antidotes to madness | pull up a chair

by mid-morning the other day, after a lava flow of bumbling words had frothed from my mouth, after fumbling through apology and course correction that led me to nowhere, abruptly finding myself in a remarkable tizz, spinning wild and wildly into the cattails and weeds, i found myself yearning for an etch-a-sketch day.

that is: utterly drenched in your fallible, flailing, decidedly flappable self, you long to give a shake to the day, clear the screen, dispense with the scratch marks you’ve left in your wake, and start all over again. clean slate.

oh, that it were so doable. that our foibles were so very expungeable.

that we could erase our blunders, reset our starts.

my sins, such as they were, amounted to little more than worries let loose, a storm of what-ifs infusing and infecting an otherwise placid launch of the day. i feared, though, they might be contagious, that the someone to whom i was blathering might soon come down with a similar case of the shakes. and i loathed my frazzled old self for flinging my woes with such reckless abandon.

oh, to take a deep breath, a pure cleansing breath, and aim to be stalwart and steady afresh.

so it is, here in the land of the human. we are but an amalgam of shortfalls and bumbles, with only the occasional triumph to claim for ourselves.

and as much as we might drown in the muck of that unvarnished truth, there might be much more to the story.

consider the utterly human condition, our magnificent fallibility.

yes, magnificent.

lest the abrupt turn here catch you off guard, let me explain: it is against the backdrop of a papal encyclical (for me, who woke early monday to read it, the big news of the week) that i found myself catching a glimmer of something i’d only before seen as a shortfall. and therein is the beauty.

as chicago’s own father bob, aka Il Papa, Leo XIV, so lucidly put it, it is the very fact of our imperfection, our bruises and soft spots, that not only make for our lusciousness but give us our reason for being. we are here to work through the kinks. our majesty is in our not knowing, our awkward pauses in silence whilst the wheels of our brains gurgle and churn, sputter and eventually spew.

it’s this fleshed-out portrait of humanity that leo holds up against the blemishless facade of AI, the newfangled sphere where answers come swiftly (nay, instantaneously) and stripped of question or wonder or doubt. it’s the realm of the certain, the acquisitive grab of all recorded text, that produces, like a slice popped from a toaster, whatever you wanted to know about whatever you might have otherwise pondered and wondered. musing not wanted nor needed here.

and what’s lost?

cue the encyclical, paragraph 99, with special emphasis on the artificial that’s twinned with the intelligence:

“What can be stated, however, is that we must avoid the misconception of equating this type of ‘intelligence’ with that of human beings. These systems merely imitate certain functions of human intelligence. In doing so, they often surpass human intelligence in speed and computational capacity, offering tangible benefits across many fields. Yet this power remains entirely tied to data processing. So-called artificial intelligences do not undergo experiences, do not possess a body, do not feel joy or pain, do not mature through relationships and do not know from within what love, work, friendship or responsibility mean. Nor do they have a moral conscience, since they do not judge good and evil, grasp the ultimate meaning of situations, or bear responsibility for consequences.”

we humans, his holiness goes on to note, are creatures who are “shaped by life and grow over time through choices, mistakes, forgiveness and fidelity.”

choices, mistakes, forgiveness, fidelity.

oh, the litany of all the above that has marked me and molded me, made me into the scarred, the limping, the daffy body and soul that i am. that we all are.

we needn’t erase any or all of that whom we are. we’ve all gotten here the bumpy way. the trial-and-error, the forgive-me-i’m-sorry, the let’s-take-it-from-the-top way.

we are born, all of us, without instruction manual (a fact that becomes alarmingly notable when handed a newborn outside the nursery, and told to figure it out as they point us toward the door). we bumble our way. we try, most days anyway, not to get in the way of ourselves. not to hurt those in our path. and certainly not the ones we love most.

we blow it. squelch opportunity. drop the ball. miss the mark. strike out. chicken out. fritz out.

we all have days we want to start all over again. moments we wish we could play in reverse. lines we’d do well to stuff back into our mouths. looks we wish hadn’t flashed ‘cross our faces.

but then we would be so artificial. so unmistakably automaton. our intelligence, really, would be poured from a jar. diluted with water, and stirred.

an efficient facsimile of some fraction of human.

in the end, upon actual brain-fueled consideration, i’ve come to conclude: i’ll take my days messy, mistake-y, and utterly fallible.

no need, after all, for the etch-a-sketch.

have you considered the ways your soft spots and bumps have made you more beautiful? as you look back across your life, do you see the dead ends and potholes as all part of the wonder?

here’s but one line from the encyclical, Magnifica Humanitas, “magnificent humanity,” worthy of deeply human pondering, musing, meditation:

“Finitude, when truly accepted, does not diminish us but opens us to recognizing the face of God and others. Indeed, precisely because we experience limits—vulnerability, suffering and failure—we can recognize the inviolable dignity of every person, both our own and that of others.”

and think not that moral complexity is at the heart of humanity. here again, a line from the encyclical worthy of long meditation:

“Even when persons dehumanize themselves and bring about tragedy, a small light continues to shine within humanity, one that can be rekindled, with God’s grace, along paths of conversion and reconciliation. As Viktor Frankl rightly observed, in moments of horror, ‘we have come to know man as he really is. After all, man is that being who invented the gas chambers of Auschwitz; however, he is also that being who entered those gas chambers upright, with the Lord’s Prayer or the Shema Yisrael on his lips.'”

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May 22, 2026

the balm in gilead

the balm of gilead: in ancient, Biblical times, a resin derived from the buds of *Pistacia lentiscus*, or pistachio trees, found along the Jordan River

gulps of coffee fuel me this morning, groggy as i am from a near-crippling concoction of cough, cold, inhaling too much pollen, and the foolishness of staying up far too late to honor the last gasp of late night’s saving grace these past unfathomable years. i felt downright patriotic and duty-bound to stay awake and bid the nearly-midnight crew adieu.

after all, that late-night slot has all but saved me. over these long, long, oft-unbearable years, there’ve been so, so many days when the horrors and antics of washington have found me groping for the tonic of someone who might all but croon me a lullaby and tuck me tautly between the sheets—maybe, just maybe, chase away the monsters. someone who could bore into the core of the madness, call it out for what it is, and find a way to soothe our jangled, jagged nerves. or make us laugh before and as we wept about it.

first, they took away our brian williams, a gentle giant of old-school newscasting who, in the thick of years that straight off hit the skids with doomsday portraits of american carnage, then railroaded right along to ivermectin and bleach-in-our-veins prescriptions from the presidential podium, becalmed me at the 10 p.m. central-time slot. and now, they’ve snatched stephen right out from under us. the man could make me howl with glee at the mere cocking of his wicked eyebrow. and make me feel less a sinner for the dyspepsia the spewed inside me. “thou shalt not hate,” i repeat and repeat, trying oh-so-hard not to cross that God-drawn line.

so i stayed up. which my raggedy body says was stupid.

but, heck, i’d hoped my hero of the year—leo the fourteenth, Il Papa—might pop in, at least via vatican-city zoom. or some other heavenly-ordained teleportation.

all of which is to say, i should be curled asleep still. but the chair, the clarion call in my every friday morning for the last 1,018 fridays, stirred me from my slumber.

and all of which is to back boldly and clunkily into my preoccupation of the week: a book i can’t put down.

which is where we clear our throats, shake the sleep from our eyes, and dive in: this week’s musing . . .

in my backwards, upside-down, and oft off-kilter life’s syllabus, my self-guided and plenty-potholed quest to figure out a thing or two before signing off from this lifetime, my list of texts to absorb is (as you might surmise if you eyeballed the death-defying book stack beside my bed) dangerously, dauntingly, beyond measure.

