pull up a chair

i know this makes me something of an eeyore, but i’ve a confession to make: i love gray days. and days and weeks when all the world is stripped of excess, pared back to strictly elemental. when even a smidge of color–save. maybe, for the blood red of a clump of berries–is uncalled for, unnecessary.

i happened to mention that aloud yesterday, in the place where i type on tuesdays, and, oh my, it caused a stir. you might have thought i said something odd, perhaps, something along the lines of, “i like a little gravel in my oatmeal.”

now that gustatory revelation i could see causing a ruckus. but not the fact that the deep soot-to-heather canvas of november is balm to me.

it wraps me, the sunless-ness of these days. it is the woolen blanket of the year lifted from the basket in the corner, draping ’round my shoulders, as i settle deep into my winter chair, my thinking chair.

these are the days when i could be alone for hours on end, but not really alone, as i am out chattering to my birds and squirrel friends. i am out protecting them from cold. tossing corn. pouring water into shallow bowls. smearing peanut butter onto tree bark so they can peck it off, stave off the shivers and the rumbly tummies that i fear for them.

these are the days when the stark poetry of gnarly branch and endless sky open up to me. when all around is naked, bared, stripped of its cloak, exposed.

it is in the few fat fruits–american cranberry, rosehips–left on the bough and thorny stem, and the up-reached arms of oak and serviceberry that i find the combination lock to my imagination–and my most satisfying comfort.

it is jagged silhouette against the charcoal sky that haunts me, rustles me, seeps slowly deeply in.

i look out into tangled labyrinth of branch on branch–interrupted only by unkempt knot of leaves assembled by some squirrel intent on keeping warm–and i understand what november reveals.

we have watched, for weeks now, the slow undressing of the world beyond the sill. there is no hiding in the eleventh month, the one before it gets to be too much, and we battle back the darkness with the kindling of the lights, and the stringing of the branches with all the glitter we can gather.

it is these thirty days, or at least a good long line of them, that beckon us to come inside, to draw in to where the embers burn.

by that, of course, we don’t mean merely shuffling ’cross the mat, settling down at table’s edge.

oh, no.

we mean: do. come. in. take off your shoes. get comfy. now mill about inside your soul. breathe deep. the summer’s done. and so too the autumn, ‘cept for maybe one last spell before the bitterest of cold.

think thoughts that take some time to come to. be not in a hurry, not at all. and don’t be afraid of where the thinking trails.

it’s november. the month when all the world strips down to utter truth. and we, too, might do well to follow suit.

the logs are crackling in the grate, the afternoon is long. the kettle whistles. pages turn. understanding just might be ahead.

make the most of these hours when the light goes dim. make the most of the month when all that matters is undressed, and we are left to study only that which cannot hide.

tinglingly, i find myself coming to deep awakening as the northern world begins its slumber. how about you? what is it about november that captures you, stirs your soul, your thoughts, your deepest hungers?

every once in a rare wind, we catch that holy knowing that what just blew past us stirred us, changed us, unalterably altered the landscape, before blowing on again.

so it was the first time, four summers ago now, when i heard the voice inside the squawking box call out to all of those crowded into boston’s convention center, and to all the rest of us tuned in as well, to tear down the schisms and the walls and the barbed-wire coils that divided us into red states and blue states, and to live up to becoming the united states.

we could be better than we were, he prodded. we could cast aside the shadows and the darkness that had crept in. we could, perhaps, let in the light.

i put down whatever it was i’d been doing, thinking, being, and i paid attention.

i heard the voice of the rare hero–true definable hero–who spills with courage and conviction to utter words, carve thought, that until now no one else had been brave enough to breathe out loud.

but once the words rolled off his lips, they were unloosed, free, a part of what we breathed. if we chose to. if we inhaled and filled our lungs. let the truth sweep through and all around.

and so, for years now, i’ve been a believer in what i’d not call his brand of politics, for it’s not so much political (though by definition–“concerned with government”–it is that) but rather wholly of the spirit.

and spirit, i’d suggest, is that force of wind and water and earth and flesh and blood that, once unleashed, leaves nothing in its path quite the way it had been.

where there is darkness, there comes light. despair transforms to hope.

it is mystical, yes. indefinable, indeed. but always unmistakable. it alters terrain and sky and soul.

