songs and the drama that enfolded. and might echo the dear sweetness of the little fellow and the big heartedness of the taller chap, who bent more than he cared too…thank you for the love lesson-strong enough to bend-to too many birds, the architect is a keeper.
Holding holy space for family of four and jcv, handmaiden to the hearing maids…..mamas make the world go round. Now onto the birds…..I like your birds and they are quietly blue and best of all, don’t “twitter”. Blessings on blue birds of all shapes and sizes. Perhaps they are a girl thing, which boys will never understand anyway. That is why it is called a “powder room”. 🙂
you make me laugh, lamcal. i picture powdering my nose. which i’ve never done. but maybe i need a big blue powder puff in there.so thrilled to see true here too. oh, you chair people melt me. especially at the end of this long week. xoxox
Okay first of all there can never be too many birds. (Says the woman with a gratuitous rooster painted into her fireplace, the carved wood bird of paradise hanging in a hoop from the ceiling, bird upholstery on the chairs, a peacock carved into a cabinet, and three clay birds on the mantle….all in one room). Here’s to your own personal bathroom.Second, more sorrowfully. I cannot imagine the pain a mother must feel to go through this sort of terrible misery not once but twice. Lord have mercy.Third, a bit of a correction. While I am working like blazes to get this hearing aid insurance coverage bill passed, I didn’t write it. And while I did have a feisty speech prepared for the senators, at the last minute, hours behind schedule, they shooshed the bill into a subcommittee giving me no chance to make my case–nor my daughter to help me. But the bill is still alive and still has a chance.Thank you for prayers, thank you for prayers that bolster mamas at work. Lord have mercy on all of us…..and papas too.