pathetically, my ratio of books begun to books read through to the end is woefully skewed—conservatively hovering at roughly 1,000:1.

avid starter am i. resolutely failed finisher—guilty as charged.

rare is the book that holds me page after page, so enfolded in imagination or intellect i dare not distract myself with some other tome lazing around in one of the many, many stacks that punctuate this old house. thinking back across the last decade, annie dillard’s pilgrim at tinker creek was one. niall williams’ this is happiness, might have been the only other. a third is soon to be added to the triumphant short roster.

gilead, gosh darn it, has me held captive.

marilynne robinson’s 2004 pulitzer prize-winning “hymn of praise and lamentation to the God-haunted existence” of a congregationalist minister, the reverend john ames, a late-in-life father who loves the quiet country life “from which he will soon part,” has me running up to my book-reading nook every chance i can snatch, and ferrying the dog-eared paperback hither and yon.

john ames is 76 when we meet him, long rooted in gilead, iowa, dwelling in the very parsonage in which he’s spent most of his many years, having grown up in that drafty, dreary house as his father—and grandfather—had both been ministers there in the “dogged little outpost” that is fictional gilead. straight off, we learn that ames, our protagonist, suffers from a failing heart, and believes his death is imminent. thus, he’s compelled to write a letter to his seven-year-old, late-born son (“the fruit,” as the new york times once put it, of ames’ recent marriage to a much younger woman).

ames’ first wife and baby daughter have died in childbirth, we learn, and so this son from a wholly unexpected late-in-life redemptive marriage is the singular focus of a father desperate to pack a lifetime of wisdom and lore into jottings and passages that stretch to 247 pages. written in episodic, diary-like entries, nearly stream of consciousness, unspooling generations of wisdoms and family stories, lest the son (whose name we never learn) be left with nothing of his father, it’s a book that leaves me gasping for its sublime beauties—both the literary and the theological.

it’s not every day i run across a tome of which it’s been said these things: “Robinson has composed a novel as big as a nation, as quiet as thought, and moving as prayer.” (Kirkus Reviews, starred). “One feels touched with grace just to read it.” (Washington Post). Mark O’Connell in The New Yorker wrote: “I have read and loved a lot of literature about religion and religious experience—Tolstoy, Dostoevsky, Flannery O’Connor, the Bible—but it’s only with Robinson that I have actually felt what it must be like to live with a sense of the divine.”

no wonder i’ve slipped right in, and can’t bear to pull away. i too yearn to live that way, with a palpable sense of the divine, a God who brushes up against me—here, there, and anywhere.

in the very same way i’m drawn most deeply to poetry that comes at God not head-on but through the slant, the side window, so too with prose. what takes my breath away most, in just about any writing—fiction or non—is not when i’m klonked on the head but suddenly swept by a wind i feel but cannot see. “God-haunted,” the times put it. “bothered by God,” is how my friend joe the jesuit priest puts it. john ames’ “bothered” is my enlightenment.

truth is, i finally decided i had to read gilead because father joe (whose theology class, THEO 4300, “the question of God in a secular age,” i recently visited) admits when prodded that he has memorized nearly every word of it, can recite practically any passage from it. quite frankly, i was intrigued. flat-out curious. and i trust joe implicitly.

father joe, who wrote his doctoral dissertation at oxford on the theology and literature of robinson and virginia wolff, says robinson’s writing “reveals a deeply sacramental imagination.” in one of many essays he’s written about her, father joe argues that “robinson trains her readers in the discipline of spiritual attention. where is God’s grace operating in nature and in the ordinary ways humans love, disappoint and forgive one other?” father joe goes on to point out that “in her essay ‘Psalm 8,’ she writes, ‘i have spent my life watching not to see beyond the world,’ but ‘merely to see, great mystery, what is plainly before my eyes… with all due respect to heaven, the scene of miracle is here, among us.’ the miracle we await in Advent is not distant, but meets us in the messiness of our human relationships: Emmanu-el, God with us.”

spiritual attention, i suppose, is my core curriculum. urgently so. especially now, when the godless world works so very hard to pull me—pull us all—under its light-blocking curtain. (and when i so desperately need my late-night tonic, now pulled off the shelf.)

a deep dive into gilead, into robinson, was the surest balm i could find this week.

here’s just some of what i’ve pulled from my latest excursion into this well-upholstered rabbit hole. . .

here’s where we begin, the book’s first passage, john ames addresses his sweet little son:

and while plenty of lines have left me reaching for a vat of highlighter yellow, here’s but one:

describing his love for iowa’s landscape, ames writes: “I have lived my life on the prairie and a line of oak trees can still astonish me.”

or the snippets of poetry posing as passing descriptions…

in one of ames’ passages, he sees his grandfather as “a wild-haired, one-eyed, scrawny old fellow with a crooked beard, like a paintbrush left to dry with lacquer in it.” or, describing him further, the old man seemed “stricken and afflicted, and indeed he was, like a man everlastingly struck by lightning, so that there was an ashiness about his clothes and his hair never settled and his eye had a look of tragic alarm when he wasn’t actually sleeping.”

when i step back and wonder why i spend so, so many hours of my life with my nose proverbially and literally stuck in a book, it’s to stumble across a line like this next one, one that just might set the mortar of the bricks that herringbone my path

ames recalls that “Augustine says the Lord loves each of us as an only child, and that has to be true. ‘He will wipe the tears from all faces.’ It takes nothing from the loveliness of the verse to say that is exactly what will be required.”

and there is good company in the gilead fan club:

barack obama, who awarded robinson a 2012 national humanities medal, counts gilead as one of his favorites. in september, 2015, in what’s been noted as “a reversal of journalistic convention,” the 44th president of these united states interviewed robinson on a stage in des moines, for the new york review of books, and told her:

I first picked up Gilead, one of your most wonderful books, here in Iowa. Because I was campaigning at the time, and there’s a lot of downtime when you’re driving between towns and when you get home late from campaigning. … And I’ve told you this—one of my favorite characters in fiction is a pastor in Gilead, Iowa, named John Ames, who is gracious and courtly and a little bit confused about how to reconcile his faith with all the various travails that his family goes through. And I was just—I just fell in love with the character, fell in love with the book …

“This is an interesting planet. It deserves all the attention you can give it.” — Marilynne Robinson, Gilead

an excerpt, john ames (via robinson’s pen) writing of his church at dawn (pages 70-71):

It’s a plain old church and it could use a coat of paint. But in the dark times I used to walk over before sunrise just to sit there and watch the light come into that room. I don’t know how beautiful it might seem to anyone else. I felt much at peace those mornings, praying over very dreadful things sometimes — the Depression, the wars. There was a lot of misery for people around here, decades of it. But prayer brings peace, as I trust you know.

In those days, as I have said, I might spend most of a night reading. Then, if I woke up still in my armchair, and if the clock said four or five, I’d think how pleasant it was to walk through the streets in the dark and let myself into the church and watch dawn come in the sanctuary. I loved the sound of the latch lifting. The building has settled into itself so that when you walk down the aisle, you can hear it yielding to the burden of your weight. It’s a pleasanter sound than an echo would be, an obliging, accommodating sound. You have to be there alone to hear it. Maybe it can’t feel the weight of a child. But if it is still standing when you read this, and if you are not half a world away, sometime you might go there alone, just to see what I mean. After a while I did begin to wonder if I liked the church better with no people in it. . . .

In the old days I could walk down every single street, past every house, in about an hour. I’d try to remember the people who lived in each one, and whatever I knew about them, which was often quite a lot. . . . And I’d pray for them. And I’d imagine peace they didn’t expect and couldn’t account for descending on their illness or their quarreling or their dreams. Then I’d go into the church and pray some more and wait for daylight. I’ve often been sorry to see a night end, even while I have loved seeing the dawn come.