and so it is that these days and weeks of late have been so very very dark. we wake to news that makes us tremble. we grope for some small wisp of promise and find it plainly up and gone.

but then on a tuesday in november, we each of us trooped alone into a curtained box. we tapped a screen or–in the county of cook in illinois, at least–drew a line connecting front and tail of a broken arrow. some 120 million of us exercised a choice, 63 million chose the one who i chose too.

in a moment too deep and big to wholly grasp in one solitary breath, we took in the ka-ching of history. we felt the streaming down of tears–our own, and nearly every face we looked up to see.

as we sat glued to the unfolding news, we could only imagine the storyline unreeling through so many minds. could only barely grasp the pictureshow that until now had never allowed for a frame so filled with what was whirling through the night.

it was late, but phones rang anyway. in swept stories of merry mobs closing streets and dancing down the great boul mich in sweet chicago. in brooklyn, cars honked and mamas and papas, entwined, lifted sleeping babies out of cribs to swirl in circles. in kenya, crowded ’round a village radio, not-so-distant kin danced and sang. the immigrant’s son was lifted high, from grant park to selma to nyang’oma near the shores of lake victoria.

then the dawn came, and with it the rush of morning-after analysis that for once filled the early light and our hearts with hope.

i lay there feeling a holy rumbling deep inside.

we can be a better people, i heard the words come.

we can be a nation inspired by the man we just elected.

we can put down the barbed-wire coils and the barricades.

we can, in our own small way, be brave, be bold, be the breath of hope.

we can be mighty in the extraordinary ordinariness of our everyday.

we might not, all on our own, wave an olive branch to iran or north korea. but we might ring the bell of the old bent man next door who cares night and day for his dying wife. we might fill a plate with what we’ve stirred for dinner and bring it to his door.

we might roll down the windows of our car and shout good morning to the crossing guard, and garbage man, and just a fellow pausing at the light.

we might, next time we hear the ugly growl of gossip, speak up, say, whoa; unkind, unfair, don’t go there.

we might be our better selves so that we might become a better nation.

yes we can, he says again and again. yes we can, he called out into the night in the middle of america in a city park flooded with believers and those who needed to see it for themselves to believe.

yes we can, i thought this morning as i lay there drinking in the news. yes we can, means every blessed one of us.

every blessed one of us need be brave. we need be brave like the man who, because of nothing other than the pigment of his skin, stands at risk every time he stands before a crowd. but not once has he shied from standing there, saying what must be heard.

and so, my bare arms–and my courage–warmed by the sunlight of this bright new day as i strolled out to snatch the morning papers, i grabbed a pen and poster board, and scrawled my humble message:

yes we can means every blessed one of us, i wrote.

and because i’m practicing that very creed–being brave and somewhat unafraid–i grabbed a roll of tape, and stuck my sign onto the other signs posted in my yard.

it’s not so important that anyone stops to read it, as it was essential that i said out loud just what i meant.

the words, once unleashed, are freed. they might become a part of what we breathe. if we so choose.

but if we keep the words, the thought, locked deep inside, they stand no chance.

and neither does the world that might do well should every blessed one of us believe.

after two long nights of no sleep–i couldn’t wait to get to the voting booth one night, and i was too thrilled the next–i am doubtful that a single sentence up above is coherent, much less filled with the power or the poetry i heard in my head hours ago. i’ve long steered clear of politics here at the table, and don’t much consider this anything other than once again looking through the holy lens of how we choose to exercise the divinity that dwells within every blessed one of us….your thoughts?

she’s caught my heart, this one. she pays no mind to wind or windchill. no mind to season. or slant of sun. or the fact that all around her, the garden’s gone to sleep–shriveled, bent and altogether spent.

not this one, though. she’s bright-eyed, bold, and taking her sweet time.

she is my forget-me-not. and i won’t.

oh, no, i won’t.

she’s the last one standing in my garden. there are others fallen, faded, dangling, dozing. but she is clearly on a clock that’s all her own.

she seems emboldened by the going-down of all her once-steady companions. the dusty rose is somber now. the black-eyed susans, crumbling back to earth. the feverfew is chilled.

but not my stalwart one, uncompromised by calendar.

i’d been charmed whole weeks ago, when, as i was raking up the muck and tossing shredded leaves for winterkeeping, i’d noticed how she was shooting toward the sky, paying no mind to the fact that summer had passed her by, and she was just now considering a bloom.

