eggs, cheese, an ungodly hour
by bam
soon as the numbers beside my bed flash 4:01 sunday morn, i’ll be unearthing myself from the covers, stretching a wary toe out into the cold and the black of christmas eve before most of the world gets with the program.
it’ll be time, as it has been for the past four christmas eve mornings, to wake a sleeping boy, now an almost-man child, and head out with our shopping bags and our crates of clementines to a soup kitchen where we’ll be the ones to turn on the lights.
and no doubt i’ll be carrying with me the story of nina.
for two christmases, nina was my compatriot in this pre-dawn drill of cooking the yummiest, oozingest christmas eve breakfast that ever there was.
nina, she took the hard part. a one-time caterer, now a mother of two–two girls under three, mind you–she went to town on her end of the deal. and i’m tellin’ you, the woman could cook.
you see, nina had a heart the size of montana. once, on one hour’s notice, when no one showed to cook sunday-night supper, she turned her little family’s tuna noodle casserole into tuna noodle for 40, and dashed it straight to the soup kitchen.
but the thing about nina was that she was admittedly, emphatically, not a morning person, and certainly not with two little ones who needed to wake up to their mama. so she took what she called the day job, gave me the night job, or at least the still-dark-out start of the shift.
she made the strata, a haute strata, mind you, a huge one, a strata bulging with eggs and imported cheeses, sausage, potatoes and God only knows what. what i know is that when i plated it up to that long line of hungry souls in the chill of christmas eve morn, their eyes how they glistened, their tummies they growled.
my end of the deal has to do with the 4 and the zeroes flashing at the side of my bed, nudging me up out from the covers. has me shuffling down the hall to rustle the sleeping heap i call my firstborn son. it’s been my job to gather all that goes with the strata: the cocoa, the candy canes, the great mound of marshmallows. since it’s christmas eve after all, and the folks we’re feeding are homeless or sheltered in bunks down below from the kitchen, 12 to a room, we go for fresh-squeezed orange juice, serious stand-up coffee doused with industrial-sized shakes from the cinnamon shaker, and sweet breads of cranberry walnut or orange and pecan.
for back-to-back christmas eves it worked just like that. we were a team, in touch through the phone. i’d talk to nina the day before to go over the plan. then, once home, and starting to wilt, i always called nina to give her play-by-play praise from the men and the women who came back for seconds and thirds of her strata.
i never met nina the first year, but i fell in love with her over the phone. and i wasn’t supposed to meet her the second year.
only there in the dark, on a christmas eve that was frost-bitingly cold, as we pulled to the back stairs to unload, i was startled by carlights at 4:40 a.m.. in a dark south evanston alley, you don’t want to be running into just anyone. and since nina always made such a fuss about not being up before dawn, she was the last one i expected to find there under the hood of a great arctic parka. i’d never seen her before, but i knew in an instant who those big brown eyes belonged to. “nina?” i called out. “what in the world are you doing awake?”
“we were running behind,” she started explaining. “we stayed up late doing the tree and never got to deliver the strata, so we just decided to stay up and bring it over now,” she said, laughing. and then barely a blink later, the vision under the fur-trimmed hood was gone in the dark of the too-early morn.
as always, the strata had the hungry and even the not-so-hungry coming back for more. and more. as always, i called later that morning to pass along every last kudo.
that was the last time i talked to wonderful, generous, spontaneous nina.
two months later, late at night, my phone rang. it was my friend harriett who lines up the cooks and the servers for soup kitchen; she was sobbing. in between sobs, i made out the words: “nina died this morning. she just died.”
nina was 37, tops. her little girls, the ones who couldn’t wake up without her, were 3 and 2. her husband, michael, the one who made the pre-dawn strata delivery, he was left alone in an emergency room, bundling together her things. nina had had a headache the day before, and within hours of walking into the ER, the doctors were telling her husband they were so sorry, she’d died. it was an aneurysm that couldn’t be stopped.
i decided then and there on the phone that night that every christmas eve breakfast from then on in would be in the spirit of nina, nina who could not do enough for the world.
i called starbucks, hoping for a gift card for each soup kitchen soul. i went begging at the bread store, asking if i could pick up any unsold bread or sweet rolls to take it up a notch.