Trees sound different at night, and they smell different too.

and here, robinson reading robinson…

where did you find balm this week?

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May 15, 2026

the question of happiness

jane got me started. jane kenyon, the poet. she’s the one who got me thinking here.

but before i bring jane into this conversation, a conversation sparked by one of her poems, this one titled simply “happiness,” i feel compelled to consider the case of happiness, the subject dragged squarely into our attention.

happiness, i fear, has been shoved to the back of the pursuit shelf (it was a founding pursuit, after all) as it seems to have taken on hallmarkian gauze. it’s blurred at the edges. and if it were a color, it might be some sort of bubblegum pink. it’s joy lite, watered down, saccharine—or so it seems, in this dark historical moment.

it might seem an out-of-reach luxury. what with bombs dropping from skies, drones the latest iteration of lethal birds. who has room for bubble-generator happiness when dread is the common denominator?

i’m going out on a ledge here: i’ll guess i’m not alone in claiming it essential, life-sustaining, worthy of our attention. it’s the active-dry yeast in our days that just might keep us from collapse. rains down out of nowhere, quite oft; dissolves just as quickly.

at simple glance, i’ll concede, it might seem, well, silly.

joy, its elder sister, worthier of pursuit, perhaps. a bit more dignity there. never mind ebullience—a whole other rainbow, happy on steroids, so happy your toes start to wiggle.

we’re talking happiness, pure and simple here.

and that’s where jane comes in. jane, the poet laureate of new hampshire when she died in 1995, at 47 of leukemia, seized that ephemeral quiver, and did the hard work that poets do: she aimed to put words to it. reached for moments that just might capture it. opened her voluminous soul to allow you, too, to peek in. to understand what she was talking about. to grasp, even for a moment, that happiness—especially in the darkest of times—will always be wafting just beyond the margins, out of sight, seemingly out of reach. and then, kaboom! in it will ride on the breeze. tickle us deep down in that joy-registering station. the one where suddenly we realize we are not alone, and not in the dark.

happiness, she makes us think, just might be mightier and more imperative than we imagine. than we’ve cheapened it to seem.

if you’re of the God-believing ilk (and i’ve made it rather clear here that i am), i wonder if that fleeting stirring of the heart or soul, that sense that for a minute there someone cranked the burner and the chemistry inside has suddenly changed, i wonder if it’s a mistake to call it merely happiness. maybe, more aptly, it’s a moment of God. maybe the God we try and try to define, to understand, to see in living color, maybe God comes sometimes in the cloak of a tickling joy, another name for plain old, pedestrian, under-sold happiness.

i wonder if, sometimes, the ineffable, ephemeral, mysterious God drops in, out of the blue, draws us into the swift-running river of radiant light, gives us a dunk, before dropping us back on the sandy bank, uncertain of what’s just happened. and all we know to call it is happiness. but really it’s more. so, so much more.

i’ll let jane take her crack at this; see if you see what she means. maybe she will convince you.

Happiness

There’s just no accounting for happiness,
or the way it turns up like a prodigal
who comes back to the dust at your feet
having squandered a fortune far away.

And how can you not forgive?
You make a feast in honor of what
was lost, and take from its place the finest
garment, which you saved for an occasion
you could not imagine, and you weep night and day
to know that you were not abandoned,
that happiness saved its most extreme form
for you alone.

No, happiness is the uncle you never
knew about, who flies a single-engine plane
onto the grassy landing strip, hitchhikes
into town, and inquires at every door
until he finds you asleep midafternoon,
as you so often are during the unmerciful
hours of your despair.

It comes to the monk in his cell.
It comes to the woman sweeping the street
with a birch broom, to the child
whose mother has passed out from drink.
It comes to the lover, to the dog chewing
a sock, to the pusher, to the basket maker,
and to the clerk stacking cans of carrots
in the night.

It even comes to the boulder
in the perpetual shade of pine barrens,
to rain falling on the open sea,
to the wineglass, weary of holding wine.

+ Jane Kenyon

happiness, she makes clear (rather than argues), is one of life’s glues. it’s on its own clock, plays by its own rules. it might lie in wait: ready to leap out from the geranium pot you found on the bargain shelf; lurk in the email that arrives out of the blue, the long lost college friend you’d thought had forgotten you. happiness, i know, comes in rooms filled with cancer. and just as surely drifts into the grocery store checkout line. it doesn’t seek invitation (and just as blithely ignores our most ardent invites, the times we’re down on our knees begging and pleading). happiness, often, is one short splice from the ever-after reel. extended play is not in its repertoire.

maybe its beauty, its levity comes from its uncharted choreography. it comes and it goes, all of its own accord. and it surely never stays long. but it peeks from just around the corner every once in a while. while enough to make us sense it might be out there; lurking. worthy of pursuit, after all.

happiness—fleeting, sometimes forgotten—is what keep us from crumbling. a pinch of it here, a dab there. its work is beyond proportion. not unlike salt, another life-sustaining grain, happiness, no matter how sparse, just might save us. and, surely, it’s worthy of our keenest attention.

that faint quiver of heart: be on the lookout.

it just might be God, in yet another disguise.

where do you find happiness? can you describe it?

jane kenyon dwells among my innermost circle of poets. i sat in her house once, the white clapboard house at eagle pond farm in new hampshire; swapped letters with her late great husband, the poet donald hall. her poems, pouring from the pen of a daughter of the heartland, rattle me in their stripped-bare simplicities, their unadorned arrows. she takes my breath away with lines so clear they settle forever in my vernacular: “otherwise,” “let evening come”. . .

in case you’re still here, and willing to ride along for a bit of a binge, a few things:

this marvelous short film from friends at the SALT Project, where we hear jane reading her poem, “otherwise” . . .

this link to a short bit of consideration of her most well-known poems.

and this fascinating article from Reformed Journal (self-described as “meaning open, curious, progressive, more interested in building bridges than walls, while still standing in the historical line of Christian orthodoxy”) exploring Jane’s work, where i found these few grafs worth a copy and paste:

Finding God

Jane Kenyon was born (23 May 1947) and raised in rural Ann Arbor, across the road from a working farm, attending a one-room schoolhouse for the elementary grades. She enjoyed the rural upbringing; her imagination flourished in the pastoral setting. Especially, then, her stays at Grandmother Kenyon’s large boarding house in downtown Ann Arbor posed a strange and dangerous world. At Grandmother’s boarding house, young Jane’s imagination took an unexpected turn. One day, after Jane helped Grandmother collect trash from the University of Michigan students’ rooms, they marched down to the basement incinerator. Recollecting the scene in an unfinished essay, “Childhood, When You Are in It,” Kenyon wrote, “As we worked, Grandmother talked about hell, a lake of fire, burning endlessly, or about the Second Coming of Christ, which would put an end to the world as I knew it.” Fearful thoughts for an eight-year-old child.These thoughts didn’t leave her. In her poem “Staying at Grandma’s,” Kenyon wrote:

“You know,” she’d say, turning
her straight and handsome back to me,
“that the body is the temple
of the Holy Ghost.”

The Holy Ghost, the oh, oh. . .the uh
oh, I thought, studying the toe of my new shoe
and glad she wasn’t looking at me.

Religion at Grandmother’s house was comprised of rooms full of theological horrors and restrictive rules.

Partly rebellious by nature, and partly aware of her own capacity for wrongdoing, young Jane simply went home and announced that she was done with religion forever. Her adamancy persisted while she was a student at the University of Michigan during the 1960s, but since it was a trait of that era to test all things, for good or bad, Kenyon decided to give religion one more try. She attended a Unitarian church one Sunday morning, and left convinced of the correctness of her youthful choice.

