hope diamond, all right

by bam

i’m not too keen on wearing my medical woes on my sleeve, and in fact i wish i could keep them locked tight in a jar at the back of the cellar. but because sometimes i can’t hide how afraid i get, and because profound wisdoms are here to be unearthed in riding the hills and vales of cancerland, i’ve thought hard about when to say what. or whether to ever say anything at all. and today, i have a story to tell that might make you smile, and might bring you hope — for whatever your own scary tale is. (and it wouldn’t seem fair to leave you thinking that happy twists are never somewhere off in the distance.)

it’s a chapter that began back in early october when my every-six-months scan came back not the way anyone wanted, and the surgeon who called to give the bad news spent less than three minutes on the phone spelling it out, including the seconds it took for him to tell me that if in fact it was a recurrence (an especially bad thing, a mere 18 months from first diagnosis) they’d consider taking out the rest of my lung. that’s a lot for a girl to swallow in less than the time it takes to peel the skin off an apple. 

he wound up telling me he wanted to push up my next scan to just after the new year, a date that seemed a grand canyon away, the far side of thanksgiving, christmas, new years, and my birthday. 

so i did what any scared person with a bolt of bad news might do: i stopped breathing, started to cry, and because i was home alone i dialed a brother i love, a brother i’ve leaned on more than once when life’s at its thickest. (it was too scary to tell my own boys or practically anyone else for that matter, not when there were so many questions and no answers in sight. my number one instinct, no matter the script, seems to always be to protect my boys from unneeded worries. so i waited till i could give them more than a basket of runaway fears.)

tears dried that ominous october morn, i got on the horn, or in this case the keyboard whose little black keys allow me to reach far and wide to my wee brigade of self-assembled experts who understand the ins and outs of my wily little cancer, a cancer that doesn’t like to play by anyone’s rules. my No. 1 expert, a fellow with nose to the microscope who studies this rare iteration as well as lovingly caring for people who have it, wanted me to board a plane and fly to salt lake city to go under anesthesia and have a little chunk of lung snipped out for biopsy: the surest way to get to the bottom of things. but he also decided in the end that it might be just as reasonable, and a whole lot less stress, to wait for the next scan in chicago, a mere four weeks difference between the two options. 

it would not be understatement to say that i was pretty much as scared as i’ve ever been for a good bunch of that time. went so far as to type up housekeeping instructions, made sure my passwords were all up to date, and even thought hard about a few other things too dark to type here. it’s what happens when you know there’s a cancer lurking inside and you’ve no idea what it’s up to, but the indications aren’t good. 

i admit to a panic attack or two before things settled down. but then i started breathing again, and the day before my birthday (the one i’d once worried would never come) i swam a mile in my little warm bath of a swimming pool (i swim with the seniors these days, and by seniors i mean the ladies who glide out of wheelchairs and into the pool where they take laps walking edge to edge of the pool.) and the day before the scan i did it again. a mile, that is. my dear mama, looked at me in that way that she can, and asked, “what are you trying to prove?” to which the answer would be, that cancer can’t catch me. as if. 

well, it took a good week for the radiologists at my big fancy medical center to get a close look at the scan and when they did they finally sent word: looks good, they agreed. and even tossed in a cherry on top when they wrote “mild improvement” in one particularly concerning spot. 

it took a minute or two for the truth to sink in, but the image that came soonest to mind was a big shimmering diamond. a blob of diamond the likes of which i’d not before pictured in such shimmering shards of luminous light. 

i felt like someone had just handed me the hope diamond, the gift of six whole months before they need to go in there and peek around again. i felt the full sweep of six months in which every sentence my boys speak isn’t backwashed by my own private fear that i won’t be around for the end of the story. 

to be told that your worries, the ones that all but froze you in fear, are lifted, are zapped, are momentarily wiped off the map, is to be catapulted into a landscape you’d thought was a no-trespassing zone. 

it’s pretty much like getting your life handed back to you on a plate. a gold-rimmed one.

you get to imagine the very few ways you wish to cherish this breathtaking time. you consider buying a pair of plane tickets and telling each of your boys to pack a bag and fly away with you for a weekend. to take long walks, and sit over candlelit dinners. to hold hands on the sands of a beach. or a bustling city sidewalk. to tell the deepest truths. and to say as many times as you possibly possibly can that you will love them till beyond the end of all time. 

you think of the moments you might be around to absorb now that you’re not being shoved toward the exit. and the peals of pure joy sure to rise up when wee dreams come true. and maybe a big one or two. 

you think of how blessed you’ll feel, day in and day out, when not an hour nor minute is taken for granted. when staring up into a starry night, or tiptoeing into the dawn will each be a moment you’d feared would not come. will be a moment of beauty you all but bathe in, every drop of it sacred and whole. 

simply because you’re alive, you’re awake, and you’re drinking it in. 

you take a deep breath once again, and you all but fall on your knees: life is giving you one more run at making it count. and you’ll not waste it. you utterly, totally, certainly promise. 

here, some of the holiest words i read this week, while working my way through a good old-fashioned case of influenza, the kind with fever and cough that send you under the blankets….

May you grow still enough to hear the small noises earth makes in preparing for the long sleep of winter, so that you yourself may grow calm and grounded deep within. 

May you grow still enough to hear the trickling of water seeping into the ground, so that your soul may be softened and healed, and guided in its flow. 

May you grow still enough to hear the splintering of starlight in the winter sky and the roar at earth’s fiery core. 

May you grow still enough to hear the stir of a single snowflake in the air, so that your inner silence may turn into hushed expectation.  

–David Steindl Rast, May You Grow Still Enough To Hear

and lastly, when you’re lying around under blankets, poking around the internet is the most fun you might find, so here’s what i found when i got curious about the hope diamond this week: 

the Hope Diamond, which happens to be blue as the sky in july, weighs in at a walloping 45.52 carats, and thus has been heralded round the world since the 18th century, though its story traces back to when it was dug from an indian mine a century earlier.

according to the mind hive that is wikipedia, its recorded history begins in 1666, when the French gem merchant Jean-Baptiste Tavernier purchased it in India in uncut form. After cutting it and renaming it “the French Blue” (Le bleu de France), Tavernier sold it to King Louis XIV of France in 1668. It was stolen in 1792 and re-cut, with the largest section of the diamond appearing under the Hope name in an 1839 gem catalogue from the Hope banking family, from whom the diamond’s name derives.

did any happy twists in a tale come upon you this week?