and so she wrote….
by bam
this is it.
end of chapter. start of new…
but, before we finish turning the page, before i sit and stare at a whole blank page of the newsprint of my life, i want to sift through a few old, yellowed sections. i want to remember. to spool forth thanksgiving. to send smoke signals out to people and places far far from here.
i want to hold up this moment, these moments, this chapter. i want to grace it with abundant blessing.
i walked out of the newsroom yesterday afternoon, my last day there. i had to leave early. i laughed. even my last day i sort of flubbed, if you want to call it that, because my little one had invited me to the fifth-grade wax museum, and i wasn’t about to miss it — he’d spent the better part of two months crafting and memorizing and dramatizing the life of PT barnum, and it just so happened the show’s opening was the very close of my newspapering.
so, instead of staying in my desk till the bitter end, i had to throw on my backpack and dart out the door, a mother’s best move so very often.
i didn’t pop champagne. didn’t turn out the lights at the billy goat tavern, that subterranean watering hole that’s doused so many a newspaper scribe’s parched, dry gullet.
but there was coffee served in the conference room yesterday morn, and all the folks i type with, they huddled around, took seats at the table as if it was any everyday meeting.
being journalists, they rattled off a few great questions: what was your favorite story? how many jobs have you had here at the tribune? how did you meet blair (my mate of 20 married years, my dear friend and “crush” of nearly 25)?
i loved the question about the favorite story. took time to answer that one with plenty of heart.
i’ve been pondering it for the last couple weeks. in fact, i decided a while back that my own private chapter closing would be the day i climb to the attic and sift through the boxes and crates of old yellowed newspaper clips, to read and remember, to run my fingers over the grainy photos from long ago, to absorb through and through the holy walk that was this chapter.
but, without even yanking the rope that lowers the door to the attic, i can sift through a few stories here.
after all, all of you here at this table, have been behind every breath of this passage, even when you hadn’t a clue.
there is much to remember as i flip through the pages of all of the years.
my favorites?
one has to be the story i wrote about the farmer who lost her soldier son, and turned to the fields to till through her grief. i sat beside her one hot summer’s day on her creaky old porch swing, down on a farm where the trees scratched the sky. i wrote what she said, what i noticed, what stirred in the air. and once that story hit the paper it somehow wound up in faraway maine.
there was a fellow who worked in some shop up there, and when he sat down to lunch one particular day, he found the chicago tribune spread on the table. he picked it up and read the story about the farmer and all of her sorrow. he put the paper back down, and went back to work.
but that night, driving the two hours home, he couldn’t stop thinking of the story — and the farmer. so he turned his truck around, and drove back to the shop. he tore through the trash cans till he found it, the newspaper section with the farmer, standing out in her field looking skyward. he rolled up the paper, tucked it under his arm, tossed it onto the passenger seat and drove home. he stared at that paper for awhile, then he got brave. sat down and penned a letter. addressed the envelope with nothing but her name and the name of the town he read in the dateline of that newspaper story.
to make a long story short and sweet, here’s what happened: he wrote, and she wrote. back and forth for the better part of a year. even a phone call or two. he invited her to come up to maine. she did. she went back home and put her farm up for sale. they farm together in the north woods of maine now.
all because he read her newspaper story.
another favorite is the one about the pigeon man of lincoln square, a curious fellow, a fellow who struck me right away, a fellow whose story i had to find out.
he used to sit on a fire hydrant along a busy city street, and dozens of pigeons flocked to him, perched on him. i nearly swerved out of my lane the first time i saw him. i drove back quick as i could, talked to him off and on over the course of a few days. went up to his attic apartment, the place where he kept his pigeon-feeding supplies and rested his head. i wrote his story. wrote how he struck me as some sort of st. francis of the city.
three years later, that old man with the crooked spine was shuffling along another busy street when a van up and hit him. he fell right there on the sidewalk, died before they got to the ER. as they lifted his body onto a stretcher, the police told me he was clutching a laminated copy of the story i’d written three years earlier.
those might be the bookends of my shelf of favorites — a start and an end.
but in between, there would be so very many. the trek across america, all on my own, back in 1984, as i traveled to see and to hear — from the rio grande valley to the mississippi delta, from pennsylvania steel mills to backwoods in maine, from salmon fisheries in northern california to farm towns in iowa — just what it meant to be hungry in america.