Having married poet Donald Hall in 1972, Kenyon moved in 1975 with her husband to his ancestral farm in New Hampshire. The enterprise was not without risk. Hall gave up his position and benefits as a literature professor at the University of Michigan; Kenyon gave up a lifetime tied to Ann Arbor for a new culture. Just how quickly that culture encroached upon them became evident one Sunday morning when Hall suggested they attend South Danbury Christian Church. One might call it a social obligation–friends and family would expect to see them there. Nonetheless, by Kenyon’s recollection, minister Jack Jensen, referred to Rilke, and something stirred in her. She sought advice from Jensen, and he pointed her first to the early mystics–Julian of Norwich, St. Therese, and others–then to the gospels. Soon she and Hall were involved in Bible studies. The “little rebel” as she once called herself, bowed down at the altar of the Christian Trinity.

Faith and Art

Kenyon’s Christian belief, however, would be sorely tried in the remaining years before her death on 22 April 1995 of leukemia. Bouts of acute bipolar depressive disorder that had hounded her since her youth, and then the physical toll of fighting off cancers, first of her salivary gland and then of leukemia, exacted their physical, psychological, and spiritual toll. How can one begin to understand the remarkable interplay of both the joys and trials of her life and also the crisp honesty of her art? Two things help us.

From her earliest lines, Kenyon devoted herself to the lyric poem, searching for what she called “the luminous particular.” The aim of the lyric poem is to take an event or experience of particularly impressive quality upon the poet, but to craft it with such telling detail, crisp language, and physicality of imagery that the reader feels this is his or her poem. The reader enters and owns it, rather than the poet simply declaring. The poem thus requires absolute honesty and exacting care by the poet.

the article goes on, but this is the gist i wanted to leave here, at the ol’ maple table…..

blessings on you this week….

love, bam

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May 1, 2026

dr. blanche’s blessed-be challah

the dentist’s chair is the last place in the world i’d think to find enlightenment (especially since i’m not of the Whitening School). but then dr. blanche walked in.

dr. blanche is orthodox. and the first such dentist who’s tended to my teeth while fully decked out in tzniut, the traditional, modest garb of orthodox women, clothing that covers collarbone, elbows, knees, and hair, a Talmudic instruction derived from the biblical injunction to “go discreetly with God,” (Micah 6:8) a line itself worthy of deep pondering in this age of bombastic self-amplification.

but back to dr. blanche. we got to talking (not easy when instruments and hands are inside your mouth.) and in that effortless way that often unfolds, our conversation soon swirled from talk of office management (which dentist worked which days) to how she’s out of office every friday, to Shabbat itself. that’s when i asked if she spent the day cooking, getting ready for the most blessed of holy days, the one that comes at sundown every friday. and that’s when she effused.

“i love cooking,” she said, sparks of joy nearly splashing me and my eye-protecting goggles. “and i love baking. i bake all my bread and challah.”

and that’s when we stood at the edge of the enlightenment to come.

she told me how she makes five pounds of challah dough on fridays. and she told me how making challah—the bread to be blessed at the start of the Sabbath meal, along with the lighting of the candles, and the blessings for the light and the cup of wine—is, in her kitchen, and in every orthodox kitchen, a prayer.

prayer upon prayer, actually. a prayer for every step, and every simple foodstuff, in the making of the blessed bread.

the holiness of sustenance; the sustenance of holiness.

she began to explain: for every ingredient, the flour, the sugar, the salt, the yeast, the egg, the oil, the water, there is a blessing. a sacred pause, and an intertwining of earthly and divine.

each ingredient imbued with sacred purpose.

while sifting flour, she prays for her own soul, to sift out the stumbling blocks that distance her from the radiance she is meant to be, and to amplify the positive, the beauties breathed into all of Creation at our beginnings.

as she measures out the sugar, she prays, not surprisingly, for a sweetness to infuse her being. “to always be able to love.”

as she adds two tablespoons of salt, she asks God to help her know how to set limits in her life, to find balance, between her own needs, her work, and the needs of her family. (she has four kidlets—so far. . .)

and so it goes: dry yeast (happiness, protection, joy); oil (strength, grace on all the world); water (faith, unity); eggs (fertility, and blessing in all she does).

the prayers themselves are beautifully unfolded, and by the time she’d recited the prayer for salt i was in tears, and nearly elevating from the cushy dental chair.

in a world that each morning shatters me with its headlines, its vitriol and violence, its toxic spew of hate, of lies, false idols, i lay (mouth wide open) beneath a prayerful soul who found the very stuff of bread and life a sacred ground for prayer.

i couldn’t stop the tears. nor the sense of awe at how the sacred so caught me by surprise, how it’s ever pulsing in the places where we’d least expect it. how it comes just when we think we might have whirled forever away from the penumbra of its light.

in the kosher kitchen of a woman bent in prayer and kneading.

oh, holy God, You astound me.

can you imagine what it means to bite into that sweet soften golden braid, one so infused with so much goodness? have you imagined, ever, sifting prayer into that which you knead, allow to rise, and put to the heat of the oven?

it is in the simple kitchen rhythms, a geometry of circles and parabolas, in the chemistry and physics of yeast + sugar + water = rise, that a whole league of women round the globe infuse with simple prayers.

i found it nothing less than stirring, i found it deeply ennobling. and i might borrow those very measures for my own ministrations at the cookstove.

the world we know is all but begging for our prayers in whatever nooks and crannies we might stir them. even in the whole-grain slice i’ll soon be popping in the toaster.

here is dr. blanche’s recipe and prayers:

a note: Hashem is the name for God in more conversational terms; it simply means “The Name,” as utterance of God’s most sacred name is reserved for the most sacred time and prayer.

she begins, per the recipe she printed out for me: When you make Challah you are partners with Hashem!!

Pray:

Thank you Hashem for all the blessings you have given me and my family. Thank-you for always protecting us and doing what is best for us.

Please Hashem help me …..It is an “Et Rratzon” (an opportune time) to connect with Hashem.

5lbs. of lbs. flour: While sifting the flour, pray; Please Hashem help me to separate the good from the bad ,help me to get rid of my negative character traits and my Yetzer Hara, help me to focus on the positive and incorporate positive character traits just like I am doing with sifting the flour.

14tbs. of sugar: As you add the sugar, pray; Please Hashem, help me to have a sweet din(judgement) help me to have Ayin Tova ( a good eye) help me and my family to have a sweet life, to always be able to love. Help me to help others and to do chesed (acts of loving kindness).

2 Tbs. of salt: As you add the salt around the flour, pray; please Hashem help me to know how to set limits in my life, how to balance my own needs, my work and my family life. Just like you made our bodies rely on salt for existence allow me to work for purposes of our existence as well. Yet just as overdoing salt is detrimental to us, so too allow me to know when my work is sufficient and to take proper rest and rejuvenate.

3 or 4 packages of dry yeast: Create a hole in the center of the flour in the bowl that you have all the above ingredients in. Then in a separate bowl, add the packages of yeast, 2 more tablespoons of sugar and 1 cup of warm water. When it begins to bubble, add the yeast mixture to the larger bowl with the hole in the center of the flour. Pray: help me to have simcha (happiness) in my home, in my life. Grant us your protection (as yeast in Hebrew is called shimarim which translates to protection) now and always. Please Hashem, allow me to feel joy for others as well. Bless me with tranquility, inner peace so I can continue doing mitzvot.

1/2 cup of oil (I prefer olive oil): Bless us in with good health always. Help us to recognize that everything comes from your hands. All our blessings come from you as well as our hardships. Help us to grow stronger from the hardships and appreciate all that you have blessed us with. Let us be zoche (merit) to see the geula (redemption) and the anointment of Mashiach with oil (shemen hamishcha) speedily in our days amen!

