tucked in for the night…
by bam
dispatch from 02139 (in which we come in from the cold, light the lamps, and await a river of great good company here in new england, on the brink of the feast of the pilgrim et al)…
already i’m whispering my thank you’s.
oh, of course, it’s not yet the great feast of turkey and brussels sprouts. though, come to think of it, i might be the only one in all the land who celebrates the lowly petit chou fleur, sometimes, oddly, translated not to “little cabbage,” but something more akin to “my little darling.”
and for the record: next time anyone puckers up and calls me a little cabbage, i just might up and pinch ’em in the behind. or the apple dumpling, as a dear kindergarten-teacher friend of mine insists one’s bum be called.
egad, here we are a mere three paragraphs in, and already we’re over-tumbling the market basket, spilling fruit-and-vegetable metaphors with no restraint. and while we’re at it, we’re demonstrating how very swiftly we disassemble our thoughts here, watch them scatter like thistle seed to the winds.
the point is, this year’s long list of merci beaucoups promises to pack quite a wallop. thus, i’ve been gathering steam, and preambling already.
might be simply that this week is supremely better than the blurry one that came just before it, the one when at any minute i was aiming to hoist a battle-worn white flag, dial t-i-c-k-e-t-2-h-o-m-e and hightail it out of this intellectual — and virus-riddled — hotbed.
ah, but the flu flew away, the fever broke. the twisty knot of sinew and sore in my down-low back, well, it up and dissolved (er, mostly it did), and i found myself skipping along the cobbled cambridge lanes counting the days till the end of the academic semester, which astonishingly is just round the bend. (meaning i’ll soon be able to roll out of bed, and steal a book from the shelf, for no reason other than its title — or heck, the juicy splash on its cover — intrigues me.)
but even better than that, i’ve been eyeing this weekend with flat-out delight, for a river of great good folk are due to arrive in round after round of cars, buses, aeroplanes and trains.
first up is the boy who’s riding a mere two hours home from his down-the-road college, for at least a few days holed up here with his doting mama and papa and wee little brother. (then he’ll skedaddle down to NYC, and live it up with his aunt, uncle and cousins, till the back-to-school hour beckons). he’ll buzz the buzzer some time round mid-afternoon on the morrow, and from then on in, it’s non-stop company.
dear friends of the newspaper ilk from back in chicago are flying in for a whirl of a weekend, and some poking around of my new favorite haunts. my best friend from when i was little is coming in from california, for cryin’ out loud, by way of connecticut. an adorable fellow whose mother i love way back home is spending the night, sprawled on our couch. saturday morn, we’re due to rendez-vous under a tent with yet another family we’ve loved since the dawn of time, or so it seems. and i’m sure i’m forgetting someone or something.
no wonder the deep-down thank you’s are rumbling and rolling.
and no wonder this week (thanks also to an all-day friday seminar on “negotiations,” no less, one which commences at 8 bells sharp, and stretches till 3 in the afternoon), i am forced to forgo my early-morning habit of writing here at the table. instead, tis now, with dark of night cloaked round my shoulders. all alone at the kitchen butcher block. just me and my tap-tap-tap. the only sound is the hiss of the heat pipes (hallelujah), and from the room just behind me, the occasional but regular turning of a page.
which reminds me: one of my most lasting gratitudes goes out to ms. j.k. rowling who, with her pen and her brooms and her wands, has lit one whoppin’ bonfire under the reading twigs of my sweet little sixth-grader, who has been known in recent weeks to flick on the reading lamp (when he thinks we’re not looking) at 2 in the gosh-darn morning. that child, once a reluctant reader, has in the last four weeks sucked down — at last count — no fewer than 2,425 pages, like some sorta super-sweet kool-aid.
and yes, even after all these weeks, there are still moments in days when i all but pinch myself, wondering how in the world we got here, in this magical place for this gosh-darn-miraculous interlude.
as i walk along the parade of sycamore trees, those mottled soldiers, that line the bend in the river. as i find in the mailbox a hand-penned letter, page after page, from one of my new contemplative friends, the monks, at saint john the evangelist monastery, a place with the gift of hushing the soul.
or, late most tuesday nights, as i say goodnight to the babysitter who’s become a treasured constant in the whir of our weeks, and whose capacity for kindness gives me faith all over again. as i sit in a circle with some firebrand or thinker i’ve never known before, and find my head swarming with ideas i could chew on forever — and probably will.
as i curl up for hours on end with an afghan under my toes, and virginia woolf in my lap. or dorothy day. or mohandas gandhi. as i soak up first-person accounts, over foamy cups of cappuccino or peppermint tea, of long-ago dinners and late-night phone calls with martin luther king.
for all of these things, i am so deeply, blessedly grateful.
and that’s just the beginning…
i know, oh i know, that these days are not without bumps, not without heartache. and these nights are not stripped of the tossing and turning that comes with old-fashioned worry. but because thanks can never go on too long, i don’t think it’s a chore to begin the compiling. so if you’ve stopped by the table, and if you’ve something to add to the list of deep, down thanksgiving (and, yes, gassy little cabbage-ettes are more than welcome), please feel free to scribble your thoughts…..
and before i go, on this eve of the eve of my mama’s birthday, happy blessed day — and year — to the blessed soul who has taught us all volumes and volumes. so sorry we’re not home for this one, but know we hold you close to our hearts……xoxoxoxo
Ah, lovely as always….May your turkey day be sweet as pumpkin pie…..Love, Laurie
I’m right there with you on the brussel sprouts. LOVE them practically any old way and so does the husband. The teens and young adult(!)…not so much. But I think I’ve found a way to convert the young ones. Pan roasted brussel sprouts with BACON. I’ve tested it out on the youngest and she didn’t turn away. She even ate a couple. So will let the college kids tell us what they think of the new recipe on Thanksgiving Day.