i have no clue what she’d been thinking all summer long. must have been lolligagging to her own melody.

you see, i’d planted her from seed. a hundred thousand hours ago, or so it seemed, back when snowdrifts still clung to my kitchen window box, and i needed seed to sow for the promise that it holds.

i’d tucked those itty-bitty myosotis sylvatica seeds–think poppy seed, then divide by five and you approximate the size–in a little pile of potting soil, inside a little potting cup, and set it on my sill.

i’d watered, and hoped. and waited.

wasn’t long before i saw the itty-bitty bits of green. good morning world, they seemed to mumble, as they stretched their necks and arms, yawned and met the day.

in time, they grew strong and hardy enough to tuck outside. but i forgot to read the itty-bitty words on the back of the seed packet, so i planted them smack dab in the sun. which, of course, they don’t like so much, preferring where the shadows fall.

being on the shy side, demure even, they never did complain. just took their holy blessed time, i suppose. took till september till i saw much of any action.

and that’s about the time my friend-in-the-making jutted cloudward. and then, not long after that, she sent out little spurts of blue. a blue so pure it could melt you. if blue was butter, this would be that blue. meltable blue. not shocking, not cobalt, certainly not navy. mostly rather like the color of september sky, on the days when the whipped meringue of cloud is the only interruption in an endless pool of, well, forget-me-not blue.

and so, she kept it up. the later it got, the closer the earth and sun moved to the equinox, the more insistent she became.

she was hellbent, apparently, on blooming, and she was not about to let a little frost get in her way.

fact is, just the other morning, i awoke to winter’s thin-veiled hint that it was coming, not far ’round the bend. the hoary frost was stretched from limb to limb. blades of grass stood still at frozen white attention. gutters glistened with the first icy crystals of the dawn’s deep chill.

but not my forget-me-not.

by now, you’ve caught her drift, so i hardly need to tell you that she was, of course, tall and pert and going strong. all day she seemed to be whistling. look at me, she called. i can’t be felled. not by something so ephemeral as a frost that melts by 9 o’clock. in the morning, mind you.

and so, as i wobble through these days that try me, i am inspired, braced by the forget-me-not that did not forget to bloom.

so what if she wholly skipped the part of the instructions that promised she would explode in blue before the pumpkins came?

is she not all the more exotic, rare, cherished, for the fact that she alone trumpets in my sleepy garden?

she stands in glory still, bless her, reminding me at every turn, that there is holiness in minding your own rhythm, in standing on your own, in paying no mind to what the others choose to do, or how or when they do it.

she is prayer on a stem. she is defiant, and i find her humbling.

there is in my garden a stalk or two, each one ending in the bluest blue. and she is, oh, yes, my sacred blessed testament to a dream that refused to die.

i’ll not forget her. i promise that.

have you caught the whisperings of some living thing that seems to hold a necessary truth? is there a tree out your window that reminds you to stand tall against the winds? is there a mountain rising that always catches glint of sun, or a brook that meanders, takes its time and turns, but always runs toward the shore where it is freed to cross the globe? do you, like me, find firmament in the natural world? do you allow an itsy bitsy flower to speak to you, imparting wisdom you need to know?

maybe i should have noticed, clear up and down my street, far as i could see, i was the sole soldier armed with rake the other afternoon.

maybe i should have sniffed out my sisyphean traits before snapping up my old down vest, slipping on my red woolen mittens.

maybe, had i not been so deeply lost in sheddings from on high, i might have caught on earlier to the pathetic notion that every time i’d piled up a meager, humble, pitiful excuse for a heap, the wind blew.

oh, i don’t mean a little whuff of air. no mere ruffling of the fallen oaks and ginko droppings.

no, ma’am. this wind was making like the big bad wolf in every scary fairy tale. it was hungry, and it was howling. made snacks of all my measly mounds. snickered slyly, i now surmise, as i shook my stick and raked them back again.

it was in the middle of, say, my 88th attempt to get the misbehaving leaves lassoed back into their corner, that it dawned on me, just what a fool i was.

and how very often i–and maybe you and you–attempt to rake a rodeo of leaves on the blusteriest of days.

