make it stop. please, make it stop.
by bam
my voice is only one whisper. my fingers, just one at a time, tap along the rows of these keys without sound. but the lump in my throat is ready to burst. and my heart is too.
stop the ugliness, world. stop the hate. stop the made-up lies and the mudslinging. tear yourself away from the impulse to tromp on the neck of the one you perceive as your enemy.
doesn’t need to be this way. doesn’t need to be a national throw-em-to-the-lions.
the world doesn’t need to wake up every morning searching for the ugliest route to the trail head.
there are moments, plenty of ’em, when i picture myself marching to the steps of the u.s. capitol, unfurling a parchment, invoking a code of radical decency, insisting the ugliness cease and cease now. oh, what i’d give to back some of these fools into a corner, to poke em on the chest, look em in the eye, and ask if really, really, they want to expend their God-given breath on slicing and dicing each other to bits, trampling truth, teaching children the ways of the playground bully.
i got sick of bullies back in first grade. never outgrew my distaste.
all these months i’ve retreated deeper and deeper into a realm where the rules of the world are not the ones with discernible weight. i dwell much of the time in a monastery of my own making. it’s quieter there. and gentler. i take time for the monarch butterfly, leave out saucers of sugar water, scatter seeds for the milkweed that makes for a butterfly landing pad.
in the quietude i wrap all around me, the rules i live by are the ones of an otherworldly iconoclast. the code is the one inscribed by a God who asks only one thing: love without end. love as you would be loved, love every last inch and ounce of creation. behold the wonder. of each other. of the monarch. and the dawn. and every last shimmering light in the night sky.
and, sometimes, to love means to put breath to the words that are stuck in your throat. to march to the capitol steps, to reach for the microphone, to try with every ounce of your might to shake sense into the senseless. the ones dizzy with power, or the pursuit thereof. it’s a sickness and it needs to stop. it’s as contagious, it seems — and as deadly — as this invisible virus, the plague that’s upon us. maybe more so. maybe it’s worse.
because once upon a time i was a nurse, because i’ve stood at the side of a hospital bed in the hours just before a last breath was drawn, i know something of deathbed confessions. i know how, at last, the veils of the everyday are pulled away, and what’s left is the essence. holy essence. how the sins and the glories float to the surface. how one last sweep of the soul, of a lifetime, is what carries us off to whatever comes next.
our time here is fleeting. do the ones breathing fire and lies, do they really want to fritter away the hours allotted? is that churn in their belly the only way they know to crawl from their beds? is bitter the singular taste of the day?
the choice is quite simple: make of your life an instrument of peace, of goodness, of attainable holiness. or let it extinguish in smoke and in flames, in pride and deceit, in ugliness out-of-control.
we make our choice minute by minute, day after day.
what will you choose, world, what will you choose?
if you were writing a code of goodness, decency, and gentle kindness for the world, what would you inscribe? what would constitute breaking the law?
Amen.
❤
My code of conduct would be: Be Polite. I have different political viewpoints than several relatives, but I would never call them names. I’ve been appalled by the name calling on social media – by people who share the same views I do, by and large. Attack the viewpoint, not the viewer.
I watched a webinar this week hosted by Old St. Pat’s. The presenter was Fr. Bryan Massingale, a Jesuit professor at Fordham. He’s a black man. Inspired by his talk, I was able to address a Facebook post shared by the matriarch of John’s family – his beloved cousin. I told her that there was no way I could vote for Trump and explained why calmly and respectfully in response to the specific issue in her post. It was hard to do, but I felt compelled to respond.
God bless you! That takes a brand of courage we all need to build. And maybe because your fine-grained civil reply is so rare, it finds a path in that would otherwise be blocked.
Oh bam, this. These words. You read my mind, read my heart. My cloister here in my quiet house, my peaceful life, my little town, is what I can control. It’s a haven of my own design. On a daily basis, I, like you, am stymied by the arrogant, power hungry petulance of such a large percentage of our nation. I have very well-respected, kind, intelligent and devout friends and family, who I dearly love, who show such a mean and angry side as they weekly, sometimes daily, repost articles on social media that are so full of fear-mongering and hatred. One quick Google search shows me that these photos and quotes that they persist in exponentially sharing are manipulated, doctored, cropped dishonestly, and are intentionally misleading. For months now, I’ve made a point to respond to those suspicious, incendiary lies, being passed on as truths, by politely suggesting that they investigate the accuracy of what they’ve sent into the social media universe, and I always include a link to my findings, verifying the deception. Every single time, that misleading post is taken down without a word, like it had never existed. Never has one of these friends spend a second of effort creating a post admitting that what they’d recently shared was shared in error. It’s just fine. And the six hundred friends who saw that disproven post, and possibly shared it to their hundreds of friends, have no idea that it was misinformation. It’s deceitful, small-minded, contentious and lazy, to just be an instrument used to further falsehoods and create more division and less peace.
