little left but prayer
by bam
ever since the news swept out, ever since we heard the word that the earth convulsed and heaved and paid no mind to bodies in the way, i’ve found it hard to be inside my house, safe and warm, unshattered.
found it hard to sit beside my little one, he in warm pajamas, nibbling on banana, sipping milk, sitting on a stool that had no splinters, that was smooth and whole, warm air swirling all around us, the night’s cold breath blocked by glass and wall and roof.
couldn’t fathom, though we tried, he and i together, how not so far away really there were children crying, couldn’t find their mamas or their papas, maybe. couldn’t find a brother or a sister, or the family dog, the one who always curled beside them when the night came on the island.
haiti, suddenly, isn’t so far away, although the breadth and depth of the destruction in the wake of the once-in-200-years quaking of the earth is so incomprehensible.
i find myself, once again, riveted by tragedy on this small whirling globe.
this one feels so close to home. this one makes me shudder in my warmth, my comfort, my going to sleep knowing my boys are safe.
how can one people be so pummeled? not only now, but always.
how can some of us escape again and again? how can some of us think the car nearly out of gas on a frigid morning is a big fat deal? how can some of us be blessed to worry only that our children might not find the answers on exams?
we’ve been praying, my boys and i, the little we can do. we’ve been imagining who each prayer was prayed for. we imagine a child, or a grownup, we imagine a whole scenario, and then we pray a prayer just for that one someone we’ve imagined.
we paint pictures with our words, try to make the prayer concrete, explicit, particular, for the prayer to come alive….
“for a little boy, who is covered in dust, whose arm is broken, who cannot find his mama.”
“for all the children who are crying, and whose cries aren’t heard.”
“for the little one who is hungry, who hasn’t found her way to a slice of bread, to fruit.”
“for the ones who sit beside the rubble, waiting, not giving up hope, listening for whimpers, now fading, three days later when chances slip to nearly less than none.”
it’s all we can do, imagine prayer. construct biography and hold it in our arms, in the arms of our prayer, in our hearts that know no bounds.
we can’t, most of us, board a plane, bandage wounds, salve the brokenness. but we can stay with the mission. we can hold it day after day, hour after hour, night after night, in prayer.
and so we pray. and so we teach our children. we tell them stories. we show them how we pray. we know they listen. they’re not too young, not at all, to start to figure out how very blessed they are. how once again, they’ve escaped. but not far away there is no escaping, and thus we are all left to pray and pray some more.
this day i pray. for the ones who wail in pain alone. for the ones who are lost. who can’t find their way. who can’t find the ones they love. not one of them, i hear again and again on the news reports that crackle in from the broken island.
this day i pray and i don’t stop. there is little left but prayer for those of us who cannot rest when the world’s in pain, deep pain, inexplicable pain. pain they had no idea was just around the bend. about to swallow them whole.
carry on, the litany unspools……
Barbara, I am in tears reading your words that penetrate our insulation, physical and emotional, to tragedies such as this, that hit people who had so little to lose, in terms of basic necessities, that they truly lost everything. We can help, with prayers and dollars donated. But this huge quake on a tiny island also reminds me that we in the Midwest sit on a deep fault line that heaved so violently just 200 years ago that the Mississippi River was rerouted, towns in Illinois became towns in Iowa, and dishes rattled as far away as Baltimore and Washington, DC. On our dynamic planet, great plates of ironically named terra firma unexpectedly shoulder each other aside or crawl over each other, and while so often high-magnitude earthquakes occur in obvious geologically active regions such as mountains and islands (and often Third World countries), we in the flatlands are not immune. In our introspection, it would be good to review emergency plans with our own loved ones. Thank you again for so poignantly putting in words what we feel.
The power of the earth and the powerlessness of man. The photo is heart-breaking.
Nothing I can say would amount to anything … no words, just prayers. And yes, the photo breaks my heart.
Though I read Barbara’s beautiful words on Friday, I haven’t felt I could say anything because I feel the same as pjv. It’s been terrifyingly unspeakable. I know the power of prayer, and yet at times like this it feels like so little. Barbara, thank you for helping us to make it feel more personal by praying specifically.
I continue to pray for the souls of those who were lost in the earthquake. May we never forget them. I will prayer for parents who are looking for children, and children who are looking for parents and grandparents, too. I pray for those who are in Haiti, trying to help in this horrific situation. May they find the courage and strength they need to get through the days and months ahead. I will pray for understanding and knowledge as people all over the world try to understand how something this terrible could happen to so many innocent people. Amen
somehow i have had a week that kept me from the table, only just now getting back to find the words cobbled here. oh, karen, you so eloquently, poetically make earth science and plate tectonics crystal clear, and unshakeable. i’d not know the story of the re-routing of the mississippi, nor the gerrymandering that was not this time political at root. i love you all who came here, wordless, or tongue-tied, heart-heavy, or able to pull poetry and prayer from deep inside your soul……so many images from the ruins, so many images we might never forget. and we can’t even imagine most of the spectrum of senses…the smell, the sounds, the trembling not of the earth but of little children’s hands……..Bless Their Souls.
An addendum to this year’s gumbo open house invitations was an appeal to contribute to organizations with an established track record in Haiti. At the party we collected $300, and guests who couldn’t attend assured me that they’d sent donations in response to my prompt. One very reliable operation is Partners in Health – http://www.pih.org – founded by MacArthur “genius grant” winner Dr. Paul Farmer. The book “Mountains Beyond Mountains” by Tracy Kidder tells the story of this man, his preferential option for the poor and the many ways he and his colleagues have translated that into an international model for health care policy and practice. Prayers help – so will sustained the sustained commitment of our directed giving.