4 and 1/2 cups of water (add more if you need to for the dough to be elastic): as you add the water and knead by folding the dough over and over, pray: Please Hashem help me to connect to you, strengthen my emunah (faith) in you. Help me to connect to the Torah which you blessed us with. Help me to connect to your children and to everyone around me. Help us to have unity among one another and thereby connect to you as you stand for unity. (water, is a connector, it is a key ingredient to life sustenance).

Making challah, or any bread for that matter allows us the women to make tikun on the sin of Chava. By completing the process of challah (bread) baking, we are in essence allowing our neshamot( souls) to feel complete and whole again.

3 eggs (optional): if you add the eggs continue to mix it into the bowl and pray: Please Hashem as this egg represents fertility, so too help me and my children to be blessed with fertility. Help everything I do with my hands to have beracha and remain fertile always.

Most importantly thank you for the life you blessed me with. I realize that this egg is a reminder of my humble beginnings, thereby help me to feel this humility always.

After completing the process of kneading, cover the dough with a large paper towel and a regular towel over that. Allow it to rest for an hour or more to rise.

It is tremendous mitzva for anyone to separate or “take” the challah. Many have the tendency to allow: a woman who is not married yet, to do this mitzvah, so she may find her spouse with ease. You can allow a woman who did not have children yet to separate the challah so she can have children in this merit. Some separate the challah in the merit of certain individual/individuals for refuah shelema (complete healing). Whatever the reason now is a great time to pray for any personal needs you may have as well as anyone else’s needs.

“Taking challah”—pinching off a ball of dough, roughly the size of a ping pong ball, a re-enactment of the temple sacrifice, and a burning in the oven—tells us that whatever we are given is not for our use alone. If we have wisdom, money or good health, our first step is to put them towards a Divine purpose.

Now you are ready to complete the mitzvah of challah. Married women, please cover your hair and make this beracha (blessing):

“May it be Your Will, Eternal, our G-d, that the commandment of separating challah be considered as if I had performed it with all its details and ramifications. May my elevation of the challah be comparable to the sacrifice that was offered on the altar, which was acceptable and pleasing. Just as giving the challah to the Kohein in former times served to atone for sins, so may it atone for mine, and make me like a person reborn without sins. May it enable me to observe the holy Sabbath (or Festival of…) with my husband (and our children) and to become imbued with its holiness. May the spiritual influence of the mitzvah of challah enable our children to be constantly sustained by the hands of the Holy One, blessed is He, with His abundant mercy, loving-kindness, and love. Consider the mitzvah of challah as if I have given the tithe. And just as I am fulfilling this mitzvah with all my heart, so may Your compassion be aroused to keep me from sorrow and pain, always. Amen.”

how do you weave prayer into your everyday?

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April 17, 2026

besotted and struck: a springtime emphatically poignant

i am besotted by the world. and i do not mean the world of humans. i speak, rather, of the song that fills the air, the perfume that wafts on breeze, and the lush lush green that spreads with a river’s insistence.

as the human inhabitants bombard, shatter, poison, crush, and bulldoze, the earth in her infinite wisdoms, her endless generosities, and incomprehensible beauties, repeats and repeats. tracing its choreography as old as time, minute by minute, our little orb turns toward the light of the great star. there it basks. and deep underground the stirring surges, evident in the leaf tips bulging by the hour, by the shocks and brushstrokes of color—of fuchsia and daffodil gold, of snow white and, my favorite, the dashes of cobalt blue—where before the world had been colorless, had been drab, a pastiche of dull brown and sooty and gray.

have you heard the intertwining parabolas of song saturating the start-of-day soundtrack? the high-pitched white-throated sparrow piercing the dawn, the cardinal awaiting his turn. northern house wren chattering, red-winged blackbird lurching to get a note in edgewise?

more than besotted though, i am struck. struck by the profundity with which creation speaks. the way it all but shakes us by the shoulders, calls out, pay heed. this is the endosperm of it all, this way of being, of unfolding, of filling the air and the lens with beauty abundant. with grace. offering bough for the bird’s nest, pushing up an earthly apothecary. it is a masterclass in profligate goodness, “love as you would be loved” spelled out in birdsong and bloom.

you need a short course in how to be generous? look to the viburnum who soon will be perfusing perfumes, catching you by the nose each time you waft by. perhaps a lesson in loving attention? train your eye on the nestlings and the mama robin who spends her every waking minute in search of the juiciest worm, flittering back and forth every two to three minutes, for a day’s-end tally of roughly 500 feedings.

this year, the contrast is starker than ever. the headlines and news reels are filled with rubble and gore. with vitriol and braggadocio. with ugly and uglier, day after day.

but still springtime unfolds. it’s as if this ancient, ancient text understands how thick-headed we earthly inhabitants are. we need the lectures, the lessons, again and again: herein is the paradigm. here are the beauties. here, the graces. you could inhabit the garden of earthly diversities, the narcissus alongside the spring beauty, the red bird sharing the branch with the sparrow.

“i will make it as plain and as clear as is possibly possible,” says the earth to the inattentive. “i will burst forth in such vibrancy you won’t look away. i will dial up the decibels, drown you in song that rises up from winged choristers. you needn’t break each other down, needn’t crush and pillage. needn’t spew hate. you are drowning the planet in the antithesis of Original Intent.”

Creation, i firmly contend, is the unabashed effusion of Godly delight. of a world we are meant to romp in, to love and love each other. that needn’t mean that we need to relish each and every one of us. but it does mean that maybe, just maybe, we look for and find the holy spark that animates us, each and every one of us. and we can make room for each other, not only in spite of but because of our differences, in this unruly paradisiacal garden that springs into joy, into improbable possibility, every quarter turn of the globe.

may peace and beauty be with you, may tender mercies abound. so says the whisper of earth spring after spring….

we’d be wise to listen, to heed.

what whispers did you hear in Creation this week? what lessons unfolded before your eyes or ears?

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April 10, 2026

a world torn by two voices . . .

Earth rising over the lunar surface, *NASA image taken from the far side of the moon*

we live in surreal times. in a moment when we can look upon the planet from afar and all appears serene and blue and unscarred by borders and bombs, we know that here on the surface of that living, breathing orb it is anything but serene, unscarred.

we scroll through the daily census of dead and wounded. the numbers nearly always contain commas, for the suffering extends far beyond the hundreds columns. it’s bomb after bomb after targeted assassination. it’s little girls’ backpacks strewn, bloodied. it’s cries from tehran, from beirut, from kyiv.

the voices that bellow are of two ilk: those who threaten to blow a civilization into a confetti of death and destruction. to “end” it. alternatively, to blast it back to the stone age. call them the vipers. and then there is leo of chicago who will not relent, who calls a spade a deadly spade. who sees those spades for the lances of death that they are. who bores through the hypocrisy, who dares to preach that the God to whom he — and we, most of us — pray is a God who does not hear the prayers of those beseeching violence, who speak in the language of hatred.

this is a serious moment. as sobering as any i might have known, having been born not too, too long after the holocaust’s pall still cast its shadow. this is a conflagration on the planet. how surreal that as the world is on fire, the faraway space travelers cannot make out the strife. all they see is a blue orb floating amid the heavens. as it was meant to be by the one who imagined it into creation.

we humans are not new to evil. it has long streamed through our veins. the very purpose of religion, from the beginning, might have been to curb it. to dilute it. to turn the mothership in a new direction. away from a natural pull, the pull of destruction, of petty jealousies and sordid acts.