don’t we, some of us, exhibit quite a knack for doing life the upside-down-and-backwards way? aren’t we inclined, some days, to try to mow the meadow, one blade at a time. with cuticle scissors, besides.

why is it that we put ourselves through what my gramma called the wringer?

why, i wondered, do i decide it’s high time to neaten up the yard, on the very afternoon the winds blow at 50 miles per hour?

but then, while dried-up wrinkled bits of autumn’s gold and crimson garb cascaded all around me, while i raked and raked until my shoulder ached, and then my back joined in, i found to my surprise that i rather savored getting lost in the eye of that leafy swirl.

so what if i alone saw fit to exercise the rake that windy, windy day?

so happened that my place beneath the trees that howling afternoon brought me what can’t be shoved in leaf bags, or carted off in croupy trucks.

not only was the whipping of the wind whistling past my ears in melodies i might have learned to hum along.

not only was i standing there alone, chuckling, frankly, at my certified absurdity.

it dawned on me, like a branch klonked on my head, that were it not for my up-churned piles, and the evidence that scattered with every darn-blasted gust, i’d not be witness to the choreography of air in flight.

that very thought stilled me.

for years now, i’ve had a rabbi in my life who posits this as proof of God: have you ever seen the wind? he asks, thus setting up the paradigm for what he suggests is knowing the unknowable.

question two, according to the rabbi’s logic, always is: why then do you think you need to see to believe when it comes to the Holiest of Holy?

i’d barely thought the thought when i saw, quite clearly, the divinity in the honey-locust castings.

it is the very leaves themselves, quarter notes climbing the C scale, playing loopdy-loop around my thighs, my waist, my ears, that bring to life the ebbs and eddies of the wind.

i see the wind in the blowing of the leaves. i see God, then, in the messy world that won’t be raked in piles.

i see, that is, if i slow down long enough to notice the air ballet that swirls around me. i see, that is, if i don’t insist on battening down the scattered shredded bits.

maybe the point of raking, after all, that windy afternoon, was to discover the messiness of joy. or, perhaps, the joy of messiness.

maybe ours is not supposed to be a yard–or life–that’s manicured, a grassy carpet vacuumed leafless.

maybe rather, we stumble on the richest riches when we stop amid that raucous riot of the day-to-day, and recognize the one who choreographs the wind. and stirs the music in the simple raking of the fallen leaves.

it’s late, and once again i am bone tired, but unwilling to let a wednesday pass me by. do you, like me, try your hand at raking–or any other chore that must be undertaken–on the unlikeliest of days? when winds howl, and you’d have to be a fool to try to gather weightless leaves? and, despite yourself, do you sometimes stumble onto discoveries that could only be divine?

these might be called the sawdust days–dry and rough and shaved into crumbles.

some nights i fall into bed, thinking, hoping, praying maybe my tossings and turnings, the brackets in between sleep, will clear out my head and my heart and my soul.

but then i wake up in the morning, flop my feet on the floor, feel the twinge up my leg. and the one that toys with my heart. the one that weighs me down.

oh, it’s all sorts of somethings. the news from the box by the side of the bed, the one i ought to change, maybe, to mozart instead of the global markets’ collapse.

then there’s the news that comes folded on paper. the one that’s paid my paycheck all of these years. the one that brought me my truelove, and both of our boys; double bylines, we call them.

that ol’ paper brought me half the friends of my life, if i stopped and started to count. brought me nearly every adventure. brought me to the foot of heroes, known and unknown. brought me dinner tables brimming with stories. brought a skip to my heart.

brought me the nearest thing i ever felt to glory be: the miracle of seeing words typed in the near-dark or the fluorescent glow of the newsroom, tumbled onto the next morning’s headlines, onto the stoops and the bus and the train cars, the glory of feeling pulled–on a broomstick to heaven, so help me–to tell in plain words a life-changing story.

can’t tell you how many times the life that was changed was mine.

these days, though, i seem to be mourning. i’m caught, somehow, between what used to be news and how it works now. not sure if, in all of those pages, there’s a place for what i do best. or, at least what i love most of all.

so it is that i walk through these hours, sometimes aching and oftentimes wincing. i swallow back tears more often than anyone knows.

and i gather up grace, wherever it falls.

i’ve been through these kinds of days before. i’ve learned what it takes. the one sure, holy equation.

