the magic of the tilo tree: the tree that soaks up sunshine and lives and breathes to soothe
for weeks now, through much of spring and into these early days of summer, i’ve been on high alert, awaiting the precise moment when a certain linden tree growing in a convent garden would at last decide it’s time. time to unfurl its yearly offering and erupt in honey-scented blossom.
i’d never been so blessed before, so blessed to be on linden-flower standby, so blessed to have a dear nun dialing my telephone, leaving dispatches from the nunnery, a trail of progress reports from the distal end of one tree’s branches. my tree-spotting sister friend would call every couple weeks, leave messages like this one: “it’s sister rita, calling about the linden tree. as soon as our tree wants to give us its delightful blossoms, i’ll call you.”
and then, a week or so later: “i just want you to know the little buds are finally on the tree. i’ll let you know when they open.”
it is a most delightful interlude, i tell you, to find yourself awash in messages about the blooming of a tree, a tree a friend of yours is counting on to heal her hurting ways, a tree that through the ages has long been believed to store the warming rays of sunshine in its star-burst blossoms. a tree that lives and breathes, quite purely, to soothe us through and through.
as promised, sister rita wasted not a minute in the spreading of the long-awaited news. she called first thing the other morning. before the clock struck eight. she was on the line bright and early telling me the time had come. the linden tree was at last in bloom, and i needed to come soon, before the sacred blossoms tumbled to the ground, and we’d have to wait another year. the linden tree this year was late, deep into june, nearly july, before it became a froth of honey-dappled sweetness.
i’d be there by two o’clock, i promised. i’d rearrange the day. i’d not let the afternoon’s shadow stretch long across the garden.
the story of the linden tree, and its blessed blossom, traces back to the not-so-long-ago day in april when a dear friend and i ambled through a magic hedge. my friend has cancer, nasty cancer, and we were soaking up the day in the deepest prayerful way. as we ambled through the hedge on that april afternoon and came around a bend, we stumbled into yet another old friend of mine, one who knows his trees. my one friend’s eyes widened as she spied a broad-limbed specimen of tree, one whose branches stretched heavenward and cradled a warbling little bird besides.
upon introduction, both friends began to speak in spanish, words tumbling more and more feverishly. all i could make out was something about a mama, and something called “tilo.” turned out my friend saw the tree and suddenly remembered the one in her backyard when she was a little girl. it was a linden tree, and when she was afraid, or needed calming, her mama gathered up its blossoms and made her little girl a tea. the tea she called “tilo,” linden flower tea, an ancient balm for soothing nerves, and sweating out a fever. my friend these days is sometimes in need of soothing, deep-down soothing, and though her mama’s gone, the branches of the linden tree held out the hope of something she had thought she’d lost.
i’ll not forget her face and how it softened, nearly glowed, as she looked up at that tree, as i saw the pages of her life’s picturebook turn back in time, remembering her mama and the tea that soothed whatever ailed her.
turned out the very next morning — at the very hour my friend was once again submitting to a scan that would peer inside and chart the path of her stubborn cancer — i was visiting an old friend, an icon-painter friend, who flung open the door of her pantry, and asked if i’d like a cup of linden flower tea. now, i tell you, i’d not heard of linden flower tea till just the day before, and suddenly, within the circle of a single day, i’d bumped into it for the second time. i stood there slack-jawed, and stuttered through the story of how my ailing friend had longed for linden flower tea, but had no clue where she might find it, without her mama here to gather up its blooms, and steep the brew just the way she’d always brewed it.
because my icon-painter friend is the sort who knows no end to generosity, the box of linden flower tea was off the shelf and in my hands before i stumbled to the story’s end. i broke out in goosebumps as i glanced at the clock, and realized all this was happening precisely at the moment that the body scan began. i tapped out a message to my friend to say, guess what, i found linden flower tea, and i’m bringing it your way. and then my icon-painter friend told me that, even better than the box of pre-packaged tea, imported from turkey, she knew a convent not too far away where a linden tree spread its branches, and where she knew the nun who each year gathered up its blooms. my icon-painter friend promised me she’d put me and the nun in touch. and so she did (although she placed the call from a 400-year-old silo on a hillside in italy, where she’s gone to spend the summer painting) and that’s how sister rita and i joined in linden-flower watch, keeping vigil on bud to bloom to starburst.
in yet another wrinkle to the story, my friend with cancer hadn’t looked at her phone once she finished the scan that day, the last of april. instead she stopped by the office of a friend, and feeling achy in the belly, told the friend she had to leave to somehow, somewhere in this city, find herself a cup of tilo, the linden-flower tea for which she so suddenly deeply thirsted. it wasn’t too many minutes after that that she finally glanced at her phone and saw the message saying i had a miraculously stumbled upon a box of that very tilo and was driving it to her house.
within the hour, as we stumbled into each other’s arms on the sidewalk in front of her house, i told my friend about sister rita and the linden tree. enchanted, my friend and i have spent the last many weeks awaiting the tilo bloom. we’d planned to amble there together to gather up the blossoms, but the day sister rita called was not such a good day for my friend, so i scurried along alone. and there i met the radiant sister rita, who swiftly grabbed a crook-necked cane and thrust it into the branches thick with bloom. coaxed by sister rita’s gentle tug, the starbursts yielded to our reach. she handed me a scissor, and for the better part of half an hour, we snipped and gathered, and filled a grocery bag.
