first-world problem, indeed
by bam
that i am typing on a screen seems nothing short of a miracle. of course, this is not my trusty and lugged-around laptop. that ol’ die-hard is in the resuscitation ward, aka the genius bar at my neighborhood apple store, where a genius and near-goddess named gretchen is tending it nearly round-the-clock. she’s pumping bodily fluids into it. she’s taking its temp at regular intervals, and calling me with updates, since i am, after all, its next-of-kin.
no, this snowy morning’s typing comes courtesy of the ancient family desktop, a clunky hulk of a thing i’d thought served one sole purpose: tucked-in-the-corner gathering ground for dust and accumulated fur balls.
it’s been a long week, all right.
after weeks of slower and slower typing, and the near constant appearance on my screen of that nettlesome whirling color ball — the one that whispers, “shhh, we’re working on it, lady. cool your jets if you care to make it to the end of the sentence…” — it seemed that i was due for a once-over at the genius bar. what better time to check in there than at the preamble to the super bowl, that annual concussive rite i disregard except to make maximum use of cleared-out stores and shopping aisles, when i alone am out minding by own business.
it didn’t take long at the bar of genius stature for a nice genius of a man to plug in a diagnostic cord, and declare: “hard drive failing.”
i’ll spare you the agony except to say that the external hard drive i’d dutifully plugged in every single day for all the years i owned it, well, it too was failing.
as tears filled my eyes, another nice man at the genius bar bellyflopped his arm across my shoulder and whispered, “honey, this is a first-world problem.”
it is indeed. and i am wholly mindful of how a lifetime archive of lost photos and emails — accumulated across the childhoods of both my boys — measures up against a growling belly that can’t be filled and a litany of other sins and injustices that are too excruciating to even thoughtfully attempt to lodge into any sort of comparison.
suffice it to say i ached for what might be lost — and still might be, since the resuscitation is still ongoing. i couldn’t stop the roll call of lost treasures — the compendium of choice words and knock-me-out passages and poetry i’ve so carefully copied and pasted over the years. every email that ever made my heart go ping! every photo i’ve taken in the last 10 years. the PDFs of every tribune story i deemed worth keeping as i shuffled out of the newsroom on my last day at what once called itself the world’s greatest newspaper.
and don’t you know that after four months of waiting for the very last round of edits on le book, my dear editor got back to me on tuesday — day 2, the cyber-hostage. and asked that i make the revisions by, um, wednesday. without my laptop, mind you. after carefully keeping other assignments at bay, so when the revisions finally landed in my lap i could devote all my attention to slowing time. (slowing time, by the way, is the title of le book, so that last sentence is deliberate double entendre, one my editor and i find to our liking.)
miraculously, and through the kindness of yet another saint in this saintly equation, i’ve managed to borrow a laptop with just the right accessories, and last eve shipped back what just might be the very last crossed t’s and dotted i’s of slowing time, the book.
funny how life has a way of not unfurling according to your best-laid plans. funny how you process loss — how it comes in waves, and one minute you think you can manage to rise above it — absorb it with zen-master acceptance — and the next minute, you swear you’re going under.
so, yes, my first-world problem turned my days and nights upside down. but here i am — almost on the other side of the cyber-chasm. i figured out plans B, C, and when needed, K through R, as well. i made the acquaintance of a saint masquerading as a goth-coiffed apple genius. and the long-awaited final edits on le book are signed, sealed and delivered.
i await a call from the cyber-nurse any hour now. then i’ll toddle off to pick up the rehabilitating laptop. i’ll spoon chicken zoup, or whatever’s needed, till my files and i are reunited. and back to first-world business.
in the meantime, i am beyond grateful to saint gretchen and her undauntability. and i’m plugging in my new external hard drive the minute it gets home.
hope your week was far better than mine. and that you repeat early and often: back up. back up. back up.
no questions other than: over all the years, what treasure have you lost — cyber or otherwise — and how did you learn to get along knowing it was forever gone? for me there was once a typed letter tucked under my pillow, the night i was crowned homecoming queen, and perhaps the most open-hearted missive my father ever wrote me. for the life of me, i’ve never ever been able to find it — not at the bottom of any box, not anywhere. it’s gone but for the memory of finding it, and being stunned at his tenderness. my father too is gone now, long gone, 33 years monday. but he’s with me every day, in every keystroke, always.