i was thumbing through strata recipes, looking for one that might be like nina’s. then my friend harriett called. the strata would be taken care of, she told me. nina’s father and michael, her husband, would make it. they’d drop it off, in true nina style, the night before, but of course.
so last christmas eve, nina’s strata was, once again, the absolute hit of the soup kitchen counter.
and i, the one spooning it out onto plates, couldn’t stop thinking of the love of two men, her father, her husband, side-by-side in nina’s kitchen, carrying on, following nina’s instructions, line by line, layering their grief with the generous heart of the woman who all of us so achingly missed.
here’s a thought: what if i get michael to share nina’s recipe, and all of us whip up a batch of sweet nina’s strata? and then, in the spirit of the woman with the unstoppable heart, we give it away to someone who needs reason to glisten this holiday season.
Barbara,You are a creator with words. You have captured Nina and the soup kitchen experience from our side. Maybe you could get a shelter guest to write from his or her side of the table. There are tears in my eyes as I read and remember. Thanks, Harriet
This story made me cry. After reading it, I know I need alot more ‘Nina’ in me.
I’d bake and bring the strata to Ginny, age 87, who can no longer walk, but sure loves to socialize. Yes, see if you can share the recipe!
a post-script: michael made six magnificent strata, three with sausage, three peppers and onion. for great good measure, along with his strata delivery, he tossed in a crate of california oranges, said that when he was a child there was always an orange at christmas, and now as a papa, he understood the magic of an orange for christmas. oranges are christmas he told harriett, and so he wanted the folks at the soup kitchen to have oranges. it was, as always, a heavenly morn. cornell, doug, don, each one of them and plenty more came back time after time, filling their plates, licking their lips. i of course walked out bleary eyed but full. oh so full. will, my 13-year-old and i drove around, as we always do after, capturing the morning’s first light, drinking in what just unfolded. two dear friends, both of whom wanted a little christmas this christmas, unearthed themselves at that ungodly hour, joined us on the sleigh ride to the soup kitchen. made it all the more heavenly. it was, as always, the soup kitchen’s gift to us. i called michael, left him a message, just as i’d always done for dear nina. told him he’d done nina proud, real proud. we wait still for that recipe. i love carol above, tapping out just who and just why she will be baking the strata. i am thinking who will i make mine for……
What a fitting tribute to the woman I love. Here, at long last, is the recipe as best as I can describe it. She never did write it down. If flowed from her, from us, every year and while it was introduced to us by a friend, it is my family’s tradition to make this. While it has always been important to me that the giving be done without fanfare or notice, it is wonderful to know that the tradition is appreciated outside of my personal sphere.Anyway, enough pontificating. On with the good stuff…Nina’s Strata(Amounts are approximate, temps are imprecise, times are elastic)For about a 13×9 baking pan:Wheat bread (about a 1/2 loaf)(the squishier the better, save the hearty multi-grain stuff for a good lightly toasted turkey sandwich with mayo and brown mustard…mmmmm)White bread (about a 1/2 loaf)(again, go for squishy, think along the lines of the stuff you ignore on the shelf because you think it isn’t good enough for you)Filling (a couple cups worth, 2 maybe)(here you can go in any direction you want. I like a combo of Sweet and Hot Italian sausage or sautéed veggies or a nice smoky bacon.)Cheese (a couple cups worth)(Pair it with your filling and pick something that grates or crumbles well. Provolone with the sausage, mozzarella with the veggies, moked Gouda with the bacon would all be good choices.)Eggs (about a dozen)The night before you plan to serve1. Grease the pan. Pam or butter work fine.(I cannot stress this enough. Even better, use a disposable pan. Eggs cooked like this can be used as superglue in a pinch. Save your fingers and don’t skip this step. Trust me.)2. Break up the bread into small pieces and put them in the pan. Toss to mix them together.(My 4 and 6 year old daughters love this step. Pieces about the size of oreos are fine. Don’t get fancy here. It’s strata not a crown roast.)3. Prepare your filling(s). Sauté/grill/fry whatever you want to put into the strata.(It does not have to be totally fully cooked because it will go in the oven. Keep in mind that you can do two different fillings in the same pan if you like variety. Do one end meat and the other end veggie.)4. Add your filling(s) to the pan and distribute it evenly (top to bottom).(Use your hands. Get messy. It’s fun!)5. Add 1/2 of cheese to pan mixture. Again, mixing with your hands so it gets evenly distributed.5. Beat all the eggs in a bowl. Add salt/pepper/other seasonings to taste.(Have extra eggs on hand just in case you need more.)6. Ladle the eggs over the mixture in the pan making sure to get eggs on all the bread. (The eggs should soak all the bread but it should not be swimming in eggs.)7. Sprinkle remaining cheese over the mixture in the pan.8. Cover with foil and put in the fridge overnight.When you want to serve it.1. Take strata out of the fridge but leave it covered.2. Preheat oven to 350-400 degrees.3. Put covered strata in oven and bake for 30-40 mins. Uncover the strata about 1/2 way though to brown the cheese and bread on top.4. Strata is finished when it has set up but is still a bit moist. Try not to dry it out.5. Serve immediately. Serving suggestion. If you are doing the one with sausage, try drizzling a bit of real maple syrup on it.