were i not a believer in a God of mercy, a God who preaches the beatitudes—be merciful, be humble, comfort the afflicted, seek and see the divinity in the outcast, the leper, the prostitute, yes even the tax collector—maybe i too would seek vengeance.

coming after decades of watching religions go awry, balloon into megachurches that preach the prosperity gospel, after decades of witnessing the horrors of priests who abused their flocks, of imagining a God weeping over all of it, here comes a moment, where the world stripped of the divine, a world ruled by avarice and gilded toilets is caving in on itself, i am not alone in hearing one brave voice rising over the din.

it is the collective voice of those who will not succumb to the demonic. who call for putting down guns, turning swords into plowshares.

those voices have ever been. across the timeline of history, there is a chain unbroken of pacifists. their volumes rise and fall. we need listen. tune our ears to their cry.

this all came rushing to me when i stumbled this week on a lament written some time in the first three centuries of the Common Era. it is a lament found in the writings of the platonic philosopher apuleius as a dialogue between teacher and student, between the ancient greek hermes trismegistus (a hellenistic figure drawn from the wisdom gods of the greek hermes and the egyptian thoth) and asclepius (the greco-roman god of medicine and the healing arts), illuminating a lament for what had become of egypt, a “land, which once was holy, a land which loved the gods, and wherein alone, in reward for her devotion, the gods deigned to sojourn upon earth, a land which was the teacher of mankind in holiness and piety, this land will go beyond all in cruel deeds.”

listen for the resonance with our own broken moment in time…as trismegistus cries out to his student, asclepius: “do you weep at this?”

O Egypt, Egypt, of thy religion nothing will remain but an empty tale, which thine own children in time to come will not believe; nothing will be left but graven words, and only the stones will tell of thy piety. And in that day men will be weary of life, and they will cease to think the universe worthy of reverent wonder and of worship. And so religion, the greatest of all blessings, for there is nothing, nor has been, nor ever shall be, that can be deemed a greater boon, will be threatened with destruction; men will think it a burden, and will come to scorn it. They will no longer love this world around us, this incomparable work of God, this glorious structure which he has built, this sum of good made up of things of many diverse forms, this instrument whereby the will of God operates in that which be has made, ungrudgingly favouring man’s welfare, this combination and accumulation of all the manifold things that can call forth the veneration, praise, and love of the beholder.

Darkness will be preferred to light, and death will be thought more profitable than life; no one will raise his eyes to heaven ; the pious will be deemed insane, and the impious wise; the madman will be thought a brave man, and the wicked will be esteemed as good. As to the soul, and the belief that it is immortal by nature, or may hope to attain to immortality, as I have taught you, all this they will mock at, and will even persuade themselves that it is false. No word of reverence or piety, no utterance worthy of heaven and of the gods of heaven, will be heard or believed.

heed the ancient and timeless prophecy. our moment is now to bring our voices—shaky, sodden, hoarse from all our trying to be heard—to the cry of those who line up on the side of love, of mercy, of sowing the seeds of all that is good.

or else, weep without end.

what voices have called to you this week? and what’s made you weep?

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March 27, 2026

peacemaking in a time of war—of endless, endless war. . .

Robert Spence, *George Fox on the Hay-stack*, circa 1911. Etching on paper. Courtesy of *Friends Journal* archives.

i am late to history. whilst the rest of my college compatriots were piled into an old theatre, inhaling the histories of the war-torn globe, dissecting allegiances and alliances, double crossings and shots fired in the night, i and the rest of the pre-STEM nurses were across four lanes of traffic in yet another old building taking in the particulars of microbiology. or anatomy and physiology. or pharmacology.

little, really, did those lectures teach me about the ways of the world outside the hospital ward. for that the jesuits poured us volumes and volumes of theology. i drank thirstily.

but still i didn’t learn much of a thinker—don’t remember a single mention—who made me think this week. made me stop in my tracks and think hard about the evil impulses that abound, the ones that have not been tamed over the many, many millennia. the ones that make me wonder just how, oh how, can we make a dent in their oncoming velocities, those of us who consider ourselves, in this thinker’s words, “the hidden [] of the heart and the meek and quiet spirit.” those of us, in my words, who aim to bring light, to turn the other cheek (yes, i still believe in it, despite the many many times i’ve been told that’s a fool’s game), to be in our own tiny, tiny way “instruments of peace, sowers of love, of pardon,” and maybe a droplet of hope.

perhaps the jesuits weren’t steeped in the ways of the quakers. or perhaps i’d signed up for the classes that left george fox off the syllabus.

george fox, you might know, is the 17th-century founder of the quakers, those peaceful peoples who’ve not let the war-torn centuries tear at their steadfast conviction that peace, not war, is the way. and while i don’t know much about their volumes of wisdom or tradition, i do know that reading this passage from the journals of george fox, a passage written in 1650 while he was imprisoned in derby, england, for blasphemy, i was stirred by its echoes in this godawful moment where iran and the u.s., iran and israel, israel and lebanon, israel and gaza, russia and ukraine, grow uglier and crueler with their seemingly bottomless arsenals of war.

this is the plea of george fox, words that arose as he sat in a silence he’d carved in his prison cell:

What a world is this: they have lost the hidden man of the heart and the meek and quiet spirit, which is of the Lord, of great price. I saw how the powers were plucking each other to pieces. And I saw how many men were destroying the simplicity and betraying the truth. And a great deal of hypocrisy, deceit and strife was got uppermost in people that they were ready to sheath their swords in one another’s bowels. Therefore be still a while from thy own thoughts, searching seeking, desires and imaginations and be stayed in the power of God in thee, to stay thy mind upon God, up to God, and you will find strength from Him and find him to be a present help in time of trouble, in need, and to be a God at hand.

“be stayed in the power of God in thee,” an instructive to plumb the holy well within, the one i too am convinced is at the core of us, all of us, if we work to tap into it, if we allow it to infuse the whole of us, to be just one tiny, 5-foot-3, 100-some-pound, vessel of all that is, by any definition, Godly. it’s an instruction not unexpected from a man whose most quoted line is his assertion that “there is that of God in everyone.”

amen, amen i say to that.

but what of those who seem hellbent on squelching it? those who crisscross the country—and the globe—preaching that empathy is for fools, claim it “a fundamental weakness of western civilization”? who puff their chests and bellow their war plan: “death and destruction from the sky all day long.” and go on to explain, to whom i cannot fathom, “this was never meant to be a fair fight, and it is not a fair fight. we are punching them while they’re down, which is exactly how it should be.” and who claim, “we negotiate with bombs,” and claim as their motto: “maximum lethality not tepid legality.” those ready to “sheath their swords in one another’s bowels.”

might we resurrect saint francis and put him in charge? pair him with george fox? send the warmongers off to mars, long known as “the war planet” anyway, drenched as it is in the color of blood (the residue of iron oxide, actually), named after the roman god of war, though he represented honorable conflict, a notion lost on those currently dropping the bombs, launching the deadliest of drones.

so how, amidst all the horrors, do i find hope, even a speck of it? i align myself with the millennia-long lineage of this who turn their backs on the bomb-droppers, who fix in my crosshairs the likes of history’s peacemakers and keepers, the jesuses and george foxes, the francis of assisis and the solomons, the gandhis and thích nhất hạnhs.

i know we’re but one. but one + one + one eventually equals a counterforce.

our time is short. our mission steep. and the half-life of love is as long as the quiet turning of the cheek, the unheralded random act of goodness, of mercy, of tender loving care, and unbroken attention to the brokenness that leaves us in pieces.

Therefore be still a while from thy own thoughts, searching seeking, desires and imaginations and be stayed in the power of God in thee, to stay thy mind upon God, up to God, and you will find strength from Him and find him to be a present help in time of trouble, in need, and to be a God at hand.