i’ve listened long and hard to wise souls all around me, ones who, too, for one reason or another, have tasted the dry crumbly dust in the mouth that comes with most kinds of grieving.

it’s these stretches of days when time ticks, but then loses its place. the tock comes, but not quite when you need it. you’re lost in your head–or is it your heart–as you strain to untangle the knots, see through the haze. time clearly is warped, and so is your sense of the surest way home.

on those kinds of days, when your feet weigh you down, and your insides do too, there’s only one sure cure to propel you into the light.

it’s grace gathering, pure and simple.

and its holiest spark is how it comes cloaked in the plainest of cloth. doesn’t come at you blinking and beeping and flashing bright lights. you just lay down a footstep and find that you’ve entered compartments of grace.

just today it came in cinnamon toast, studded with raisins, slathered with butter and drifted with mounds of cinnamon sugar. that toast shared the plate with a pear, sliced and juicy and waiting. for someone.

my little one, the one who brings me grace by the gallons these days, he was due to bound in the door any minute. i too had just stumbled in, as a matter of fact. day before, i’d plain missed the after-school hour, typing away at my faraway desk.

i could’ve skipped right over the moment, the chance, the grace in the wings. could have mad-dashed back to my desk. back to the work that’s never quite done.

but then, without folderol, without the trill of a drum, those scant few minutes–the ones when the backpack is shed and the stories spill fiercely–they invited me in.

come, come, they whispered. partake. take a moment, lift it up from this everyday altar. break bread. then, while you’re at it, they must have insisted, take it and toast it. lay it out where he’ll see it, where he’ll know in an instant: she was waiting for me. my mama, she knows how to feed me.

and so, grace descended on us, wrapped us, tight in the blanket of side-by-side comfort.

grace is balm for the soul. it feeds us in places that growl out in hunger. it moistens the parts that are parched.

grace is the prayer beads we string in a row. the rosary of life lived at attention. it’s the layer of soul tied to the divine.

and it comes unannounced most every time.

it comes, yes, in cinnamon toast. it comes, too, in the molasses light of october, the way it catches there on the last dying petal of the black-eyed susan i stubbornly keep in the vase on the sill.

it comes in the moon playing peek-a-boo behind the whipped-cream swirls of the clouds in the nightsky, a frolic so wholly delicious you stop on your way to dump out the trash, and next thing you know you’re humming along with all of the stirrings that come from the boughs and the bushes–a rhapsody you wouldn’t have heard, wouldn’t have taken in gulps, but for the something called grace that slowed you and held you. and seeped in through the cracks.

it comes, grace does, like the brush of the great palm of God, there on your brow.

be filled, it urges. take heart, it commands.

the world is more than you know, more than you see. there is, at work every hour, a layer of beauty and truth and infinite wisdom.

its name is grace.

and gather it greedily. it’s there for the hungry, the thirsty, the aching.

it’s there for the ones who believe. and it’s there for the ones who barely remember.

how does grace find you these days? do you find yourself in steep need of that holy tap on the shoulder?

‘round about dinner time the other night, the email slipped in. a note under the door, unnoticed. for a while. but then, i must have tiptoed back, glanced at the flat black box that these days brings me most of my news.

there it was, marked simply, starkly: “sad news.”

oh, no, i gulped, afraid to peek inside.

when i clicked, i read, and heard my heart break too. there’s a little girl in my little one’s second-grade class. her name is alice. and her mama had just died.

now i don’t know alice. and i’ve never met her mama. maybe i’ve seen her here or there, but she’s not someone i would’ve pointed to, said, oh, there’s alice’s lovely blessed mama.

but nonetheless i swallowed back a tear.

the news came home, crept beneath my door. told me once again what i know–what we all know–but what we lose track of when one zany day melds into the next. when what we worry about is getting dinner on the table, and children into bed. when we worry for our jobs. and mutter frazzled sounds when the crayon goes through the wash. or the gas tank’s left on empty, and we’re late for where we’re due.

i read the words and remembered once again that every day, every hour, there is a child, there are children, who lose a holy blessed mama. who, if they’re lucky, kiss her on the cheek as it drains of all its warmth, or don’t let go.

there are children, little ones, who don’t get one more bedtime to squeeze their mama’s hand, to watch her shadow slip from the bedroom, count her footsteps as they fade down the stairs.