Giving thanks for many blessings this holiday…including the kinship found at this table. Have a wonderful holiday, bam!
I suspect that the younger man is totally relating to Harry right now: transported to a new place, becoming a new boy (he IS at that age, after all), and he’s probably been in some Hogwarts-looking halls and Diagon Alleys these past months. And what wonderful books to show him the joys of language (again, Diagon Alley). Perfect. He is immersed in great adventure both real and literary. Much more fun than the weekend I spent in an all-but-empty TB-hospital-turned-hotel-turned-dorm, in the mountains, reading (what was I thinking?) The Shining. Or Jaws on vacation at the seaside. I need to plan my literary immersions better. Happily, when I read Louisa May Alcott’s Hospital Sketches I was near neither war nor sickward. Can I recommend this for a short, light read? Just when she has me feeling drenched, spent, and muddy to boot, she makes me laugh out loud (and she’s from your neck of the woods). Enjoy your literary vacation coming up – and beware of what jumps off the bookshelf to you.
No brussels sprouts here. My younger son loves them, I tell him that’s what buffets are for. And my preschoolers like them, call them little basketballs (could that be from their mothers?). But no, no brussels sprouts. I’ll have a little of that bacon, though, hh, thank you.
For thankfulness, oh, your table, everset with tea, candles, books, wisdom, and cat—and cranberry bread?
Thank you for mothers who not only take care of their own, but watch out for all those other homesick kids who need mothering. And for families who always have room in their lives for just one more at their table…Enjoy the homecoming of everyone and thank you!
Happy Birthday to the Mama of Mamas’! Thankful to her for our blessed Chair and hope she has a glorious year. Blessings on all our gatherings this coming week. The morning sky in Chicago is clear and sharp blue. Off to winter farmer’s market in Evanston to pick up bread and pies and staff of brussel sprouts :). Turkey ordered! Lists are being written and altered on an hourly basis. Beginning to visualize the day of gathering and thanking. The first tickle of the holiday season is upon me and I smile. Happy Thanksgiving to all of you who gather at this wonderful virtual table and will hold you in my heart with Great Thanks at our table on Thursday.
LOVE “day of gathering and thanking”
bam, and all here at this beautiful table our bam provides, wishes for a most blessed Thanksgiving, whether we are surrounded by those we love, traveling, enjoying a solitary meal, there is so much for which to be thankful. I am learning, slowly, that we can’t dull the pain and still expect to feel joy; we must engage all that comes. It’s so great to have hands to hold while we get through it. Bless you, each one.
bam, Brussels sprouts–yes! Terra had a receipt for RAW b-sprouts with apple and aged cheddar cubes and a butter and maple syrup sauce that I am trying out, untested, at the Thanksgiving groaning board. My dad and b-friend will probably do all the groaning while I lap up the mini cabbages. Let them eat turkey. Heaps of good wishes to you and yours at this season of counting our blessings instead of our calories. Best wishes to all at the table. Now I must get cooking!
oh dear karen, i will sit back with arched eyebrow, and watch while you lap up your brussels sprouts, and listen while your papa groans. it is a bit mischievous of us, isn’t it, to go messin’ with poured-in-concrete tradition? i’ll be cookin’ today too, but just to get the staples out on the counter — the cranberry-pear relish, chief among them — because tomorrow we are driving to the big apple and the only thing i am supposed to bring is a poem. i can do that. happy merry turkey day, and today, the best of all, the anticipation and the filling the kitchen with great good smells. (at least for those of us who love the sulfuric smell of sprouts!)
I am bowing to the forces in the world. Really, I’ve been hearing nothing all week but “you’re not making brussels sprouts? but here’s a delish recipe, but they’re so good for you, but but but”. Yesterday at the grocery they all but leapt into my cart. All right, I get it already, we’re meant to have brussels sprouts today. I selected 8, count ’em, 8, and will look for Karen’s recipe, or maybe use hh’s bacon and will call on my love for my young man and whoever else savors them to prepare them.
bless your brussels-y heart!!!! let us know how it goes……..i am crossing my fingers i get some. heard a fine NPR thanksgiving-y thingie this morn, in which chris kimball, of america’s test kitchen fame, extolled the miracles of julia childs’ brussels sprouts bathed and browned in butter…..maybe the butter will help em go down, ms. notherbarb…..
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Well, they weren’t bad! I should have asked Julia instead of Joy (of Cooking). They were similar, lots of butter!, but Joy was on the stovetop and Julia in the oven (but no chefs were cooked in the making of this dinner). Julia’s way would have been easier (less watching) and they may have kept their bright color. But dear son was surprised and happy, and that counts for everything. Ooh, is Cambridge near Brookline? You could go to America’s Test Kitchen! They film in May, before you leave?! Another field trip?
Hope the big apple — and turkey, and pumpkin pie, et al, — were all you hoped. Happy Thanksgiving!
We are right across the river from Brookline, and one if the crew, jack bishop, came to “science and cooking ” class to lecture last week. I live the Brussels sprouts surprise for your sweet boy. Oh the things mothers will do. P. s. will post dispatch once we are back to 02139. Just driving home from NYC and NJ. Scrumptious holiday, all around…
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I’m thankful for Thanksgiving, a legal, National holiday dedicated to giving thanks. What a cool idea! Thanks to the Chair for providing a fascinating
place to go. Love to all, thanks be to God for freedoms we enjoy in this land!
All the best!