an off-the-top-of-my-head thank-you list
this one’s a bit more heavily weighted in the medical department, but only because this year brought a tsunami of things i wasn’t expecting….and each of those things has amplified my fierce attention and devotion to the miracle—yes, miracle—of being alive and immersed in the intense wonder of all those things i count as the miracles of my one wild and precious life…
dear holy God, and Breath of Breath,
i am oozing thanks this season. oozing it out of my every breath and every pore.
thank you, God, for surgeons first and most, the ones who cut out the things that otherwise might do us in. thank you especially for ones who deliver tough news with all the compassion in the world, and follow it up with a big fat dollop of great good humor. and make us laugh out loud while swiping back a tear.
thank you for the ones who hold us up — who squeeze our hand, who stand by our bedside, who bend down to kiss us on the forehead and do not leave us alone with our awful terrible worries.
thank you for every kindness offered up from here at this old, much-loved table. and for the kindness of each and every blessed soul who ever pulls up a chair and shares her wisdom, aloud or in a holy whisper.
thank you for long phone calls with the ones i love, the ones whose world i never ever want to leave.
thank you for the fellow travelers who forge their own tangled paths through the rough terrain that comes with any daunting diagnosis, and who never give up, never lose their brilliant sense of humor, never ever leave me feeling anything other than wholly, wholly heard, and blessed, and understood.
thank you for the dawn, and the way the sky ignites in flamingo-feathered plush. thank you for the cloak of inky night and the way the starlit pinpricks remind us there is depth beyond our reach, always depth.
thank you for the two boys born from me, and most of all for the invisible cord that ties our hearts and that will never ever be scythed. thank you for the times they reach across the car seat and take me by the hand, saying more in silence than a thousand pages might ever say.
thank you for the grace that led me back from the precipice of fear to the steadying ground of hope, for that faint sliver of light that lets me look not around the next bend, but clearly and brilliantly at each sure step along the way.
thank you for brothers who take my hand at the end of long, hard days, and in silence steady me. thank you for the mother who laughs aloud these days. a giggling that never fails to melt my heart. and who, amid last night’s thanksgiving kitchen melee, quotes me lines from shakespeare during a tete-a-tete about where i might have tucked her lipstick when i unpacked a bathroom moving box: “fair in that she never studied to be fairer than Nature made her,” quoteth she, with sparkle in her eye, as she recited the line she remembered they inscribed beside her name in her high school yearbook.
thank you for the rare doctor who took the time — and heart — to sit down across a screen from me, and filled me with kindness and the answers to questions others had swatted away.
thank you for those nights when the dining room is filled with noise, and stories zinging here and there. thank you for all the noise that’s always risen from the tables where we gather.
dear God, thank you for the flocks. every last one of the antics out my window. the squawking jays, and cheery wren. the radiant papa cardinal, and his lifelong mate, the one in much-diluted garb. and thank you for my lifelong mate, the one who’s made it his morning task to ferry out the can of seed that draws in all the avian animations. and who now presses his nose to the windowpanes to keep close watch.
thank you for express check-out on those days when you realize you forgot the one more block of cream cheese you needed for your mashed potatoes.
thank you for that blessed sister-in-law who stepped up to the sink last night and insisted that washing dishes was one of her favorite things to do (“tangible results,” she claimed!) and thus plowed through a dinner table’s worth of mashed-potato-dressing-cranberry-and-gravy-splattered plates.
and thank you for the never-failing inclination to pause, to pay attention, to offer up deep thanks for this heaven here on earth. even when it’s messy.
in this season of holy praise, this…
Praise Song by Barbara Crooker
Praise the light of late November,
the thin sunlight that goes deep in the bones.
Praise the crows chattering in the oak trees;
though they are clothed in night, they do not
despair. Praise what little there’s left:
the small boats of milkweed pods, husks, hulls,
shells, the architecture of trees. Praise the meadow
of dried weeds: yarrow, goldenrod, chicory,
the remains of summer. Praise the blue sky
that hasn’t cracked yet. Praise the sun slipping down
behind the beechnuts, praise the quilt of leaves
that covers the grass: Scarlet Oak, Sweet Gum,
Sugar Maple. Though darkness gathers, praise our crazy
fallen world; it’s all we have, and it’s never enough.
what are the words to your praise song?
and before i go, this beauty slid under the transom yesterday from my friends at Image Journal, and not only because the poet makes up words (as i so love to do) but because it’s breathtaking, i leave you with this to carry you across the day….
“Imagineer of Variety” by John Terpstra
Maker of heaven and earth
——–of time and season
Thinker-upper of soil
—— of autumn decay, and rot
and roots drawing nutrients
——-whatever they are
that feed and sustain
—— the beauty of the lilies, and the violets
Imagineer of variety
Puller-offer of the impossible
breaking our hearts
——-every spring day
——-with greater magnolia blossom
————–finer, more delicate red bud
Overwhelmer
——-we’re speechless
——-we need a moment to collect ourselves
Not everyone buys this, of course, O God
Not everyone sees or recognizes
——-You
They’ve thought their way out of it
——-or give it no thought
And we have no proof
——-other than what our eyes see
————–our hearts feel
——-other than the telltale marks and events
————–in our lives
——-the conviction of the starlight
Is that the flutter of your Spirit
——-which just brushed its winged breath against our cheek?
It’s okay
we’ll believe for them
We have no proof
——-other than our parents
——-and their parents
————–parents by birth, parents by choice, parents by adoption
other than the witness
——-of multitudinous generations
——-the choir chorusing through time
——-children in the front row
————–who are not yet quite settled into the song
————–children by birth, by choice, by adoption
we have no proof
other than the story we have heard
——-and have ourselves entered
holding the children’s hands
————–letting their hands go
everyone thinks
——-we know how the story will go
when we know very little
——-other than this grace in which we stand
——-and a certain kind of trust
other than these words
this morning
here
——-in your presence
What a riot
to be able to speak, together
——-to you
what a blast of pure delight
though it’s hard to let go
——-the sorrow and concern that crowds round
help us
——-in the sufferings of a world that brings us such joy
——-in our own sufferings
let the blast last
the riot of life, the green burst
——-that’s filling in the blanks
————–of a winter landscape
——-as if it has something to say
and is saying it
singing it
——-to our very souls
——-which sing along
bless you, bless you, each and all. . .