I was watching an interview last month with Stephen Colbert and Jon Stewart. Stephen asked Jon about his thoughts on the two presidential candidates. His answer resonated deep in my heart, and stayed in my mind to this day. He said that though he wasn’t fond of Biden’s folksy “Uncle Joe” persona, he really felt strongly that Joe Biden, having gone through personal tragedies in his life, is equipped with the depth of compassion needed to reunite our country. Jon’s quote was something like “what our country needs now is a leader with a sense of humility.” That simple concept made such sense to me. The narcissistic arrogance that we’ve endured to be replaced with a sense of humility would be a balm to our country’s soul. Of course, the work needing to be done to somehow bridge the chasm dividing our two societal factions will be an almost impossible task. But striving for peace, clinging to hope, and acting with humility…that’s what sirs my heart. Blessings to you, my friend. Hang in there, dear heart.
beautiful, beautiful, BB. i love that humility looms large in your equation, as it so does in mine. it’s non-negotiably necessary. humility is the birthplace of ultimate bigness.
sending love, and comfort in knowing your kind and kindred spirit is out there. carry on. xoxoxox
Thanks for putting words to what I’ve been stymied to say. My code would be: Do justice. Be merciful. Be kind. Against the law: cruelty. I’ve discovered that mask wearing has made me less conscious of the little kindnesses. I’ve been so focused on staying away from people that I forgotten the little things that matter. So now when I grocery shop, I try to speak at least one kindness to someone I see and to not let the mask stop the usual banter with the cashier. Someone held the door for me at the post office this week, and it made such a difference. Little kindnesses. No meanness.
oh, honey!!! first, i love “Be merciful.” sooooo much weight carried in those two words. mercy is unlike any other saintliness, and aren’t we starving for it as a people.
and then your keen observation on the ways the masks can obscure the little kindnesses. i love your grocery store mantra. and, in these days when the grocery store is the one recurring refrain and shared stomping ground, i love that that’s where you set your stage for kindness.
isn’t it sad that we need to spell out a rule of “no meanness.” alas, though, we do….
giant love. xoxoxo
“and ask if really, really, they want to expend their God-given breath on slicing and dicing each other to bits, trampling truth, teaching children the ways of the playground bully.”
Yeah, really.
And I, too, see a nationwide need for humility, the antidote – vaccine if you will – to all of this vitriol, narcissism and evil. However, too often humility is viewed as weak, as soft, as spineless. So I would add in “strength” – humility with strength. And hope.
and i would say, amen.
quite a code of conduct we’re compiling here….xoxox
For as long as I can remember, the common sense adage to “treat others as you would like to be treated” has guided my value system. Those simple words seem to have evaporated the past few years. I also try to “love my neighbor as yourself.” Unfortunately, too many people feel emboldened by the actions of the bully in chief. I’m one quiet and horrified person. I’m never sure if my constant attempts at kindness to others moves forward or not. But it’s what I do as I hope and pray that the people of our country can somehow learn to live with each other and with each other’s opinions peacefully.
it’s all any of us quiet but horrified souls can do! and bless you for putting it forward again and again and again……
When the world is loud, I grow more quiet and contemplative. I spend time in our prairie garden, work on my needlework, stay in touch with those I love, and absorb wisdom from quotes such as this cherished one:
You can’t be suspicious of a tree, or accuse a bird or a squirrel of subversion or challenge the ideology of a violet. ~Hal Borlund
I’ll be casting my vote for humility with strength in the upcoming election. xx
Ah, blessed breath from the life-giving one.
Your library of quotes astound and astonish and take my breath away every time.
Casting H-with-Strength vote right alongside you…
Xox
My code would start something like this: Remember when you’ve been up against it (as most of us have been) and extend to someone in that situation the consideration you would’ve appreciated in that moment. People who beg for help are common in the neighborhoods I tend to inhabit. At my post office, they’re regulars outside the door. When I head out – if I have it – I’ll tuck a dollar bill or two in my pocket for when I meet someone in that situation. If I don’t have cash handy, I’ll still acknowledge the person with whom I cross paths (with a hand patting my heart in these masked times). The post office posse understands that I don’t always have something to spare, and these guys routinely tell me it’s all right, because I notice and greet them. Remind us of our common humanity. It doesn’t cost much.
ah, my breath is taken away to find you here, my beloved CRD, with your voluminous heart and eternal wisdoms. i love the gesture of hand over heart, and will carry it forward, far beyond these surreal COVID times. it’s sacramental in the everyday.
love you much. xox
I’m so with you, Barb!
Beautiful – thank you.
May it all continue to unfold in this direction!
i melt finding you here. i always do. xoxoxox