that there was–is–a little girl, one born the very year that my little one was born, a year that seems so not-so-long ago, that there is a little girl who is absorbing the wholeness of what it means to lose her mama, well that’s a ghost that haunts me.

i carried the news back into the kitchen, where i’d been stirring. i ladled dinner onto plates. we sat, held hands and prayed. i prayed for alice, of course. i’d asked my little one all about her; he showed me her picture in his yearbook. blonde and sweet and big-eyed. i could barely grasp that never again would her mama see that face.

i carried the news with me as i climbed the stairs to tuck my boy in bed. but then, somewhere in the brushing of his baby teeth, and the inside-out pajamas that took some untwisting to set things right, i lost track.

i put my little one to bed, with prayers and kiss and tucking in of sheets. then, i walked downstairs and set about making his peanut-butter-extra-jelly (hold the grape, double the strawberry-peach preserves) for the next day’s lunch. i’d be gone at work by the time he woke, so i grabbed a pen and did what i’ve done a hundred thousand times: i penned a little love note and tucked it in his lunch bag.

that’s when i felt my heart twist and tug, and wince at once.

i thought of little alice, whose mama wouldn’t write another note. i wanted with all my heart to pack a lunch for alice and stuff it fat with love notes. i wanted to sit by her bedside and be her mama, whenever she needed one. whenever she cried out. i wanted to waft into the room and be the mama she cried out for.

i sometimes wish i could sop up all the hurt that makes this world so deeply broken.

instead i started to tick off the many moments in my little one’s life that no one else might notice if i were gone. but the moments when he alone would feel the gaping hole, the absence, would feel the skip of his mama’s heartbeat.

love notes tucked in lunches, i realized, are only the start.

there is the way we say our prayers. the way we always start and end, and wind around the middle in a particular order, with a particular rhythm and a certain sing-song way we end it every time.

there’s the way i rub the lotion on his cheeks, in little circles, ears to nose, each morning, and oh-so-gently tug the brush–the pink brush by the way, the only one whose bristles do the job–through his ringlet curls.

there’s the way he likes his cereal, a way he needn’t ever tell me, because i’m the one who’s almost always there to pour it out. and i would know–as would he–how upside-down it would start the day if the raisin bran was on the bottom and the cheerios, dumped on top. because, well, that’s not the way it’s ever done.

mothers and children–and all of those whose lives are intertwined–flow seamlessly through much of time. except of course for the fits and starts and assorted flare-ups in, say, the target check-out line, when we lose our place and our footing (and a good teaspoon of patience, too) and must shake it off and find our groove again.

but often, and surely when it counts, we begin and end each other’s thoughts and whims, with barely an instruction. it is love, mostly, that fills in all the blanks. we so know each other’s hearts, we’ve memorized the lines unspoken.

it all began, i’m certain, when i first brought my little one to my breast. and there began between the two of us a poetry, a rhythm and a rhyme that would be unbroken through the years. he would know, before words ever came to him, that in my arms he rocked a certain way. and in the sounds from my throat a soothing came that came from nowhere else.

i ache for all the children, all around the world, who wake up today, go to sleep tonight, without the mama they have come to count on.

i ache, deeply, for alice, who came back to school today, and who i’m told spoke not a word all day.

i wish, i pray, that in our deepest heartbeat we could pump out double-time for the children among us who cry themselves to sleep. for the children whose dreams are shattered and their daytimes too.

i pray with all my might that the Great God of Unending Arms, and Hand That Won’t Let Go, embraces all those children, sweeps away their ache, brushes back their tears.

i pray with all my might that the Great God of Laughter fills their hearts and throats again.

and in the meantime, i wish with all my might that i could pen a love note and tuck it there in alice’s lunch bag.

just the way i do for the little one who is mine, so deeply sweetly mine.

are you sometimes struck by news that brushes close to home? does it jostle you from complacency, remind you just how many little moments we forget are so priceless? what are the little things your loved ones would miss, if you slipped away from their everyday? please say a prayer for alice, and her fourth-grade brother. and everyone who loves them, the children now without a mother….
p.s. sorry this is late again. that ol’ new job barely gives me time to breathe, let alone tap out a meander. but i’ll be damned if i give up the one chance to let my fingers unspool what flows from my heart.