or the night when i stood, nose pressed against the crack between ballroom doors, and watched prince charles swirl on the dance floor with all of the ladies of the oak brook polo club.
or the mother, long long ago, who had a sweet boy with down’s syndrome whose smile i will never forget. or the father whose daughter lay dying of anorexia nervosa. or the little boy who fell through the ice of lake michigan but did not die, and so i kept vigil with his mama and papa as the whole city watched and waited and held their collective breath.
after all those 30 years, when i think back over the breadth and depth of humanity i have scribbled into my notebooks, soaked into my heart, i sigh a mighty sigh and whisper one solitary truth: it really was the voyage of a lifetime.
and i am so deeply grateful and humbled and blessed.
i wrote one last column, a “Dear Reader” goodbye. i sent it to my editor the other morning, but i don’t think she’s letting it run in the paper.
so i will end this meander with the one column that no one else will ever read.
these are the last words i typed for the chicago tribune, where i worked from june, 1982, to february 10, 2012:
Dear Reader,
There is a breathtaking tradition in newspapers when one of the ink-in-the-veins scribes leaves the newsroom for the very last time: Everyone at every news desk stands up and “claps out” the exiting reporter, a parade of final applause that is, in every way, the highest salute.
I want to reverse that tradition on this, my last day in this newsroom. I want to be the one who stands and applauds all of you, dear readers — even though I’m the one leaving.
I want you to know that for the last nearly 30 years I have poured my heart into each and any story, because as journalists we get to be the eyes and the ears and the heart for all of you as we go about the business of gathering stories. We ask questions, listen hard to answers, and soak up the scene, so we can bring you to the news as much as we bring the news to you.
I want you to know that it has meant the world to me to be trusted to tell you those stories. And I want you to know that I treasure our connection, a very real connection. I have saved — and will carry home — your emails, and your letters. Alas, I will have to leave behind a few glorious voicemail messages, some of them saved years ago. I consider all of them — penned, or typed, or recorded — the prizes of my life.
I will miss you.
And I thank you for inviting me into your homes, to your kitchen tables, and your favorite armchairs, for all of these many very rich years. I leave this newsroom in very good hands, and in very good hearts.
Bless you all.
Your grateful scribe,
Barbara Mahany
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I’m standing at my desk, clapping.
simply exquisitei’m utterly moved and speechlessi too applaud you
breathaking. i am filled with awe: the simple beauty, the power of your written word. you are a master with words.
Aw jeez bam….wordless here, but clapping.
charming, hopeful, and happy, just like you. Oh and full of wonder , heart and curiousity.
Oh, dear, you didn’t have to tell us what we already knew. That every time we read your stories, we were reading a bit of your heart. It has meant the world to us to hold your stories in our hands, tuck them into our notebooks, tape them into our garden journals, or even laminate them for posterity. Did you ever read The Phantom Tollbooth? (Now you’ll have time!) In the Soundkeeper’s castle, where you can see sounds, Milo claps his hands and a sheet of crisp white paper flutters down. That’s what came to mind today. Maybe there wasn’t the clapping at the Tower today, but the pages you typed are fluttering still.
dear ‘nother, i promise those stories will still fly from my typewriter, day after day, like a word factory, i tell you. i got my first big fat assignment tonight (well i first heard about it last night, but we confirmed it tonight). get this, i’m writing a profile of the world’s no. 1 golfer. now i LOVE that because i know NOTHING about golf. nothing. only that there’s a ball. and a hole. and a bag full of sticks — i believe i’ve heard them referred to as clubs. anyway, this fellow apparently is rated no. 1 but he’s never won a “major.” therein lies the hook. this is why i decided to leap off the high dive, so i could play in the mud of story gathering, and throw myself into fascinating subjects i know little about. so the fun for dear readers will be that now we’re playing a version of hide-and-seek, in which we never know where oh where those stories will come from, or where they’ll pop into print. perhaps i’ll get to write for, say, some irish gardening journal (wouldn’t i love that?!?!?) or heaven only knows. but i am thinking i smell all sorts of adventures up ahead. just give me a notebook and a pair of good walking shoes, and i am all over it. p.s. i think it was so lovely of the tribune to tuck that architectural skyline in today’s banner, right above the feb. 10, 2012. they don’t always use the same image, and it seems so perfect that today skyscrapers rose from lake michigan….
from one journalist to another–brava. with heartfelt applause, a standing ovation for you from new jersey.