“to be a God at hand”….

amen.

who or what guides you in the countercultural ways of peace, the ways where empathy is among the highest holiest of graces?

i love this last weekend of march, for two of my most deeply beloveds will blow out their birthday candles on back-to-back bday cakes. sweet p today, and tomorrow it’s auntie mullane, the one who taught me how it feels to be loved, deeply, tenderly loved, a whole half century ago. if either of them was in charge, ours would be a world where every blessed day was as gentle on the heart, and as glowingly radiant as any of us could ever, ever imagine…..

sweet P and auntie M, my alphabet of beloveds…..

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February 6, 2026

february’s challenge: in need of miracles, giggles, and the wisdom of an elder

lupercalia: purification rite of ancient rome

i am, in most any year, a serious proponent of the purification month, the one you know as february (from the latin, februum, “to purify”) when in ancient times the romans gathered in a cave above the city, tucked into the palatine hill, intent on purifying the city during what, at the time, had been the last month of the year. the name, curiously enough, is attached to the instruments of purification known as the februa, or thongs cut from the flayed skin of a sacrificial wolf, which, even more curiously, were donned by a certain flock of priests (the luperci, named for this brotherly cult of the wolves) who, after a blood sacrifice at the lupercal altar, then ran counterclockwise around the palatine hill. as if all this isn’t curious enough, outside the cave where all this purification and fertility was underway, there stood a statue of rumina, goddess of breastfeeding (who knew?!), and the wild fig tree thought to have somehow saved romulus and remus, the twins raised by wolves.

did i mention that as the mostly naked wolfly priests ran their reverse-circle routes, an array of bare-armed. bare-backed women darted into their paths, hoping to be flogged with leather straps. all in the name of a.) fertility for the barren, or b.) ease of childbirth for those “with child”?

no less than plutarch, the esteemed greek philosopher and biographer of the time, described the scene thusly:

…many of the noble youths and of the magistrates run up and down through the city naked, for sport and laughter striking those they meet with shaggy thongs. And many women of rank also purposely get in their way, and like children at school present their hands to be struck, believing that the pregnant will thus be helped in delivery, and the barren to pregnancy.

as i was saying: in most any year, i welcome the second month. say bring it on, short string of days when groundhogs, lincoln logs, and construction-paper hearts punctuate the month.

but this, alas, is not any year, and this february finds us dragging. or i am anyway. the world has gone kerpluey. and things at home bump along. whereas the festival of hearts, the mid-month apogee, comes just in time to fill the empty tank, this year the nearly empty is already upon us. and we’re not yet one week in.

i need hope. and joy. and a good dose of self-inflicted wisdom.

and, indeed, as it so often does, the universe came to the rescue. this week, in the form of walt whitman, the idiosyncratic, oft-long-winded bard; a close laboratory look at the evolution of the human giggle; and not least, the wisdom of one abigail thomas, an octogenarian and memoirist who brings us still life at eighty.

in keeping with the counterclockwise spirit of the wolf priests, let us take on this trio in reverse order, beginning with ms. thomas, the daughter of the late great lewis thomas, the physician, scientist, and essayist who gave us a masterpiece of the twentieth century, lives of a cell: notes of a biology watcher, the collection of 29 mindbogglingly beautiful essays originally published in the new england journal of medicine.

i’d not known of lewis’ daughter abigail until last weekend, sitting in a writerly circle in a big old manse at the edge of lake michigan’s icy shoreline, when one of the writerly women expressed shock and pure dismay that i’d not yet read her, miss abigail that is. she’s a “brilliant memoirist” i was told. “you must read her,” i was told.

i needed no further prompting.

now, six days later, i’ve got abigail clutched between my fists, and i can attest that she is, at eighty-four now, as hilarious and wise an essayist as i’ve read in a good long while. and she is precisely what the good doctor order.

for instance:

she goes on this way, randomly throwing in the unexpected F-word, or the sh** word, whisking wisdom in among the curiosities and musings, for 191 pages.

next up: giggles.

i doubledare you to click on any one of these glorious giggles, and not break out in joy like no other. took me straight back to the kitchen island where, back in 1993, the glorious human strapped into his baby seat took one look at me and burst into a full-on gale of giggles. oh, my beloved firstborn, how you slayed me to the core. all these many many gray matters and synapses later, and the sound of that first belly laugh i still can hear looping and re-looping in my mind’s ear.

a close look at life’s first laughs:

and, at last, we come to mr. whitman, who brings us to his short course in miracles. and ticks us through the litany of everyday wonders. that some days just might save us.

even on the dreariest of february days in the twenty-sixth year after the second millennium….

MIRACLES

Why, who makes much of a miracle?
As to me I know of nothing else but miracles,
Whether I walk the streets of Manhattan,
Or dart my sight over the roofs of houses toward the sky,
Or wade with naked feet along the beach just in the edge of the water,
Or stand under trees in the woods,
Or talk by day with any one I love, or sleep in the bed at night with any one I love,
Or sit at table at dinner with the rest,
Or look at strangers opposite me riding in the car,
Or watch honey-bees busy around the hive of a summer forenoon,
Or animals feeding in the fields,
Or birds, or the wonderfulness of insects in the air,
Or the wonderfulness of the sundown, or of stars shining so quiet and bright,
Or the exquisite delicate thin curve of the new moon in spring;
These with the rest, one and all, are to me miracles,
The whole referring, yet each distinct and in its place.

To me every hour of the light and dark is a miracle,
Every cubic inch of space is a miracle,
Every square yard of the surface of the earth is spread with the same,
Every foot of the interior swarms with the same.

To me the sea is a continual miracle,
The fishes that swim—the rocks—the motion of the waves—the ships with men in them,
What stranger miracles are there?

+ Walt Whitman

don’t mind me if from now on i think of february as the month of the thong. the counterclockwise dash aimed at purity and fertility.

where did you find light or levity this week?

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January 30, 2026

end notes

for weeks now, i’ve been toiling on the latest iteration of the manuscript for a book in gestation*. and this week, i came to the writerly part known as the “end notes,” as in dotting every i, and crossing every t, to be certain all is as clean as clean could possibly be.

and, most of all, should anyone someday reading said book become curious about the source of this or that line, the author (that would be me in this case) must leave a perfectly followable trail of breadcrumbs through the woods, so that the curious someone can find exactly the spot where i, the author, once found those very words.

in other words, fastidiousness is not negotiable. it is a must. (and i might as well sleep with the chicago manual of style, 18th edition, under my pillow, for i consult it every other breath, at a minimum.)

per than manual’s strict instruction, and to be sure that every last page i cite is the exact page in the exact edition of each and every book in my notes, i have been skittering hither and yon to those temples of bookshelves known as public libraries.

i gather up books by the armload, and haul them off to a library table, where i dutifully record (in image and scribble) all pertinent info.

of all the books i’ve scooped up and returned to the shelves, there was one—and only one—that i chose to haul home once again. it called me to do what i’m not so adept at doing these days: to dilly and dally inside its pages. to read for the holy essence of it, not merely to cross off the last of the end notes (currently numbering 103).

the book i brought home was the gift: poems by hafiz the great sufi master, translated by daniel ladinsky. and it is exactly what it purports to be: a gift.

its poems, quite often, are short, not too taxing on the eyes or the brain. and yet, and yet, they do pack a wallop. concentratedly so.

in this era of emotional saturation, when every day seems to bring reams and volumes of terrible news, a droplet of wallop is just about all i can swallow.

but even before i got to the poems, it was the backstory of the sufi master that held me. (sufiism, in the west, is regarded as a form of islamic mysticism; its name is derived from the farsi word meaning “wisdom,” “purity,” or, curiously, “wool,” so drawn from the coarse woolen garments of wandering dervishes.)

hafiz, a persian poet of the 14th century, has been called “a poet for poets” by emerson, who wrote “he fears nothing. he sees too far; he sees throughout. . .” goethe enthused that hafiz “has inscribed undeniable truth indelibly,” and called him “mystically pure.”

such superlatives can get you in trouble, it seems. it’s estimated that 90 percent of his work was destroyed over the centuries by clerics and rulers who disapproved of what he wrote in his poems.