i hung them one by one.

once, a long time ago in my old, old apartment, they hung on the wall above the place where i sometimes typed late at night. i collected them, one by one, on a long slow criss-crossing of the city and the country, stopping always at all the poor spots. (and by that i mean poor as in: farmer’s wife boiled up a pot of potato skins and called it supper; babies carrying babies down the dirt-pocked lane, no shirts on their backs against the noonday sun; old man hunkered down beside his garbage can, burning trash for so-called heat on a cold winter’s night on the streets below the city.)

all my grown-up years, and long before that, i’ve been drawn to stories and people and places that might not otherwise make it to the map. except i couldn’t keep away. time and again, i went looking, in soup kitchens and out to reservations. in tenements where the halls were pitch black and, excuse me, smelled like pee. in rooms so loosely laced together the wind blew through, flickered a candle’s flame. to the maw of a cardboard box that, night after night, was home to a fellow who went by the name of dirtman.

each time i stopped, stayed long enough to soak up the story, i carried home, always, a black-and-white, an image in my mind, but one on glossy paper, too.

they were, each 8-by-11, or 11-by-14, the raw stuff of why i did what i did. why i boarded planes, all alone. why i drove to corners of the city where a smart girl–a safe girl–would not go alone.

back then, i burned the flame and believed with all my heart. it was a holy calling, i was certain, to tell the tales in words that wouldn’t dim. not inside my head, for certain, and maybe not even in the newspaper that one day would yellow, some day would surely flake.

it was my inspiration wall, the hodge-podge of pictures whispering to me, every time i passed: this is why you do what you do.

do not let them be forgotten. do not let their stories fade away. do not turn your back. do not, do not.

every time i moved, i packed them up, and found another wall. i need no prize. no medal or honor.

i have my wall, that’s all i need.

in this old house, they’d not found a wall. even though i tried. instead of hanging them, one by one, they lay dusty on a shelf downstairs.

turns out, i think i found a wall.

you see, the place i work, well, they called me back to the big tall tower. told me just the other week that my 15 years at home is over now. since my firstborn was a baby, i’ve worked right here, where i could hear my boys, no matter what i typed, no matter who i talked to on the telephone. there were times it got messy. babies cried and fussed, no matter who was on the line. dinner burned while i typed one last sentence. it got to be, that’s just the way it was. i only knew how to be a mother who worked right from the nest. i forgot how to be a writer in a room of so-called grownups.

but now, not only home will be my writer’s roost. at least one day of my three-day work week, i now need to take a train. a spare cubicle now sits, my name pasted onto paper, hung on the half-wall that now is mine.

in case you’re not here in town, you might not know, but the newspaper where i’ve worked for the last 26 years, it’s not the same. it’s, um, bright and bold. some say it makes them dizzy. all i can say is, well, please don’t give up.

and since i’m now tucked away in the little square far away from where i’d rather be, and since i’m rather at a loss over the lack of room these days for storytelling, it dawned on me quite suddenly that, more than ever, my wall needs to rise again.

i was down in the basement just this morning, dusting off the stacks of pictures, each one tucked in a clear plastic frame. it’s nothing fancy, nor should it be.

but it speaks volumes to me, and it might just whisper to someone who wanders by. it reminds me, and maybe a passerby, that there’s only one good reason to get out of bed with a notebook and a pen in hand:

there are stories to be told, and places on the map that mustn’t be overlooked. do not forget the forgotten. do not turn away from the ones with nowhere else to turn.

it is inspiration i unearthed. and a holy flame i won’t blow out.

the darkness threatens, but my black-and-whites will light my way.

so help me, God.

how do you pin up inspiration in your house, or in your life? what is it that stokes your flame, and reminds you, day after day, just why it is you’re here on earth?
p.s. sorry this meander is rather late today. along with a new place to type, there’s a whole lot more typing jammed in every day. and while i’m struggling to adjust, my whole world feels topsy-turvy,

on a good day, the end begins by the time the little hand kisses the 9.

all’s done, on a good day, that needs to be done.

that’s the sweet hour when the sigh of my soul finally escapes. when the fat puffy cloud over my house, if my house was the star of a comic book, or a strip in the funny papers, that’s when the letters, emphatically strung into a word in the comic-book cloud hovering over my house, would spell out, quite bluntly, a short simple PHEW!