i’m not much of a backer-upper either…i will take heed. and book? oh yes please…
bam it touches me deeply the way you talk to me, i know it’s not just me but that’s how it feels, that is your gift. you gather me, us, them. thank you.
what was lost- before i moved to my wondrous maine home, i thought it best that my youngest son receive many of his brother beau’s artifacts- this made a growing difference for the younger son to be gifted with treasure and trust.
his house burnt down the following fall- yes, he lost everything. this was a few years back and much is recovered- except the tangible evidence of a 21 year olds slight life collection, so now like you- it is the memories i suppose that sustain us, have to sustain, maybe are tangible then in what we put forth- like beautiful words and books, songs and stories that others might hold and learn and love on. i still have the one war-torn guitar and the letter from hank. ha. all else is just here in my heart, which flows into my farm and pictures.
that you were stunned by your dad’s tenderness…there you go talking to me again. (i feel, if it helps- that note will float up some day, somehow.)
terry, dear terry, we are joined at the heart my beautiful friend. and i will have you know you are in the book, not named, but there, in a whole essay called “resurrection farmer.” that’s you, my beautiful one. i am certain that i was pulled down the country road to beau’s place by a force bigger and stronger than both of us combined.
i ache to read that the house burned down. i know you told me that before, a few years ago, but it’s a stunning reality that stabs me straight through the heart. we all know the dearest loss you suffered, the one for which there are no words. your beautiful beau. i still love that the photo of him ran in the tribune. his face is seared in my memory. and his mama is seared into my heart. sending love. and thank you for pulling up that chair all the way in maine. xoxoxox
Way back when, in the stone age of computers, when floppy discs were “new,” and meant to make everything okay, I lost my master’s thesis, close to completion. Don’t ask how because I still don’t know. All I know is that even the floppy disc failed me that day and hysteria was an understatement. I did exactly what anyone in my situation would have done. After I dried the tears, I called the school, lied about a “family emergency,” and asked for an early dismissal for the young boy who knew all there was to know about computers at that time. (And, yes, it was an emergency!) He came home, shook his head, tried this and that and this again, and declared that it was indeed gone. Fortunately, I had sections of it printed out, was doing some edited the old fashioned way, and I still had my outlines and long hand scribblings for parts. But I also had to re-work and re-think and re-write more than necessary. To this day, I chant right along with you, BAM, back up, back up, back up.
Congrats about the book! I am very much looking forward to reading it!
oh, lordy, a lost thesis would have sent me flailing off my broom handle. and, fast-forwarding to the happy ending: today you are the proud owner of that master’s….
Itching to read slowing time … so excited!
We lost our dads just two years apart, much too early. I have lost material things over the years to theft or flood, but do not miss much of it (except my dad’s army hat and my trusty Underwood typewriter). It’s the people I miss that have gone on, either by choice or by nature … those losses are what make my heart ache.
Good for you for persevering and getting the edits done! Hope all other memories are recovered anon by your gretchen genius…
shock of shocks, i actually had to capitalize the title, so it’s Slowing Time. to me capital letters are like wearing socks. i hate to have to do it. and will do anything to get away without them. like right now, barefoot and 20 below zero…..
i think losing to theft — which has happened to me, but only in the purse and bike department — is one with the worst reverberations. although in my book any loss is heartache. i’m not so easy-come-easy-go.
i woke up and in that magical way that so often happens, i found tucked in my morning mail this poem, from noel coward, that seems to be directly talking to the table.
and so here, “nothing is lost”….
Nothing is Lost
by Noel Coward
Deep in our sub-conscious, we are told
Lie all our memories, lie all the notes
Of all the music we have ever heard
And all the phrases those we loved have spoken,
Sorrows and losses time has since consoled,
Family jokes, out-moded anecdotes
Each sentimental souvenir and token
Everything seen, experienced, each word
Addressed to us in infancy, before
Before we could even know or understand
The implications of our wonderland.
There they all are, the legendary lies
The birthday treats, the sights, the sounds, the tears
Forgotten debris of forgotten years
Waiting to be recalled, waiting to rise
Before our world dissolves before our eyes
Waiting for some small, intimate reminder,
A word, a tune, a known familiar scent
An echo from the past when, innocent
We looked upon the present with delight
And doubted not the future would be kinder
And never knew the loneliness of night.
“Nothing is Lost” by Noel Coward from Collected Verse. © Graywolf Press, 2007.
So so beautiful … thank you for sharing it.