Thank you for sharing this–what a truly beautiful remembrance of Nina. I miss her so much. Last year, on Nina’s birthday, a mass was said for her at the church she attended and we cooked at the soup kitchen that evening in her honor. We will be continuing this tradition this year on the day before her birthday. Perhaps this year, we could make “Breakfast for Dinner” and cook Nina’s strata.I wanted to add a couple words as to what Nina meant to me. I looked back at an e-mail I had written to Michael, their families, and our close friends the day after she passed away. I had included a prayer I had found which began: “Someday, not now, and perhaps not for a long while-you will remember her with less pain and more joy… ” At the time I wrote this, it was hard for me to believe that the deep sadness I felt would ever fade. But over time the grief has been replaced with all of the wonderful memories I have of Nina. I’ve pasted below a couple of the words I wrote about Nina that day along with the full prayer and bible passage.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Nina was such a beautiful person inside and out. I’ve never meant someone who made me feel more and at home and welcome when I visited. Nina was a wonderful mother, a truly caring friend, and always filled the room with her laughter and joy.She will be deeply, deeply missed.Here is a thought and a bible passage which is helping to comfort me.Someday, not now,and perhaps not for a long while-You will remember herwith less pain and more joy.But for now–just knowGod walks beside youevery moment of every dayto comfort you.”And the peace of God,which passesall understanding,will keep your heartsand your mindsin Christ Jesus.”–Philippians 4:7
Wow. I was just having a “bad Nina night”, in keeping with the full moon. I have such fond memories of working in the soup kitchen with Nina and Michael and their girls, and my wife Taya. (Nina introduced us, and our first date was a double date with Nina and Michael, and he proposed to her that night. This was at Ravinia featuring Placido Domingo.) Sometimes one of my jobs was to clown around with the girls, and their laughter would add even more happiness to a room bursting at the seems with love. Christmas Eve was always a wonderful time in our family. Thank you for writing this.
I knew Nina and know Mike and their girls through my older sister Megan who grew up with Mike in Evanston. The times I spent in the Combopiano-Whitney home were usually around the holidays when Mike, Nina and Megan’s out of town friends were in for a visit. Those gatherings were always so much fun and Nina did have such an amazing way of welcoming you into their home and making you feel so comfortable there. One of my favorite memories is from Christmastime in 2003 when my sister Meg, my husband Bob, my son Sean (who was about 2-3 months old at the time) and I went to their house. I was nursing at the time and was still getting use to doing it around others and wasn’t always sure if I should, if it wouldmake those around me uncomfortable. I remember asking if Nina and others would mind if I nursed Sean there in their family room and Nina assured me it was fine and that she use to nurse her girls like that all the time! I also remember that day being so impressed that their girls had such good manners for their age, when they wanted something they would say “may I please have some…” Nina always impressed me as being a wonderful mother and holding my infant that day, I hoped I would be such a good mother someday. Anyway, my son Sean is 3 now and I often think of Nina when I am trying to teaching him good manners among other things!Anyway, thank you for sharing this wonderful story about Nina, Christmas Eve, the strata and the soup kitchen! Mike thank you for sharing the recipe!Take care and God bless.Love,Kathy :)PS – “What we once enjoyed and loved deeply we can never lose. For all that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” ~ Helen Keller