that’s the sound of my deep inner someone hanging it up, when at last the long mighty march through the day is a wrap, packed up on a shelf, over and out. al dente, as long as we’re at it.

the little one, on a good day, would be upstairs in his bed (at least till the first or second or third question pops in his head, and he tiptoes down, slithers ‘round corners, makes like a mouse and scares the behoozies outa me and the page i’m now ripping from fright). the dishes, they’d be tucked on the rack, their smeared little bits drying, waiting for rushes of hot sudsy water.

my long list, on a good day, is, by 9 in the nighttime, as X’d and checked and crossed off as it ever will be.

till the morning comes, and it all begins all over again.

on a good day.

on a not-so-good day, a day like the ones that’ve been strung together of late, knots on a rope dangling there in the seas, while the ship tosses and the winds whip and the lightning cracks through the black of the sky, on a not-so-good day, the end’s nowhere in sight.

might not be, even at the bewitchingest hour, when the little hand bangs into the 10, when the news squawks from the box, when all good children belong in their beds, and dreams should be well underway by that two-digit hour.

these days, though, seems the only way to get it all done, all the things that simply must be attended to, muscled, corralled into order, is to stretch the day. let it leak into the night. let one day ooze into another. pay no mind to midnight, you late-night marauder.

then, maybe, by the time your head flops on the pillow, by the time your bones groan as they stretch east to west, north to south, on a plane as flat as kansas when the wheat’s been mowed, maybe you’ll have just a wee slip of a sense that your day inched close to edge, to the place where what needed to be done, finally was. or at least came close enough to let you fall into slumber, relatively guilt-rinsed.

that’s the sort of day it was today.

my list was long, and i started early, and still i did not get to where i needed to be. the light high on the hill still shines, and i’m miles away.

been that way, day after day of late.

new job, plus a few assorted oddities, making me feel like a cook in the kitchen with pots and pans being tossed at my head. orders barked. someone wants toast. hold the butter. but the bread wasn’t stocked on the shelf. so you head out to the store, and on the way home, you fall in a puddle. bread’s all soggy, so you head back again. by then, customer’s mad, stormed out. so when you serve up the toast, at last, all un-buttered and sprinkled with cinnamon sugar, the table, it’s empty. ‘cept for a crumpled-up napkin, and not a penny in change.

that’s what it feels like.

so all the things that i love, the ones that bring me pure joy–catching up on the day with my boys after school, feeding the birds, plucking the heads off my blooms once they’re fallen–all those things, i barely can do any more. oh, i do ‘em all right. but condensed, hurried, panting for breath.

this world is like that too, too much, and too often besides. i think, every day, of the legions of mamas who never do have the chance to go slow. who, day after day, rush and hurry and juggle and spin on their heels.

i worry. ‘bout a world that mostly doesn’t slow down. ‘bout the buzzes and beeps and the phones that would ring all through the night if not for the holy blessed button that clicks it all off.

i worry about a world that has no more time to sit and to pore over the news of the day. has no time to wait for the schoolbus. or to be at the door when the backpacks come tumbling in.

i worry ‘bout little hands left to cut apples all on their own. and stories that don’t get told, and worries bottled inside till the nighttime comes, and then mama’s still working, so please rush up to bed now, it’s late. you need your sleep, and i need to keep working. so goes the refrain.

i worry when 9 ‘clock comes, and then 10, and still it’s not over.

a soul can’t go for hours and hours on vapors and promise.

a soul, and the heart that goes with it, needs down time. the blessed interlude between full-throttle day, and restless tossing and turning.

when the day runs out of hours, so too does the light that burns deep inside.

i’ve not got the answer. only the questions.

what kindles the light, when the day runs out of its hours? where comes the poetry, when all we can hear is the panting of a day, a day racing toward a finish that never quite comes?

soon as it’s still, i’ll listen for answers. i know they come, soon as it’s quiet.

dear people, i had every intention, really i did, of telling a fine story, one i collected for work but couldn’t quite tell. i’ll try, one of these days here, to unspool it. but in the meantime, tell me, do you have day after day that runs out of hours? where do you find your solace, your stillness? i found mine, at least for a few hours, in synagogue just yesterday. these are the days of awe, and awe is just what i need, what i hunger for….how ‘bout you?