“hafiz was viewed as a great threat, a spiritual rebel, whose insights emancipate his readers from the clutches of those in power—those who exploit the innocent with insane religious propaganda. for hafiz reveals a God with a billion I.Q.—a God that would never cripple us with guilt or control us with fear.” so writes ladinsky in his preface.

it’s said that hafiz’s poetry can be read “as a record of a human being’s journey to perfect joy, perfect learning, and perfect love.”

that’s a journey for which i’ll buy a ticket.

here are a few stops (poems) you might find along the way:

the lessons from 14th-century persia: hold tight to each other, for that is love; allow the light to unfurl your beauty; every cell in all of us, in all creation, yearns for God—or however you name the Holy Being, the Author of Us All.

sustenance in small sips: more than plenty for this day.

what inspired you to hold on this week?

*the book in gestation, you might have read here earlier, though i’ve yet to officially unveil it, is for now titled When Evening Comes: An Urgent Call to Love (Brazos Books, Spring 2027), and it’s a book about being broken open (by whatever the cause) and discovering that in between the brokenness, amid the puzzle of shards, a light finds its way in. i’m currently on the third round of edits with the main editor, and soon will be moving to copy editing, and then production, when the boxes of books will land plop on my stoop. call me crazy (a redundant suggestion perhaps) but i tend to find the imperative fastidiousness of end notes an exercise as delightful, engrossing, and challenging as a 100-piece jigsaw puzzle. in this case, 103 pieces.

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January 23, 2026

apologia to the world

“polioplus” (1991), bronze sculpture by glenna goodacre

dear world,

i fear we must be seeming pretty ugly these days, those of us of huddled here in this nation built on what we’d deemed monumental pillars that would not, could not, be crumbled.

but for all the world, and certainly from the wobbly chair where i sit, the granite, the marble, the impenetrable ore looks to be crumbling into fine, chalky bits.

i am—we are—so, so sorry.

mortified is more like it.

in the last 48 hours, i’ve heard the titular head of the land once home of the free labeled a.) “a national embarrassment,” b.) “unhinged,” c.) and the right-wing belgian prime minister put it this way: “it’s up to him to decide if he wants to be a monster, yes or no.”

of our american president’s words from the podium in ski spa switzerland, even the conservative bret stephens of the new york times wrote that it “sounded, in places, as if it had been ghostwritten by mario puzo [author of epic crime-family novel, the godfather]. wrapped in self-aggrandizing boasts and exaggerations, along with ugly jibes, meandering asides and shopworn grievances, lay a premeditated threat worthy of a padrino [mob boss]: ‘you can say ‘yes’ and we will be very appreciative,’ the president said, in reference to his demand for greenland. ‘or you can say ‘no’ and we will remember.’”

the so-called “board of peace,” convened by our very own national embarrassment, has been populated by “three ex-soviet apparatchiks, two military-backed regimes, and a leader [wanted for] war crimes,” according to the financial times. with an entry fee of one billion per pop. peace needn’t be so exclusive a club.

let me put this plainly (and plaintively): we are not, most of us, bullies. we are not always crude. we do not lie awake at night imaging the gilding of our toilet bowl, our hearth, the chairs upon which we perch.

the people i know here—plenty of them anyways—will race you to the ER on a second’s notice, ferry in casseroles of steaming hot chicken and dumplings, and should someone without a home need a warm shower, clean clothes, and a sandwich, well, my street number is 522.

my distaste for bullies is not new. i’ve had a lifelong aversion. could sniff out a skunk in disguise as far back as first grade.

in the house where i grew up we made shoebox hospitals for dinged baby birds, and cardboard villages (complete with a church and a steeple) for ladybugs who’d shimmied in through open windows. oh, and early on we were taught the tenth commandment: “thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s goods.” so i went to confession to divulge to the priest my longing for my next-door-neighbor’s rainbow-colored toothpicks. yes, toothpicks. (a counting device in first grade, so mandated by the nuns.)

and believe you me, toothpicks pale in comparison to coveting the island nation of the arctic north, where threats have been made and the stomping of combat boots could be heard in the distance.

all i’m trying to say, dear world, is that we too are shuddering, and shaking our heads, and seeking any possible exit from this existential yet very real nightmare. and we are not, most of us, in any way, shape, or form seeing any bit of ourselves, our souls, reflected in this national madness.

we’re clanging the five-alarm fire bells. some days, weeping into our palms.

we yearn to return to the U.S. of Compassion, the flotillas and flanks that race to the rescue whenever, wherever, there’s rupture—earthly or otherwise.

there’s a statue i pass on the way to church (or trader joe’s) of a kindhearted doctor, (you can sense the kindness even in passing by; i’d imagined it to be dr. jonas salk, developer of the polio vaccine, though turns out it’s just your basic good doctor) with wee ones clambering onto his lap, as he plunges a dose of vaccine into the mouth of one of the babes, part of a worldwide effort to eradicate the godawful scourge. it makes me weep when i pass it now. as it’s the antithesis of our national policy and our re-ordered global health agenda, and i cannot believe that in my lifetime i am watching this obsolescence.

i fear you’ll shove us from your sidewalks, should we dare to set foot in your lands. i fear you’ll see hate when you look at my weathering face.

and i’ll understand. though it will crush me.

all i want you to know is that we are, mostly and deeply, a rather good people. and if there’s anything you ever need, please knock at my door. i promise gentle, warm welcome. and chicken and dumplings to go.

speaking of scandinavian environs, it just so happens that i found a breathtakingly beautiful poem from a reclusive norwegian poet, emil boyson, as i was reading one of my favorite new thinkers recently. my poet friend kathleen hirsch pointed me to norwegian bishop erik varden a while back, and ever since, his wisdom illuminates my days. this poem was found in varden’s 2023 book, Chastity).

i love that it speaks to that delicate beauty inside all of us, a beauty that we ourselves often shy away from, demur. but in truth we yearn to be seen, and maybe most important to see for ourselves our tender, unbreakable beauties. it sounds to me as if some celestial wisdom, maybe God, is speaking in whisper to a precious child who is blind to her own beauties.

here tis:

To the Body
by Emil Boyson

Life is made bearable because, in this world, you exist.
You are the hidden songbird.
You are the new moon’s beauty.
You are the white cloud of yearning.
You are the tornado that pulls us out of ourselves and lets our sweet pain know that all will be changed like a garment and that one day when fate’s measure is full the face of this world must pass.

Who would have thought that YOU, who hold in your hand ultimate secrets known otherwise to God alone,
should be a shy young girl whom thousands pass in the street,
about whom nought is known except that you like crosswords,
do housework for your mother, speak sense about the weather,
and knit little vests for the child your sister expects in March.

Are you never fearful, in the quiet of the night, of your being’s enigma?
Is it your unfurrowed brow that obliges us to brood?
What do you know of questions and answers?
You smile as you pass on your way to reality’s frontier, strangely united with your fate;
while our hearts quiver you are again transformed,
finding, lost in a freedom you have never sought to fathom,
the rigorous paradigm of grace made one with your body,
then collapsing as if dead at the end of your last dance.

what brought any droplet of anti-madness to your world this week?

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Category: antidotes to madness

May 29, 2026

etch-a-sketch days