the darkness is coming…don’t be afraid.
it’s dark now, the cloak of night not yet lifted on the world out my windows. each pane of glass, at this early dark hour, is a mirror. as i shuffle about the kitchen, cranking up heat, scooping out coffee beans, the night sky grows faintly milkier. the ink of the sky drains away, tucked in the bottle till it’s needed again.
this weekend, the night comes sooner. the darkness tiptoes in. the lights will burn sooner. i say, be not afraid.
the darkness for me — and maybe for you — is wonder. is blessed. is there where the burrowing, and the deepening begin. i’m not afraid of the dark. i strike a match, haul out the candles, maybe even the logs for the fire. i say, bring it on. bring me the folds of introspective depth to sink into. give me unbroken prairies of quietude. let me finish a thought, and follow that one with another, a game of thoughtful pied piper, wending and winding through the tall grass of soulful contemplation.
because i used to haunt the sorts of bookstores that ought to post “no trespassing” signs for those who sneeze at the first whiff of dust, i have tucked in my bookshelves all sorts of tomes — some skinny, some fat — with provenance unknown. one of those, perhaps the skinniest i own, is cooper edens’ if you’re afraid of the dark, remember the night rainbow. cooper edens, i picture with daisies strewn in his hair, a true berkeley hippie of the hallucination age. among the gentlest spirits that ever there was.
i’ve read that his parents, bless them, encouraged day dreaming. imagine that. when he was in first grade, the teacher told cooper’s parents that cooper shouldn’t come back to class because he was “too creative.” cooper’s mother, someone who should be pinned with a very gold star, replied, curtly: “good!” and kept her daydreamer home. she fueled him with crayons and cardboard, and perhaps the sorts of iconoclastic coloring books where you’re told to draw outside the lines. soon, dear cooper, was channeling monet and van gogh.
but now i’ve daydreamed my way into the cooper edens story, and i meant to be thinking about darkness.
befriend the darkness is the point where i’m headed. when the clocks take their back-leap deep in the night on sunday, when three becomes two, and the clocks demand the arduous catching up of the hands big and little, consider the ways you might savor the dark side of the year.
learn a thing or two about stars; pick one by name and discover its story. trace it along the night sky.
lug a pile of logs into your house. tuck them in the hollow that’s made just for them. alternately, gather the wax of the honeybees, the wax rolled into columns called candles. strike a match, watch the flame play flame games against the darkness. turn off all lightbulbs. sit for an hour in candlelight. pay attention to the sacramental effect, how the simple shadow cast by the flickering flame makes you see what you’d otherwise miss, makes you relish the beauty of time and space, allows you to wrap yourself in the blessing of being alive.
bundle up and step outside for a moon walk, as i’ve written before, it’s the ancient and elemental lesson in addition and subtraction, the waxing and waning of the runner-up night light. catch the night shadows as they play upon the lawn, the inside-out of the shadows of daylight.
once you step back inside and shake off the chill of the night, burrow into a nook or a fat stuffed armchair, a place where you like to read and think and look out a window. maybe it’s right by that fire, still crackling, still ablaze in the dance of the flame.
consider this passage from one of the books i’ve been reading this week, a book by the great henry beston, one of the finest poets and chroniclers of nature that ever there was. he wrote from the woods of maine, at the turn of the last century, as the 1800s rolled into the twentieth century, back when candles and logs and one-room schoolhouses were ordinary everyday notions.
wrote henry, henry who has consoled me like a deep and wise and most trusted friend this week at the cusp of the darkness:
“As I watch the fire burning in the great fireplace on a first chilly night, I do not wonder that fire and the mystery of fire have played so important a part in the great religions of [hu]mankind. The power to kindle that ever-hungry flame must have been the first great achievement of man on his way to fuller being; with fire he both metaphorically and in all reality could see ahead in the dark….To me, [fire] is the element which is always a part of the mystery and beauty of the world. The earth may be shabbily and wickedly broken, the river and the air befouled, but the living flame, rising from whatever source, is beauty from its first appearance and as beauty lives. There is no compromise with flame, and not without reason has it served us as a symbol of that unknown to whose ultimate mystery we can but lift our uncertain hands.”Henry Beston, Northern Farm
the darkness is coming. don’t be afraid.
how will you embrace the dark hours?
and, happy blessed all saints day and all souls, and that hallowed eve of jack-o-lanterns and candy scavengers who won’t be scavenging so much this year…..xoxo
“the ink of the sky drains away, tucked in the bottle till it’s needed again.” Love this.
Our granddaughter, Maddie, is the only child I’ve known who is not afraid of the dark. Even as a littlekins, she loved to turn off all the lights in her room to play camping, sometimes turning on a little gizmo she had which shined little stars on the ceiling. When I’d say, “Maddie, it’s DARK!” she’d whisper, “Be BRAVE for me!” ❤ Like you, I love the darkness, more in the morning than in the evening. xoxo
oh, double drat! just posted a reply, or tried, and it blew up. anyway, i will try again! (if only i’d thought to save it!!)
oh, dear gracious, your little maddie just knocked me off my chair!!! her wisdom, “be BRAVE for me!” just ricocheted straight to my heart and took my breath away, and is now my mantra for the day, the week, the season, the forever. how can such tiny little people hold such immensities of wisdom?!?!? of heart?!?!? of truth!?!?
thank you for bringing your blessed maddie here to the table, and leaving us all in her glory.
love you to the moon. xoxox of course…..
So lovely. I look forward so much to reading you every Friday morning.
bless you, and thank you.
to the moon and back, dear one …
Cooper Edens was blessed to have such a wise momma! I’m sorry to say that I am not familiar with his work. He sounds wonderful, and I intend to look him up. I love Henry Beston. And I adore you! xo
oh, heavens to betsy! i found a hardbound copy of afraid of the dark listed for $53 on a used book site, so i sure am glad i’ve got my pages-falling-out old, old copy. Caretakers of Wonder is the other one that makes me swoon. oh my. you will do cartwheels.
adore you and henry and cooper, too. all caretakers of wonder, indeed. xoxox