i ferried home our cache, and snipped for hours more. my mama joined in the snipping, as we gathered up the blossoms and left behind the branch and leaves. for days now, the linden bursts have been drying in a flat-bottomed basket, drying into tea. it won’t be long till we put the kettle on, boil up a cup or two of water, toss in a teaspoon of the linden flower offerings, and brew my friend the soothing tea that she’s so deeply longed for.
one last thing: when i sent my dear friend a note, with pictures of the harvest day with sister rita, my friend sent back a little note of her own, with just one question: “isn’t saint rita patron of impossible causes?”
she remembered that her mama always prayed to saint rita, always prayed to her when faced with the impossible. i swallowed back a tear or two, and offered up my own petition to saint rita. may impossibility be shattered, and the possible come shining through.
i cannot wait to inhale the vapors of that holy cup of tilo, and to lift it to heavens.
if you’ve a linden tree out your window, here’s how to make your tilo, once you gather up and dry your linden-flower blossoms: simply steep one teaspoon of the dried flowers in boiling water for 15 to 20 minutes. drink up to three times a day. you’ll be soothed. while it’s been known for centuries to be a calming potion, please be cautious if you’ve a weakened heart. if in doubt, check with someone wise to the herbal apothecary.
if you’re not inclined to sip your soothing brew, you can bathe in it. here’s a recipe for a “relaxing evening linden-flower bath” (the name alone sets me to soothing): simply boil two to three handfuls of dried linden flower blossoms in a quart of water. strain your brew, pour it in the tub, and sink yourself in.
might you have a magic tale to tell? one with holy vapors? one that stars a tree? do tell….
Lovely, touching story of friendships, including with the Linden tree!!
thank you, dear louise….bless you.
Wonderful story. All good wishes to your ailing friend and hopes that she finds deep healing with the tea.
bless you, thank you….
I’m in awe of this story !! It is beyond beautiful !! A glorious story from start to finish and the fact that your mom was helping, and Saint Rita woven in ….Producing not a sad cry here within me but tears of hope for your dear ill friend!!! Beyond!!!xoxo
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you are the sweetest of the sweet. i love your tears of hope. xoxoxox
Oh MY, what a story! Yes, when the Universe puts something in front of us twice in a short amount of time, it is definitely a signal to listen. I love all the weavings of “Godcidences” in the story and how wonderfully you followed its path. We have a Linden just outside our sunroom … it’s a little ill this year with a parasite and has not bloomed, but I shall watch for it next year and hope … as I hope for your friend’s wholeness. Bless your heart, bam. xo
bless yours, my beautiful nancy. i love the calls to listen….
I do not have a magical tale. But your tale is inspiring! Interestingly enough, though, speaking of St. Rita and impossibility, I ran across a quote from Audrey Hepburn just yesterday. I’m paraphrasing, but according to Ms. Hepburn, nothing is impossible because that word itself says “I’m possible.” My wish is that your friend knows that she can beat this awful disease and yes, she is possible! I will be remembering her in my prayers.
i love that, dear jack. all we need is the apostrophe to change the whole equation: i’m possible….apostrophe and space to breathe between the m and p…..
This wondrous tale is steeped in charm and sweetness, filled to the brim with healing balm for the soul…. So many instances of divine synchronicity here…. how magical! I had never heard of tilo tea until today. How beautiful, that you were able to gather fresh linden blossoms from a convent garden with Sister Rita!! LOVE everything about this!
One of our neighbors used to prize linden above all other kinds of wood. He said it was his favorite to work with. His name was John… a kind, humble, gifted woodcarver from Yugoslavia. He made the most exquisite hand-carved picture frames you ever saw… he also carved a lovely wooden statues. He once carved a life-sized statue for a local Catholic church. John was the dearest, gentlest soul… He died several years ago, and he’s deeply missed. I’ll bet he was familiar with tilo tea!
You bless us so with your beautiful stories, Barbara. This one is particularly meaningful. Thank you for sharing it here.
Much love to you, and many, many prayers for your beloved friend…
oh, bless you, dear dear amy. we’ve been without power all day, which has been mighty interesting. i had just barely unspooled the story above when suddenly we heard a POOF! and all went quiet and dark. i love YOUR story of john, and no wonder he carved wooden statues. i love these quiet angels we gather around us…..
i’ll have you know i was out walking this afternoon and i saw a heart leaf just before my foot fell upon it. i smiled merrily, and tucked it in my pocket. did you know that linden trees have asymetrical heart-shaped leaves??
Hearts abound…. oh yes, they do! Love that you tucked a heart leaf in your pocket today!! And yes, I’m familiar with linden leaves. When we first moved to our current home, an aged linden stood in our front yard. During our second winter, severe ice storms caused our linden to wish-bone straight down the middle. We could see daylight through the trunk, and since this was a safety hazard, we had to take it down. We replaced it with a willowy river birch, which gives shade but not too much shade for garden plants… Have to have those garden plants!! xoxo
What wonderful coincidences with your friend and the linden! You are the best friend a person could have. I smelled the lovely scent of linden years ago and searched all over France while on vacation for linden perfume. Hubby ended up finding it in Chicago on Lincoln Avenue! Maybe your friend will enjoy the scent on pillows……
oh, that is a splendid idea: to make little sachets. i love thinking of things to do with pieces of the garden ferried into the house. a beloved friend once gave me an eye pillow (sort of a sleeping mask, i suppose) filled with lavender, and it lulls me into somnolence nearly every time…..
the place on lincoln avenue had to be Merz Apothecary, a wonder for nearly a century, i believe…..
He says it was Merz! Little sachets cut with pinking shears and sewed into tea bag size would be lovely. Many blessings for her!