Couldn’t head to bed before coming to the table on this momentous day to say, good for you for dreaming, for having the courage to follow your dream. This is not the first time you have leapt; I’m guessing it won’t be your last. You are many persons — nurse, writer, mother, wife, daughter (not in that order, of course). And will always be all those persons. Leaving the Tribune doesn’t make you any less of a writer, that is for sure. All of us here at the table know you couldn’t stop writing if you wanted to — your heart is too used to seeing what truly matters and is kind enough to share those things with those who may not see as clearly. I came to the table because of your article about Teddy and Gettysburg. “It’s the soldiers.” I wept on the Metra riding downtown that morning. It is a story I shall never forget.Dear bam, may you be very, very blessed, as you have blessed us. Amen.
♥
bless you each and every one. AZK, i stand and applaud you back. that just made me cry here, on the first official morning after. and nancy…..i remember your first email. and the connection that stuck from there on in…..you are the very Dear Reader for whom i penned those words. but we are the lucky ones, because we get to ride on and on and on together. jsv came through the same door, a reader who became a friend. that’s what makes me wince…wondering what other readers might have become friends. or who will think i just fell off the planet. but as blair says, there will be other readers in other places. and the ol’ tribune will let me write for them, maybe sooner than 2013, maybe not until then. IRS stipulations…..i got up early because that little guy wanted me to take picture of the sunrise. i love that all of you are already here. let me go make the coffee…..
What a privilege it was to play some tiny role in a couple of those wonderful stories. What a privilege it was to work with you all those years. Golf Guy doesn’t know — yet — how lucky he is.
Oh, my friend … reading this once just wasn’t enough for me – needed an encore … and now, a standing ‘o’ just for you. Thank you for listening to your heart and following your dream … cannot wait to see where it takes you (and us). xox
I’m late getting here, BAM, but I must say that I am the one who is grateful to you for putting into words so many emotions and ideas that I have trouble expressing with the clarity you do. Bravo and encore to you! Congratulations, too, on your first post-Trib assignment. I’m looking forward to learning about golf through you.
Bravo, Bravo !!! I am in awe 🙂
And I want you to know that I was invisible until you made me see. I thank you…and love you more and every word than I can ever convey. I did not know you were at this threshold dear Bam.
Oh go through, oh write; poetry- your life is.
The way you see is rare. You bring what matters to life and to light, look how you helped me swerve…wouldn’t I have surely perished in those fields? And wanted too?! I tell you true, you saved this dismantled life with your story of mine.
And the pigeon man, his quote, his summation and no one would have known had it not been for the curly haired reporter-poet who took note and notified the rest of us.
“I’m really advertising to the public how easy it is to be good without an attitude; it’s just as easy to show decency as it is to hate today.”
The Pigeon Man, Mr. Zeman
You don’t find friends and stories, you recognize them. I applaud your depth of feeling and the courage with which you brought us the clear cut diamonds of reality. We would not have seen them, felt them cared a smidge- if not for Barbara Mahany.
my beautiful beautiful farmer love,
i am tingling that today is the day you wandered from the deep woods of maine to here, the fresh table. the table where all the white cotton cloths are out, are spread over tables. i hope you saw , and felt through and through, that of all the many stories that melted my heart over the years, that forever changed me, you are right there, up at the top. and jose’s picture of you, standing out in the field……if you click over to my new “work” website, barbara mahany.com you will see that i have a collection of clips i am proud to show any editor in the country. you are right there among them, the whole PDF, you can see it in living color. and don’t we adore the story of the BIG FISH?!?!?! i must find you one way or another…..i cannot believe the morning after i make this huge migration, you come to the table. and did you also see yourself on the lazy susan page, in the everyday poetry department? you are everywhere that matters in the crevices of my heart. xoxoxoxo
love, b.
To be utterly lost, vulnerable in such a way that all is left- a wisp, still comes someone with eyes that see, to have that sweet soul see your matter…you have me in tears here. Wordless! But you, oh you…yes, I will follow. My heart to you. Thank you.
BAM, You know the story that touched my life 16 years ago…What Happens to the Children. You and I have shared emails about it. I wanted you to know that I shared it…read the whole thing on Friday…to a group of Mom’s that I mentor. Saturday morning my phone rings, and one of the mom’s shares how that was just what she needed to hear. How it had been on her heart but until I read YOUR story THAT morning she hadn’t acted on getting a will in place. Always remember how many lives you have touched. Your words are alive and continue to move others…